Zamkatimu
Amayesetsa kukhala pakati pa chidwi. Kuchepetsa zotsatira za ena, kulemekeza zawo. Amagogomezera zolakwa za anthu ena kuti aziwoneka owoneka bwino motsutsana ndi maziko awo. Katswiri wina wa zamaganizo Christine Hammond anati:
Aliyense wa ife kamodzi anakumana ndi mtundu uwu m'dera lathu. Kodi mungazindikire bwanji munthu wa narcissist ndipo osakhala wovutitsidwa ndi zida zake? Kumbukirani malamulo oyambirira a khalidwe.
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«Own» Baibulo la munthu wina bwino
A tingachipeze powerenga narcissist tsenga ndi «kumaliza» ndi «kukonza» nkhani ya zimene anthu ena achita. Akhoza kubisala kuseri kwa zolinga zabwino, kutsimikizira kuti amangoyamikira kuchita zinthu mwachilungamo. Koma kwenikweni, kuyanjanitsa uku kumapindulitsa kwa iye: mwanjira imeneyi amachitira manyazi wotsutsayo ndikuwonetsa kuti ndi womenyera choonadi.
- Ivan Ivanovich anateteza chiphunzitso chake cha udokotala ali ndi zaka 30!
- Chabwino, ndithudi, chifukwa ndodo lonse la ophunzira ndi zasayansi othandizira ntchito kwa iye.
Ndinamuona mnzanga wakusukulu pa TV. Amapanga pulogalamuyo panthawi yamasewera.
- Anawomba m'maso pamaso pa wopangayo - adamutenga. Kodi kunali koyenera kumaliza sukulu ya udokotala?
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Fayilo yolakwika
Narcissists amasonkhanitsa mwaluso zambiri za anzawo, omenyera nawo, atsogoleri, kuti azigwiritsa ntchito nthawi yoyenera. Atha kugwiritsa ntchito chithumwa chawo, kunamizira kukhala mabwenzi kuti akutsutseni kunena mosabisa. Akadziwa zomwe angagwiritse ntchito motsutsana nanu, sangalephere kugwiritsa ntchito chidziwitsocho kukunamizani. The narcissist adzakhala nthawi ndi nthawi - kawirikawiri mopanda chiwawa, ngati nthabwala njira - kukukumbutsani "chinsinsi" chanu kuti akhale ndi mphamvu pa inu.
"Mu ubale uliwonse, narcissist amafuna kulamulira"
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Kungofuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro
Anthu angwiro kulibe. Zowona, nthawi zonse pali chosiyana ndi narcissist: iyemwini. Popeza zolakwa za anthu ena, narcissists alibe wofanana. Ngakhale mwaluso kwambiri amakwanitsa kubisa chidwi chawo pa izi. Ngati woimbayo akuimbidwa mlandu wosankha, amamwetulira kwambiri n’kunena kuti, “O, uku ndi nthabwala. Simungathenso kuchita nthabwala. Nanga bwanji nthabwala, bwanawe?"
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Kupeza wolakwa
Ngati chinachake chikulakwika, narcissist nthawi zonse amapeza munthu amene adzakhala «kwambiri». Kudziwa bwino za psychology kumamuthandiza kusankha paudindo uwu munthu yemwe sangatsutse ndikudziteteza. Si zachilendo kwa narcissist kusankha pasadakhale bwenzi munthu amene angaimbe mlandu ngati kulephera kapena kuwonekera kwa machenjerero ake.
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Kulankhula kwamwana
Mu ubale uliwonse, narcissist amafuna kulamulira. Njira imodzi ndiyo kutsimikizira mnzanuyo za kusakhwima kwake ndi khalidwe lachibwana. Narcissist amatanthauzira zochitika zilizonse zokhudzana ndi ubale wa Akuluakulu ndi Mwana. Pokambitsirana, nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito mawu owonetsera, chisamaliro chonyenga komanso chifundo. “Chabwino, n’chifukwa chiyani wakwiya ngati kamwana? O, kodi ndakulakwirani? Chabwino, musalire. Ukufuna ndikugulire maswiti?"
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Lumikizanani ndi chipembedzo
Narcissist amadziwa bwino kuti zikhulupiriro ndi zikhulupiriro ndi zida zamphamvu zokakamiza anthu ena. Chikumbumtima sichimatilola kupirira modekha kutsutsana pakati pa zikhulupiriro zathu ndi zochita zomwe zimasiyana nazo. Ngakhale kupatukako kuli kwakung'ono kwambiri, narcissist amayesa kukulitsa, kuti akweze mpaka mtheradi. Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti: “Mungakhale wodalirika bwanji ngati muli achinyengo nthawi zonse?”; “Pano mukunditsutsa, koma uyu si Mkristu”; "Zilibe vuto bwanji? Umu ndi mmene makhalidwe abwino m’dera lathu akugwera.”
"Njira yomwe munthu wamatsenga amakonda kwambiri ndiyo kukwiyitsa wolankhulayo, ndiyeno kumudzudzula chifukwa chotentha kwambiri."
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"Jupiter wakwiya, ndiye akulakwitsa"
Njira yomwe amakondedwa ndi narcissist ndiyo kukwiyitsa wolumikizana naye, ndiyeno kumudzudzula chifukwa chotentha kwambiri. Choyamba, kukwiya kwamalingaliro kumasiyana bwino ndi kuziziritsa kwaulemu wa narcissist mwiniyo. Kachiwiri, wolankhula narcissist amapeza mwayi womasulira izi m'malo mwawo: "Ha! Umakwiya. Choncho palibe utsi popanda moto.
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Kudzichepetsa kongoyerekeza
Mosiyana ndi kuyankhula kwa ana, apa interlocutor amayesa m'njira iliyonse kuti asonyeze kuti ali pamwamba panu, amamvetsa bwino zomwe zikuchitika, ndipo akhoza kufotokozera zomwe mukuchita komanso zomwe mukuchita. Amagwiritsa ntchito mawu “anzeru” (kawirikawiri mawu achilendo, Achilatini), manja olankhula (akutembenuza maso, kuseka), amasinthana kuyang’ana kwakukulu ndi amene ali pafupi naye. Kusewera kwa anthu kumapangitsa kuti zinthu zikhale zopindulitsa kwambiri kwa narcissist: kukongola kwake sikulola ena kuzindikira demagogue.
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Kufananiza ndi zoyenera
Ziribe kanthu zomwe munachita komanso khama lomwe mudachita, adazichita kawiri mwachangu komanso bwino kuposa inu. Narcissist amagwiritsa ntchito ukulu wake kuti achepetse zotsatira zanu. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, nthawi zambiri imanyalanyaza mfundo zomwe zingakhale zofunika kwambiri.
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Kusintha kwamalingaliro
Zovala zake nthawi zonse zimakwanira bwino. Palibe tsitsi limodzi lomwe limachotsedwa patsitsi. Narcissist samawoneka chonchi chifukwa amakonda kukhala watsopano. Imakhalanso njira yochotsera ena ulemu. Ndemanga izi mwina ndizodziwika kwa inu: «Ingoyang'anani nokha - ndizovuta kwambiri»; "Mungatengere bwanji munthu yemwe akuwoneka ngati wolumala."
Kuti mudziwe zambiri, Mkazi Wotopa.