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Tonsefe tinamva kuti nthawi ndi chuma chathu chamtengo wapatali kwambiri, chomwe sichingabwezedwe, sichingasinthidwe, ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo timapitiriza kugwiritsa ntchito mphindi zamtengo wapatali, maola ngakhale masiku kumanja ndi kumanzere. N’chifukwa chiyani zimenezi zikuchitika? Izi zimachitika chifukwa cha zolakwika zingapo zachidziwitso.
Izi zimachitika kwa ife tsiku lililonse. Mnansi wina akubwera n’kuyamba kukamba nkhani popanda vuto lililonse, ndipo tikugwedeza mutu mwaulemu, ngakhale kuti tili pachangu kwambiri. Kapenanso anzathu akuyamba kulankhula zachabechabe, ndipo timalolera kukopeka ndi kukambirana popanda kuganizira za nthawi yochuluka. Kapena timalandila uthenga kuchokera kwa mnzako: "Hey, ndikufuna mutu wako wowala pano. Kodi mungandithandize?” - ndiyeno timavomereza. Zoona, simudzakana bwenzi lakale eti?
Katswiri wina wa nzeru zapamwamba Seneca ananenapo mmene ngakhale anthu anzeru kwambiri alili opusa pankhani yoteteza nthawi yawo: “Palibe aliyense wa ife amene amapereka ndalama zake kwa munthu woyamba amene takumana naye, koma ndi angati amene amapereka moyo wake! Ndife osamala pankhani ya katundu ndi ndalama, koma timaganiza zochepa kwambiri za momwe timawonongera nthawi yathu, chinthu chokhacho chomwe tiyenera kukhala aulesi kwambiri.
Masiku ano, zaka 2000 pambuyo pake, tikulolabe kuti chuma chathu chamtengo wapatali kwambiri chizitha kudutsa zala zathu. Chifukwa chiyani? Wamalonda komanso wolemba buku la How Strong People Solve Problems Ryan Holiday akuti pali zifukwa zinayi za izi.
Tili otsimikiza kuti tili ndi nthawi yochulukirapo
Amati timakhala zaka pafupifupi 78. Zikuwoneka ngati muyaya. Kodi tiyenera kuchita chiyani mphindi 20 pa izi kapena izo? Pitani ku msonkhano mu cafe mbali ina ya mzindawo, kuthera ola limodzi panjira, ndipo ngakhale ola kubwerera? Osati funso, bwanji osatero.
Sitikudziwa kuti nthawi yathu ili ndi malire ndipo palibe chitsimikizo chakuti zonse sizidzatha mawa. Koma, chofunika kwambiri, pakapita nthawi, monga ndi ndalama: sitimangogwiritsa ntchito mphindi zochepa zomwe tili nazo mu "chikwama" chathu, komanso kuchepetsa katundu wochuluka.
Timaopa kuti ena sangakonde kukana kwathu.
Sitikufuna kuti anthu azitiganizira molakwika, chifukwa chake timayankha kuti “inde” pa chilichonse - kapena, zikafika povuta kwambiri, “mwina”, ngakhale sitikufuna china koma kukana.
Ryan Holiday akukumbukira kuti maonekedwe a ana anamuthandiza kuchotsa chizolowezi ichi. Pokhala tate, anazindikira kuti pamene atenga mathayo osafunika, mwana wake wazaka ziŵiri ndiye woyamba kuvutika. Ndikofunikira kuzindikira kuti mwa kunena “inde” kwa mmodzi, timangonena “ayi” kwa wina, ndipo nthawi zambiri kwa achibale ndi okondedwa athu.
Osawopa kunyalanyaza uthenga wochokera kwa munthu yemwe simukufuna kulankhula naye, kapena kuyankha motsimikiza kuti "ayi" pazopereka zomwe sizikusangalatsani kapena pempho losayenera, chifukwa, apo ayi, mwana wanu angasiyidwenso. popanda nthano yamadzulo.
