Achibale ndi abwenzi azifunsa momwe angayang'anire mwanayo, muli ndi ufulu wokana. Maulendo akuyenera kuyimitsidwa.
Ndi mafunso "Chabwino, mudzayimba liti?" amayi achichepere amayamba kuzingidwa ngakhale asanatulutsidwe m'chipatala. Agogo aakazi amawoneka kuti amaiwala momwe amamvera atabereka, ndikusintha kukhala apongozi ndi apongozi ovomerezeka. Koma, choyamba, m'mwezi woyamba, pazifukwa zachipatala, mwanayo safuna kulankhulana ndi alendo. Chitetezo cha mwanayo sichinayambe kukula, m'pofunika kumupatsa nthawi kuti azolowere malo atsopano. Kachiwiri ... pali mndandanda wonse. Tidawerengera zifukwa 9 zomwe muli ndi ufulu wonse wokana kulandira alendo nthawi yoyamba mutabereka.
1. “Ndikufuna kuthandiza” ndi chowiringula chabe
Palibe kwenikweni (chabwino, pafupifupi palibe) akufuna kukuthandizani. Zonse zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosangalatsa kwa mafani a maonekedwe pa mwana wakhanda ndi uchi-ways ndi mi-mi-mi. Koma kutsuka mbale, kuthandizira kuyeretsa kapena kukonza chakudya kuti mupumule pang'ono ... Ndi anthu achikondi komanso odzipereka okha omwe angathe kuchita izi. Ena onse amangojambula ma selfies pamwamba pa bedi. Ndipo mudzayenera kusokoneza osati ndi mwanayo, komanso ndi alendo: kumwa tiyi, kusangalatsa ndi zokambirana.
2. Mwanayo sadzachita momwe alendo amafunira
Kumwetulira, kupanga mawu okoma, kuwomba thovu - ayi, adzachita zonsezi pokhapokha pakufuna kwa moyo wake. Ana m'masabata oyambirira nthawi zambiri samachita chilichonse koma kudya, kugona ndi kuipitsa matewera awo. Alendo omwe akuyembekezera kucheza ndi khanda amachoka ali okhumudwa. Chabwino, kodi iwo ankafuna chiyani kwa mwamuna wamasiku asanu?
3. Mumayamwitsa nthawi zonse
“Unapita kuti, ukadyetse kuno,” apongozi anga anandiuza nthaŵi ina atabwera kudzacheza ndi mdzukulu wawo wobadwa kumene. Pano? Ndi makolo anga, ndi apongozi anga? Ayi zikomo. Kudyetsa kwa nthawi yoyamba ndi njira yomwe imafuna chinsinsi. Zidzakhala tsiku ndi tsiku. Komanso, monga ena ambiri, ndine wamanyazi. Sindingathe kukhala maliseche pamaso pa aliyense ndikunamizira kuti thupi langa ndi botolo la mkaka. Ndiyeno ndikufunikabe kusintha t-sheti yanga, chifukwa mwana anapsa mtima pa iyi ... Ayi, kodi sindingakhale ndi alendo?
4. Mahomoni akadali akuvuta
Nthawi zina umafuna kulira chifukwa chakuti wina waoneka molakwika, kapena wanena zolakwika. Kapena kungolira. Dongosolo la mahomoni la amayi limakumana ndi zovuta zingapo zamphamvu pachaka. Pambuyo pobereka, timabwerera mwakale kwa kanthawi, ndipo ena amayenera kulimbana ndi vuto la postpartum. Kukhalapo kwa akunja mumkhalidwe woterowo kukhoza kukulitsa kusokonezeka kwamalingaliro. Koma, kumbali ina, chisamaliro ndi chithandizo - thandizo lenileni - zingakupulumutseni.
5. Simunachirebe
Kubereka mwana si kutsuka mbale. Izi zimatengera mphamvu zambiri, zonse zakuthupi ndi zamakhalidwe. Ndipo ndi bwino ngati zonse zidayenda bwino. Ndipo ngati stitches pambuyo cesarean, episiotomy kapena kupasuka? Palibe nthawi ya alendo, pano mukufuna kudzinyamula mwaukhondo, ngati vase yamtengo wapatali ya mkaka watsopano.
6. Kupsyinjika kwakukulu kwa wolandira alendo
Pamene palibe nthawi ndi mphamvu zotsuka ndi kuphika, ngakhale kusamba sikutheka nthawi zonse pamene mukufuna, maulendo a munthu akhoza kukhala mutu. Ndipotu, muyenera kukonzekera iwo, kuyeretsa, kuphika chinachake. Ndithudi, n’zokayikitsa kuti wina amayembekezadi kuti nyumba ya mayi wamng’onoyo idzawala, koma ngati mwazoloŵera kuti nyumba yanu imakhala yaukhondo ndi yokongola nthaŵi zonse, mukhoza kuchita manyazi. Ndipo pansi pamtima, simudzakhutitsidwa ndi kusasamala kwa mlendo - pambuyo pake, adakugwirani panthawi yomwe simuli bwino.
7. Malangizo osawapempha
Anthu okalamba ali ndi mlandu pa izi - amakonda kuwuza momwe angachitire bwino ana. Komanso mabwenzi odziwa zambiri. "Ndipo ndili pano ..." Nkhani zotsatizana "Mukuchita chilichonse cholakwika, tsopano ndikufotokozereni" - choyipa kwambiri chomwe chingachitike kwa mayi wachichepere. Apa, ndipo kotero ine sindiri wotsimikiza kuti mumachita zonse bwino ndi molondola, koteronso malangizo ochokera kumbali zonse akutsanulira. Nthawi zambiri, mwa njira, amatsutsana.
8. Nthawi zina kukhala chete kumafunika
Ndikungofuna kukhala ndekha ndi ine ndekha, ndi mwana, ndi chisangalalo changa, ndi "Ine" wanga watsopano. Mukamaliza kudyetsa mwanayo, kusintha zovala, kuziyika pabedi, panthawi ino mudzafuna kutseka maso anu ndikugona mwakachetechete, osayankhulana ndi munthu.
9. Simuli ndi ngongole kwa aliyense
Kuitana alendo pakufunika, ndipo ngakhale nthawi yabwino kwa mlendo, kuti awoneke mwaulemu komanso ochezeka, si ntchito yofunika kwambiri. Ndandanda yanu yofunika kwambiri tsopano ndiyo imene mukukhala ndi mwana wanu, nkhaŵa yanu yofunika kwambiri ndi tanthauzo lake. Usana ndi usiku zilibe kanthu tsopano, ndizofunika kokha ngati mukugona kapena ayi. Komanso, ulamuliro wamasiku ano ukhoza kusiyana kwambiri ndi wadzulo ndi wamawa. Ndizovuta kupanga nthawi inayake ya msonkhano pano - ndipo ndi kofunikira?