Mphepo yam'nyanja imadutsa tsitsi la Marina. Zabwino bwanji pagombe! Kusangalala koteroko sikuthamangira kulikonse, kuika zala zanu mumchenga, kumvetsera phokoso la mafunde. Koma chilimwe ndi kutali, koma panopa Marina amangofuna tchuthi. Kunja ndi Januwale, dzuwa lowala lachisanu limawala pawindo. Marina, monga ambiri a ife, amakonda kulota. Koma n’chifukwa chiyani kuli kovuta kwa tonsefe kukhala ndi chimwemwe pano ndi tsopano?
Nthawi zambiri timalota: za tchuthi, za tchuthi, za misonkhano yatsopano, za kugula. Zithunzi zachisangalalo chongoganizira zimayambitsa neurotransmitter dopamine mu dongosolo lathu lamanjenje. Ndi ya dongosolo la mphotho ndipo chifukwa chake, tikalota, timamva chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo. Daydreaming ndi njira yosavuta komanso yosavuta yosinthira malingaliro anu, kusokoneza mavuto ndikukhala nokha. Kodi cholakwika ndi chiyani ndi izi?
Nthawi zina Marina amakumbukira ulendo wake wam'mbuyo wopita kunyanja. Iye ankamuyembekezera kwambiri, ankamulakalaka kwambiri. N'zomvetsa chisoni kuti si zonse zomwe anakonza kuti zigwirizane ndi zenizeni. Chipindacho chinakhala chosiyana ndi chomwe chili pachithunzichi, gombe silili labwino kwambiri, tawuni ... Ambiri, panali zodabwitsa zambiri - osati zonse zosangalatsa.
Timasangalala poyang'ana zithunzi zabwino kwambiri zomwe malingaliro athu adapanga. Koma anthu ambiri amawona chododometsa: nthawi zina maloto amakhala osangalatsa kuposa kukhala nawo. Nthawi zina, titalandira zomwe tikufuna, timakhumudwitsidwa, chifukwa zenizeni sizimafanana ndi zomwe malingaliro athu adajambula.
Zowona zimatikhudza mosayembekezereka komanso mosiyanasiyana. Sitinakonzekere izi, tinalota za china. Chisokonezo ndi zokhumudwitsa mukakumana ndi maloto ndi malipiro chifukwa sitidziwa momwe tingasangalalire ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku kuchokera kuzinthu zenizeni - momwe zilili.
Marina amazindikira kuti nthawi zambiri sakhala pano ndi pano, pakali pano: amalota zamtsogolo kapena amakumbukira. Nthawi zina zimawoneka kwa iye kuti moyo ukudutsa, kuti n'kulakwa kukhala m'maloto, chifukwa kwenikweni nthawi zambiri amasanduka ephemeral. Amafuna kusangalala ndi chinachake chenicheni. Bwanji ngati chisangalalo sichili m'maloto, koma panopa? Mwina kusangalala ndi luso Marina alibe?
Timayang'ana kwambiri pakukhazikitsa mapulani ndikuchita zinthu zambiri "modzidzimutsa". Timalowa m'malingaliro am'mbuyomu ndi zam'tsogolo ndikusiya kuwona zomwe zili pano - zomwe zili pafupi nafe komanso zomwe zikuchitika m'miyoyo yathu.
M'zaka zaposachedwapa, asayansi akhala akufufuza mwakhama zotsatira za kusinkhasinkha mwanzeru, njira yochokera kukulitsa kuzindikira zenizeni, pa moyo wa munthu.
Maphunzirowa anayamba ndi ntchito ya pulofesa wa sayansi ya zamoyo pa yunivesite ya Massachusetts John Kabat-Zinn. Iye ankakonda machitidwe a Chibuda ndipo adatha kutsimikizira mwasayansi mphamvu ya kusinkhasinkha kwamaganizo kuti achepetse kupsinjika maganizo.
Chizoloŵezi cha kulingalira ndikusamutsira kwathunthu chidwi ku nthawi yamakono, popanda kudziyesa nokha kapena zenizeni.
Ma psychotherapists ozindikira-khalidwe adayamba kugwiritsa ntchito bwino njira zina za kusinkhasinkha mwanzeru pantchito yawo ndi makasitomala. Njirazi zilibe chipembedzo, sizifuna malo a lotus ndi zina zapadera. Zimakhazikitsidwa ndi chidwi chozindikira, chomwe Jon Kabat-Zinn amatanthauza "kutengera chidwi chonse pa nthawi ino - popanda kudziyesa nokha kapena zenizeni."
Mutha kudziwa nthawi yomwe ilipo nthawi iliyonse: kuntchito, kunyumba, poyenda. Chisamaliro chikhoza kukhazikitsidwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana: pa mpweya wanu, chilengedwe, zomverera. Chinthu chachikulu ndikutsata nthawi zomwe chidziwitso chimalowa m'njira zina: kuwunika, kukonzekera, kulingalira, kukumbukira, kukambirana kwamkati - ndikubwezeretsanso zomwe zilipo.
Kafukufuku wa Kabat-Zinn wasonyeza kuti anthu omwe aphunzitsidwa kusinkhasinkha amakhala bwino kuti apirire nkhawa, kuchepetsa nkhawa ndi chisoni, ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala osangalala kuposa kale.
Lero ndi Loweruka, Marina sakufulumira ndikumwa khofi yam'mawa. Amakonda kulota ndipo sadzasiya - maloto amathandiza Marina kusunga m'mutu mwake chithunzi cha zolinga zomwe akuyesetsa kuti akwaniritse.
Koma tsopano Marina akufuna kuphunzira momwe angakhalire osangalala osati poyembekezera, koma kuchokera kuzinthu zenizeni, kotero amakulitsa luso latsopano - chidwi chozindikira.
Marina amayang'ana mozungulira khitchini yake ngati kuti akuwona koyamba. Zitseko za buluu za ma facades zimawunikira kuwala kwa dzuwa kuchokera pawindo. Kunja kwa zenera, mphepo ikugwedeza nduwira za mitengo. Mtengo wofunda ukugunda padzanja. Kungakhale koyenera kutsuka zenera sill - Marina chidwi amazembera kutali, ndipo iye akuyamba chizolowezi kukonzekera zinthu. Imani - Marina akubwerera kumizidwa kosaweruza pakadali pano.
Iye akutenga chikho m'manja mwake. Kuyang'ana pa chitsanzo. Amayang'anitsitsa zolakwika za ceramic. Kumwa khofi. Amamva mithunzi ya kukoma, ngati kumwa izo kwa nthawi yoyamba mu moyo wake. Amaona kuti nthawi yatha.
Marina akumva kuti ali yekhayekha. Zimakhala ngati wayenda ulendo wautali ndipo wabwera kunyumba.