Chifukwa chiyani mumakopa anthu opanda nzeru komanso momwe mungakonzere

Kodi mukudabwa kuti mwazunguliridwa ndi anthu "oopsa"? Amakupwetekani, mumawakhululukiranso ndikuyembekeza kuti sizichitikanso, koma amakupwetekaninso ndipo simudziwa momwe mungachokere muzochitikazi. Munali pachifundo cha ubalewu chifukwa cha makhalidwe anu abwino.

Simuli nokha - ndakhala ndikukumana nazo nthawi zambiri. Mnzanga wina ankandiimbira foni nthawi iliyonse imene akufuna thandizo ndipo ndinavomera kuti ndimuthandize. Koma chifukwa chakuti nthawi zonse ankandisokoneza ndi mavuto ake kunandifooketsa mphamvu.

Kenako ndinaphunzira kudziikira malire ndi kukana popanda kudziimba mlandu. Ndinazindikira kuti mnzanga anali kundigwiritsa ntchito chifukwa chofunitsitsa kundithandiza, ndipo kuzindikira zimenezi kunandithandiza kuthetsa ubwenzi umene unali wotopetsa ndi kundivutitsa.

Sindikufuna kupondereza chikhumbo chofuna kuthandiza okondedwa ngati sangathe kubwezera zomwezo. Ndiyesetsa kukuphunzitsani mmene kukana «poizoni» anthu.

Mumawakopa pazifukwa zotsatirazi.

1. MUMAPEREKA NTHAWI YANU NDI ENA

Kuwolowa manja ndi kudzikonda ndi makhalidwe abwino, koma anthu "oopsa" amakopeka ndi kukoma mtima ndi ulemu. Atakopa chidwi chanu, ayamba kufuna zambiri, muyenera kuyankha pempho lililonse, uthenga, SMS, kalata, kuyimba foni. Mukamagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yambiri pa iwo, mudzakhumudwa kwambiri, mudzakhala otopa komanso okwiya. Dziwani zosowa zanu ndi malingaliro anu, pangani malire pang'onopang'ono, ndipo nenani "ayi" pazopempha zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osamasuka.

Kumanga malire kumakhala kovuta: zikuwoneka kwa ife chinthu chodzikonda. Kumbukirani malangizo a zochitika zadzidzidzi pouluka: muyenera kuvala chigoba, ndiyeno pokhapo muthandize ena, ngakhale ana anu omwe. Mapeto ake ndi osavuta: simungapulumutse ena pofuna thandizo. Mukakhala ndi mphamvu zambiri, mungathe kuchita zambiri, kuphatikizapo kuthandiza anthu ambiri, osati anthu opanda nzeru komanso ma vampire amphamvu.

2. NDIWE WOKHULUPIRIKA NDI WOONA MALOTO

Ngati muli ndi maloto, ndiye kuti mungakope anthu opanda nzeru. Iwo amene anataya maloto awo ndi kutaya cholinga chawo m’moyo. Mukagawana nawo malingaliro, adzakuwonani kukhala wongoganiza bwino komanso wodzikuza. Mantha ndi mthandizi wawo, ayesa kuletsa kukwaniritsidwa kwa maloto anu. Mukamayesetsa kwambiri kukwaniritsa cholingacho, m'pamenenso kuukira kwawo kumakhala koopsa.

Osagawana malingaliro ndi anthu omwe awonetsa "zowopsa" zawo. Khalani tcheru, yesetsani kuti musagwere mumsampha wa mafunso awo. Dzizungulireni ndi omwe ali ndi cholinga, omwe akugwira ntchito mwakhama kuti akwaniritse maloto. Anthu oterowo amathandizira ntchito ndikupereka chidaliro.

3. MUMAONA ZABWINO KWA ANTHU

Nthawi zambiri timaganiza kuti ena ndi okoma mtima. Koma nthawi zina timakumana ndi mbali yamdima ya umunthu, zomwe zimapangitsa chidaliro chathu kugwedezeka. Kodi zimakuvutani kuvomereza kuti ena angakhale adyera kapena osakhulupirika? Kodi munakhalapo paubwenzi ndi munthu wa narcissist mukuyembekeza kuti munthuyu asintha? Ndinkaona anthu a "poizoni" ngati gawo la moyo wanga ndipo ndinkaganiza kuti ndiyenera kusintha kuti ndigwirizane nawo ndi kuwavomereza ndi zolakwa zawo zonse. Tsopano ndikudziwa kuti sichoncho.

Khulupirirani chidziwitso chanu: chidzakuuzani komwe muli pachiwopsezo. Osapondereza malingaliro anu. Izi zitha kukhala zovuta poyamba: kuganiza kwanu mwachilengedwe kwa ena kungakupangitseni mantha komanso kukwiyitsidwa. Dzikhulupirireni nokha. Lolani chidziwitso chanu chikutetezeni ku zowawa zamaganizidwe zomwe zimabwera ndi ubale wapoizoni.

4. NDIWE WABWINO

Mukunena kuti zonse ndi zabwino pomwe simukuganiza choncho? Kodi mumakhala odekha komanso oleza mtima pamavuto, kuyesa kusokoneza mlengalenga ndi nthabwala? Kudekha kwanu kumakopa omwe akufuna kuswa mwa kulamulira inu.

Ndinazindikira kuti chikondi changa pa ana chinandipangitsa kukhala chandamale chosavuta. Mwachitsanzo, nthaŵi ina ndinauza mnzanga kuti, “Ndikhoza kusunga ana ako nthaŵi iliyonse imene ukufuna,” ndipo zimenezo m’maganizo mwake zinasanduka “tsiku lililonse,” mosasamala kanthu za kukhala wotanganidwa chotani nanga. Mnzanga anagwiritsa ntchito kuyankha kwanga kuti apindule.

Yesetsani kuti musapereke mayankho anthawi yomweyo pazopempha, kupuma pang'ono, kulonjeza kuganiza. Mukatero mumapewa kukakamizidwa. Pambuyo pake, nonse mungavomereze ndi kuyankha kuti: “Pepani, koma sindingathe.”

Osalola anthu oopsa kukuuzani mawu anu, sungani zolinga zanu m'maganizo. Pitirizani kukhala achifundo komanso owolowa manja, koma pang'onopang'ono phunzirani kuzindikira anthu osafunira zabwino ndikutsazikana nawo.

Gwero: The Huffington Post.