Nthawi zina, kuti timvetsetse chinthu chachikulu, tifunika kutaya zomwe tili nazo. Dane Malin Rydal anayenera kuchoka kumudzi kwawo kuti akapeze chinsinsi cha chimwemwe. Malamulo a moyowa adzagwirizana ndi aliyense wa ife.
Anthu aku Danes ndi anthu okondwa kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi, malinga ndi mavoti ndi mavoti. Katswiri wa PR Malin Rydal anabadwira ku Denmark, koma patali, pokhala kudziko lina, adatha kuyang'ana mopanda tsankho pa chitsanzo chomwe chimawapangitsa kukhala osangalala. Iye anafotokoza zimenezi m’buku lakuti Happy Like Danes.
Zina mwa mfundo zomwe adazipeza ndi kudalirana kwa nzika wina ndi mnzake komanso m'boma, kupezeka kwamaphunziro, kusowa kwa chikhumbo ndi zofuna zazikulu zakuthupi, komanso kusalabadira ndalama. Kudziyimira pawokha komanso kutha kusankha njira yanu kuyambira ali aang'ono: pafupifupi 70% ya aku Danes amasiya makolo awo ali ndi zaka 18 kuti ayambe kukhala okha.
Wolembayo akugawana mfundo za moyo zomwe zimamuthandiza kukhala wosangalala.
1. Mnzanga wapamtima ndi ine ndekha. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mugwirizane ndi inu nokha, apo ayi ulendo wamoyo ukhoza kukhala wautali komanso wowawa. Kumvetsera tokha, kuphunzira kudzidziwa tokha, kudzisamalira tokha, timapanga maziko odalirika a moyo wachimwemwe.
2. Sindidziyerekezanso ndi ena. Ngati simukufuna kumva chisoni, musafanane, siyani mtundu wa gehena «zambiri, zambiri, zosakwanira», musayesere kupeza zambiri kuposa zomwe ena ali nazo. Kuyerekeza kumodzi kokha ndikopindulitsa - ndi omwe ali ndi zochepa kuposa inu. Osadziona kuti ndinu wapamwamba kwambiri ndipo nthawi zonse muzikumbukira kuti muli ndi mwayi bwanji!
Ndikofunika kuti muthe kusankha kumenyana pamapewa, omwe angaphunzitse chinachake
3. Ndimayiwala za zikhalidwe ndi zovuta zamagulu. Kukhala ndi ufulu wochulukirapo wochita zomwe tikuganiza kuti ndi zabwino ndikuzichita momwe tikufunira, m'pamenenso "timalowa" ndi ife tokha ndikukhala moyo "wathu", osati zomwe timayembekezera. .
4. Nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndi pulani B. Munthu akamaganiza kuti ali ndi njira imodzi yokha m’moyo, amaopa kutaya zimene ali nazo. Mantha nthawi zambiri amatipangitsa kupanga zosankha zolakwika. Pamene tikulingalira njira zina, timapeza mosavuta kulimba mtima kuti tiyankhe zovuta za Plan A yathu.
5. Ndimasankha nkhondo zanga. Timamenyana tsiku lililonse. Chachikulu ndi chaching'ono. Koma sitingavomereze vuto lililonse. Ndikofunika kuti muthe kusankha kumenyana pamapewa, omwe angaphunzitse chinachake. Ndipo nthawi zina, muyenera kutenga chitsanzo cha tsekwe, kugwedeza madzi ochulukirapo m'mapiko ake.
6. Ndine woona mtima kwa ine ndekha ndikuvomereza chowonadi. Kuzindikira kolondola kumatsatiridwa ndi chithandizo cholondola: palibe chisankho cholondola chomwe chingachokere pa bodza.
7. Ndimakulitsa malingaliro abwino… zowona. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kupanga mapulani omwe amapereka tanthauzo ku moyo wathu…pokhala ndi ziyembekezo zenizeni. Zomwezo zimagwiranso ntchito pa ubale wathu: zoyembekezera zochepa zomwe muli nazo pokhudzana ndi anthu ena, m'pamenenso mumadabwa kwambiri.
Chimwemwe ndi chinthu chokhacho padziko lapansi chomwe chimachulukira kawiri tikagawanika
8. Ndikukhala mu nthawi ino. Kukhala m'masiku ano kumatanthauza kusankha kuyenda mkati, osalota za komwe mukupita, komanso osanong'oneza bondo poyambira. Ndimakumbukira mawu omwe adandiuza mkazi wokongola: "Cholinga chili panjira, koma njira iyi ilibe cholinga." Tili panjira, mawonekedwe akuwala kunja kwawindo, tikupita patsogolo, ndipo, izi ndizo zonse zomwe tili nazo. Chimwemwe ndi mphotho ya munthu woyenda, ndipo pamapeto pake sizichitika kawirikawiri.
9. Ndili ndi magwero osiyanasiyana a chitukuko. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, "sindiyika mazira anga onse mudengu limodzi." Kudalira gwero limodzi la chisangalalo - ntchito kapena wokondedwa - ndizowopsa, chifukwa ndizosalimba. Ngati mumakonda anthu ambiri, ngati mumakonda zochitika zosiyanasiyana, tsiku lanu lililonse limakhala loyenera. Kwa ine, kuseka ndi gwero lamtengo wapatali la kulinganiza - kumapereka kumverera kwachisangalalo nthawi yomweyo.
10. Ndimakonda anthu ena. Ndimakhulupirira kuti magwero abwino kwambiri a chimwemwe ndi chikondi, kugawana zinthu, ndi kuwolowa manja. Mwa kugawana ndi kupereka, munthu amachulukitsa mphindi zachisangalalo ndikuyika maziko a kulemera kwanthawi yayitali. Albert Schweitzer, amene analandira Mphotho ya Mtendere ya Nobel mu 1952, analondola pamene ananena kuti: “Chimwemwe ndicho chinthu chokha padziko lapansi chimene chimaŵirikiza kaŵiri pamene kugawanika.”
Source: M. Rydal Wokondwa Monga Danes (Phantom Press, 2016).