Zamkatimu
Amakukondani, ndipo ali pafupi ndi inu, koma pamaso pa munthu uyu mumakumana ndi zovuta komanso manyazi. Kuchokera pa izi, mumagwera mumphuno ndipo simungathe kupitiriza kukambirana, kapena, m'malo mwake, mumayesa kudzigonjetsa nokha, kukhala olankhula komanso nthabwala, koma zikuwoneka kuti si zachibadwa. Ndipo ngakhale muzochitika zina za moyo muli ndi chidaliro chokwanira, chifukwa chiyani zimalephera pankhaniyi?
Marianna anati: “Ndinkaona kuti mnyamata amene tinkaphunzira naye ankakondana. - Pamene anandiitanira ku filimuyo, linali tsiku lathu loyamba, ndipo ndinali wamantha kwambiri. Anali wodziwa bwino zamakanema, ndipo mwadzidzidzi zinawoneka kwa ine kuti motsutsana ndi mbiri yake ndinawoneka ngati munthu wosakhwima maganizo ndi malingaliro oipa.
Kuwonjezera pamenepo, ndinkavutika maganizo kwambiri poganiza kuti andifufuza bwinobwino n’kuona kuti sindine wabwino monga mmene ankaganizira. Madzulo onse sindinathe kutulutsa mawu ndipo ndinali wokondwa pamene tinasiyana. Ubale wathu sunayende bwino.”
"Ngakhale kuti mkazi amafunitsitsa kuti ayambe chibwenzi ndipo amakonda mwamuna, mwadzidzidzi amakumana ndi mfundo yakuti sadziwa zoyenera kuchita," akutero Marina Myaus. - Izi ndizodziwika osati kwa atsikana okha - kuopa kuyanjana kumatha kuvutitsa mkazi akadzakula. Iye amasangalala kwambiri moti angowonjezera vutolo.”
Anna anavomereza kuti: “Ndinayamba kum’konda kwambiri ndipo ndinasiya kulankhula ndi iye. - Ndinakhala msonkhano uliwonse. Ndinayiwala zonse zapadziko lapansi, ngati kuti ndikupita kuntchito mu chifunga, sindinaone achibale anga ndi anzanga. Tanthauzo lonse la kukhalapo linachepetsedwa kukhala maitanidwe ake ndi misonkhano yathu. Ndinangopita ndi kutuluka ndipo, pamene ubale wathu unatha, kwa nthawi yaitali ndinadzisonkhanitsa chidutswa ndi chidutswa. Sindikanatha kukhala popanda mwamunayu.”
"Ngati mkazi woteroyo adatha kuyandikira kwa mwamuna ndipo ubale ukukula, samamvetsetsa momwe angachitire mopitirira," akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo. - Zotsatira zake, nthawi zambiri amalola maubwenzi apamtima asanakonzekere, amagwera m'chizoloŵezi cha chikondi, chifukwa samamva maganizo ake, sadziwona yekha mu mgwirizano uwu. Amasungunuka kwathunthu mwa mnzake ndikumuyang'ana ngati Mulungu, osatha kumva kupatukana kwake.
Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika?
Ubale ndi bambo
Ndikulankhulana ndi mwamuna wofunika kwambiri paubwana, bambo ake omwe, kuti mtsikana wamng'ono amaphunzira kumanga maubwenzi ndi abwenzi amtsogolo. Choncho, n'kofunika kwambiri kuti kuyambira ali mwana amamva kuti amakondedwa mopanda malire ndikuvomerezedwa ndi iye, amazindikira luso lake ndi kukongola kwake.
Kudziwonetsera koyamba kumeneku m’maso mwa abambo ake m’tsogolo kumathandiza mkazi kuzindikira kufunika kwake polankhulana ndi amuna ena. Ngati panalibe bambo kapena analipo m'moyo wa mtsikanayo, koma sanamumvere, amataya luso lofunika pa maubwenzi ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Zokonda za amayi
Nthawi zambiri kuopa kuyankhulana ndi amuna kumachokera pa chidani chosazindikira kwa iwo. Marina Myaus anati: “Mtsikana angakopeke ndi maganizo a mayi ake, amene anasudzula mwamuna wake n’kumuuza za kuipa kwa abambo ake mosiyanasiyana. “Zimenezi nthawi zambiri zimasakanikirana ndi mawu osasangalatsa onena za amuna ena, zomwe zimachititsa kuti mtsikanayo amakula ndi kusapeza bwino akamacheza kwambiri ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo.”
Kodi mungachoke bwanji m'dziko lino?
1. Kugonjetsa chisangalalo kudzakuthandizani kukhazikitsa chenicheni chakuti simukuyesayesa kumkondweretsa. Yang'anani kuti uwu ndi msonkhano wosagwirizana, ndipo musaganize ngakhale chitukuko chopambana komanso chosangalatsa cha zochitika. Kusunga zoyembekeza zanu kukhala zandale momwe mungathere kudzakuthandizani kukhala odzidalira komanso omasuka.
2. Ndikofunika kudutsa muzochitika zaubwenzi kapena ubwenzi ndi amuna kuti muwamvetse bwino. Yesetsani kupeza ndi kusunga mabwenzi oterowo omwe angathandize kukulitsa luso la kulankhulana momasuka.
3. Ndikofunikira kuyang'anitsitsa momwe mumamvera komanso zokhumba zanu ndikupanga chitonthozo chachikulu pakuchita ndi mwamuna.
"Mukayamba kukhala ndi moyo wodzikonda komanso wodzikonda, poganizira komwe mukufuna kupita lero, zomwe mungafune kuwona ndi kuchita, mudzakhala ndi chidaliro ndipo izi zidzakuthandizani kuthetsa kusamvana pakati panu. Kusamvana kwanu ndiye mdani wamkulu paubwenzi, "Marina Myaus ndi wotsimikiza.