Pamene tikukula, timaona kwambiri kuti zizolowezi zathu ndi macheza akusintha. Ngati kale tinapanga mabwenzi atsopano mosavuta ndipo tinali okonzeka kuyenda mpaka m'mawa, tsopano, pokhala otsekedwa kwambiri, timafunika kukhala patokha. Izi ndi zachilendo - ndi zaka, ambiri amakhala osalankhula. Onani ngati mwasintha ndi mndandanda wathu.
Malinga ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, introversion kapena extroversion ndi makhalidwe achibadwa. Koma pali mitundu "yoyera" yochepa kwambiri m'moyo weniweni. Titha kuonedwa kuti ndife oyambira ndikutengera zinthu kuchokera mwa ife tokha, koma nthawi yomweyo khalani ochezeka komanso otha kulumikizana ndi ena. Ndipo tikhoza kubadwa extroverts, koma chifukwa cha zinthu zosiyanasiyana kukhala chatsekedwa.
Zimene ofufuza ambiri amavomereza n’zakuti ambiri aife timakhala otengeka kwambiri tikamakula. Ndipo pali zifukwa zake. Choyamba, pamene tikukula, timakhwima mkati mwathu - timapeza zochitika pamoyo, timadzidziwa tokha komanso ena bwino. Timapeza kudzidalira kwina. Timaphunzira maphunziro a moyo - nthawi zina zowawa. Timaphunzira kudzidalira tokha.
Kachiwiri, khalidwe lachinyamata limabwera chifukwa cha chikhalidwe chathu. Pamsinkhu uwu, ntchito ya woimira anthu monga zamoyo zamoyo ndi kupeza mwamuna ndi kubereka ana. Ndipo kwa nthawi ndithu timakhala omasuka kulankhulana ndi mabwenzi.
Komano, m’kupita kwa zaka, mosasamala kanthu za mmene moyo waumwini umakhalira, chirengedwe “chimatsogolera” mphamvu zathu kuchokera ku bwalo lakunja kupita ku lamkati, kubanja. Ngakhale banja lathu ndi ife tokha ndipo, kunena, mphaka.
Kuti mukhale ndi chisangalalo (izi sizokhudzana ndi kugonana, koma za kukwera kwa mphamvu zofunikira) ndi chimwemwe, sitifunikanso kukhala pa konsati yaphokoso kapena paphwando pakati pa anthu ambiri. Timaphunzira kudziletsa ndikumvetsetsa kufunika kwa mphindi zomwe timasiyidwa tokha. Ndipo zokwiyitsa monga nyimbo zaphokoso, kung'ung'udza kwa mawu, kuyimba kwa magetsi ndi anthu ambiri zimatitopetsa msanga.
Zizindikiro za "kutembenuka" kukhala introvert
1. Nyumba yomwe mumayikamo zinthu ndikutonthoza yakhala "malo anu amphamvu". Apa mumabwezeretsanso mphamvu zofunikira, ndipo simukutopa nokha ndi inu nokha. Ngati mumakhala ndi banja, ndiye kuti mumafunika nthawi ndi malo oti muzitha kulankhulana momasuka.
2. Muli kuntchito ndipo mnzanu akulemberani mameseji, akukupemphani kuti mukumane ndi kucheza. Mothekera, mungakonzenso misonkhano ndi kupita kubanjako madzulo. Inde, mumamukonda bwenzi lanu, koma muyenera kuyimba kuti mukumane naye ndikulankhula naye. Choncho, mumakonda kukonzekera pasadakhale.
3. Koma si nthawi zonse pamene mumafunika misonkhano yokonzekeratu. Chifukwa chake, mutha kukana zomwe anzanu akukupatsani pazakumwa Lachisanu madzulo. Muli ndi gulu labwino kwambiri, koma pa sabata logwira ntchito mumatopa kuyankhulana ndi anzanu, kotero mumasankha gulu la anzanu, achibale kapena madzulo abata nokha.
4. Maonekedwe akubwera, paphwando kapena chochitika cha gala, amakupangitsani nkhawa kwambiri kuposa kuyembekezera mwachimwemwe. Mukudziwa kuti mudzatopa msanga ndi phokoso ndi kuthwanima kwa nkhope ndipo mudzafunafuna chowiringula chochokapo osakhumudwitsa aliyense.
5. Pachifukwa chomwecho, kufika kwa alendo sizochitika zosavuta kwa inu. Ndipo kwazaka zambiri, "sefa" yamkati imayamba - anthu omwe mukufuna kuwawona m'gawo lanu akucheperachepera.
6. Kukambitsirana mozama ndi mnzako ndikofunika kwambiri kwa inu kuposa kungocheza chabe pa chilichonse. Mukakhala wamkulu, sikukhala kosangalatsa kulankhulana “m’kupita kwanthawi” - kofunika kwambiri kuposa mphindi zomwe mumakambirana mozama ndi anthu ofunika.
7. Kupita kutchuthi, mumakonda kupita ndi mnzanu kapena nokha, osati kampani yosangalatsa yaphokoso, monga kale.
8. Simungayatse TV, wailesi, kapena chosewerera nyimbo ngati mukufuna kukhala chete. Mwatopa kwambiri ndi ziwonetsero zonsezi, nkhani ndi zowawa zawo zoyipa komanso mapulogalamu onyansa.
9. Zimakhala zovuta kwa inu kulankhula ndi anthu otengeka maganizo kwambiri, makamaka ngati ali osaleza mtima “pakali pano” kuti akulowetseni m’kukambitsirana kwamphepo. Ndipo Mulungu asalole, ngati ayamba kukusekani mwaubwenzi ndi mafunso: "Chabwino, n'chifukwa chiyani mwaphika?"
10. Kukopana ndi kufuna kusangalatsa amuna kapena akazi anzawo n'kochepa kwambiri kuposa kale. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti kuyamikiridwa ndi chidwi sikukusangalatsani. Kungoti mumangoganizira za inu nokha osati mmene ena amakuonerani.
11. Muli ndi abwenzi, koma simungathe kugawana zambiri za ubale wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu kapena achibale anu. Osati chifukwa simukhulupirira malo omwe mumakhala - simumva kufunika kodandaula kapena, mosiyana, kudzitama ndi kulandira uphungu. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kukhala ndi psychotherapist.
12. Mukakhala pamalo atsopano, simudzakhalanso, monga kale, choyamba funsani odutsa njira. Ndipo chifukwa chake sikuti mumagwiritsa ntchito foni yamakono yokhala ndi navigator. Mwangozolowera kudalira nokha, ndipo kulumikizana ndi anthu osawadziwa kumafuna mphamvu zomwe mwaphunzira kupulumutsa.
13. M'zaka zaposachedwa, kulumikizana kwanu kwasintha kwambiri. Anthu oopsa, ansanje, aukali komanso omwe amatchedwa "ma vampires amphamvu" akutha pang'onopang'ono. Kulankhula nawo kungakupwetekeni, ndipo pamene mukukula, mumaona kuti nthaŵi yanu ndi mphamvu zanu zamaganizo n’zofunika kwambiri kuti muwonongere anthu amene akusautsani.
14. Mwinamwake pali anthu ocheperapo pafupi nanu - ndi ambiri omwe anacheza nanu zaka 10, 15 zapitazo, simunamvepo kwa nthawi yayitali. Koma ngati moyo umakupatsani chidwi, anthu okondana, mumayamikira kudziwana koteroko. Ndipo kutha kudzimva nokha kumakuthandizani kudziwa ngati munthuyo ndi “wanu” komanso ngati mwakonzeka kupanga naye ubwenzi pang’onopang’ono.