Sitidziona kuti ndife ofunika mokwanira
Chifukwa chimodzi chimene chimatichititsa kuti tisamade nkhawa ndi kukana munthu poopa kumukhumudwitsa, n’chakuti timaona kuti sitiyenera kuika zofuna zathu patsogolo. Atafunsidwa chifukwa chake akupitirizabe kugwira ntchito, Joan Rivers, mmodzi mwa oseketsa ochita bwino kwambiri padziko lapansi, nthawi ina adayankha kuti ali ndi mantha: "Ngati palibe zolemba mu kalendala yanga, ndiye kuti palibe amene amandifuna. kuti zonse zomwe ndidachita m'moyo wanga zidali pachabe. Kotero, aliyense wandiyiwala ine kapena watsala pang'ono kuiwala. Koma ndiye anali atapitirira zaka 70 ndipo anali nthano yamoyo!
Kodi sizomvetsa chisoni? Ndipo chofunikira ichi chili mwa aliyense wa ife.
Sitinapange minyewa yomenyera malire
Tonse timakumana ndi zofooka. Timafika pama foni athu kuti tiwone zatsopano pama social network. Timalola Netflix ndi YouTube kutipatsa kanema watsopano, kenako wina, ndi wina, ndi wina. Osadandaula abwana atitumizira mameseji pakati pausiku pazantchito zachangu.
Sititetezedwa ndi aliyense kapena chilichonse: palibe mlembi yemwe amakhala m'chipinda cholandirira alendo, ndipo mulibenso makoma kapena magawo ena m'malo aofesi. Aliyense akhoza kutifikira nthawi iliyonse. Sitingathe, mofanana ndi mabwana a m’mafilimu akale, kuuza mlembi kuti: “Lero musandigwirizanitse ndi aliyense. Ngati pali chilichonse, ndapita. ”
Ryan Holiday anati: “Ndinaganizira kwambiri mmene ndingakonde kukhalira moyo wanga. - Ndinaganiza za izi, ndikukambirana kwanthawi yayitali pafoni, m'malo mongolembera kalata yaifupi. Kapena kukhala pamisonkhano, kumene kukadaloŵedwa m’malo ndi kukambirana patelefoni. Nthawi yowononga imeneyi ndimatha kuthera pa zinthu zofunika kwambiri: banja, kuwerenga. Mosiyana ndi Joan Rivers, ndimangosangalala ngati kalendala yanga ilibe kanthu. Ndikudziwa bwino lomwe zomwe ndikufuna kuthera nthawi, ndipo sindikufuna kuti zindibere. ”
Sikuti nthawi yanu ndi yamtengo wapatali kuposa nthawi ya anthu ena. Nthawi ndiyofunika yokha, ndipo ndi nthawi yoti muyambe kumvetsetsa izi.
Kuphatikiza apo, Tchuthi ndikutsimikiza kuti mutha kunena "ayi" ndikupitilizabe kuthandiza ena. “Ngakhale kuti sindingathe kuyankha imelo iliyonse, ndimayesetsa kusankha mafunso amene anthu amafunsa kwambiri n’kuwalemba m’nkhani. Ndimawathandiza momwe ndingathere komanso nthawi yomweyo ndikusunga nthawi yanga.
Wothandizira wanzeru amapereka phindu lalikulu, osati chuma chomwe chimamuthandiza kupeza ndalama, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti akupitiriza kuthandiza ena. Mfundo yofananayo ingagwirenso ntchito pa nthawi yanu.
Kotero palibe cholakwika ndi kupeŵa mafoni enieni, kukana kutenga nawo mbali pamisonkhano yosasangalatsa kapena yopanda phindu, kunyalanyaza maimelo ambiri. Aliyense ali ndi ufulu wogwiritsa ntchito nthawi yake komanso osadziimba mlandu komanso kuchita manyazi.
Sikuti nthawi yanu ndi yamtengo wapatali kuposa nthawi ya anthu ena. Nthawi ndi yamtengo wapatali payokha, ndipo ndi nthawi yoti muyambe kuzindikira kuti pakali pano.
Za Wolemba: Ryan Holiday ndi wazamalonda komanso wolemba How Strong People Solve Problems and Bestseller. Momwe mungapangire ndikulimbikitsa mapulojekiti opanga" ndi ena angapo.