Zamkatimu
Ali ndi zaka 10-12, mwanayo amasiya kutimvera. Nthawi zambiri sitidziwa zomwe akufuna, zomwe akuchita, zomwe akuganiza - ndipo timaopa kuphonya ma alarm. Nchiyani chikukulepheretsani kulumikizana?
1. Pali kusintha kwa thupi
Ngakhale kuti kawirikawiri ubongo umapangidwa ndi zaka 12, njirayi imatsirizidwa pambuyo pa makumi awiri. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, ma lobes a kutsogolo kwa cortex, madera a ubongo omwe amalamulira zilakolako zathu ndipo ali ndi udindo wokhoza kukonzekera zam'tsogolo, akupitirizabe kukula kwambiri.
Koma kuyambira ali ndi zaka 12, zotupa zogonana "zimayatsidwa". Chifukwa cha zimenezi, wachichepereyo amalephera kulamulira kusinthasintha kwa malingaliro obwera chifukwa cha mphepo yamkuntho ya mahomoni, katswiri wa sayansi ya ubongo David Servan-Schreiber anatsutsa m’buku lakuti “The Body Loves the Truth”1.
2. Ifenso timakulitsa zovuta zolankhulana.
Tikamalankhula ndi wachinyamata, timatengera mzimu wotsutsana. "Koma mwanayo amangoyang'ana yekha, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndipo abambo, mwachitsanzo, akulimbana kale molimbika, pogwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zake zonse ndi mphamvu zake," anatero katswiri wamaganizo Svetlana Krivtsova.
Chitsanzo chotsatirachi ndi pamene, poyesa kuteteza mwana ku zolakwa, makolo amawonetsa zomwe adakumana nazo paubwana wawo. Komabe, zokumana nazo zokha zingathandize chitukuko.
3. Tikufuna kumuchitira ntchito yake.
“Mwana ali bwino. Ayenera kukulitsa "I" wake, kuti azindikire ndikuvomereza malire ake. Ndipo makolo ake akufuna kumuchitira ntchito imeneyi, "analongosola Svetlana Krivtsova.
Ndithudi, wachinyamatayo amatsutsa zimenezo. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, masiku ano makolo amaulutsira mwanayo mauthenga osamveka amene n’zosatheka kuwakwaniritsa: “Khala wosangalala! Pezani zomwe mumakonda! » Koma iye sangathe kuchita izi, kwa iye iyi ndi ntchito yosatheka, psychotherapist amakhulupirira.
4. Tili pansi pa nthano yakuti achinyamata amanyalanyaza akuluakulu.
Kafukufuku wa akatswiri a zamaganizo ku yunivesite ya Illinois (USA) anasonyeza kuti achinyamata samangotsutsana ndi chisamaliro cha makolo, koma, mosiyana, amayamikira kwambiri.2. Funso ndilakuti tikuwonetsa bwanji chidwi ichi.
"Ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa zomwe zimawadetsa nkhawa tisanatenge mphamvu zonse zophunzitsira zomwe zimatidetsa nkhawa. Ndiponso kuleza mtima ndi chikondi chowonjezereka,” analemba motero David Servan-Schreiber.
1 D. Servan-Schreiber «Thupi limakonda choonadi» (Ripol classic, 2014).
2 J. Caughlin, R. Malis «Kufuna/Kusiya Kuyankhulana Pakati pa Makolo ndi Achinyamata: Kugwirizana ndi Kudzidalira Ndi Kugwiritsa Ntchito Mankhwala, Journal Of Social & Personal Relationships, 2004.