Zamkatimu
Amayi ndi ofunika m'moyo wa aliyense wa ife. Komabe, sangangothandizira, kukhala wothandizira ndikukonzekera ukalamba, komanso kusandulika kukhala chilombo chomwe chidzaika chiletso chosaoneka pa moyo wa kugonana kwa mwana wake wamwamuna. Tinaphunzira kuchokera kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo, katswiri wa zachiwerewere, zomwe mauthenga a amayi amatha kukhala opweteka komanso momwe angasinthire maganizo awo.
"Ndinakuchitirani zonse", "Nthawi zonse ndinakupatsani zabwino", "palibe choganiza za atsikana, phunzirani poyamba" - poyang'ana koyamba, mawu awa akuwoneka ngati opanda vuto. Koma nthawi zambiri amavumbulutsa mitundu itatu ya amayi: kuteteza kwambiri, «kupha» ndi «nsembe yamuyaya».
Makolo oterowo angavulaze kwambiri ana awo aamuna mwa kugwiritsira ntchito mwachidziwitso kapena mosazindikira mikhalidwe yowononga. Katswiri wa zamaganizo, katswiri wa zachiwerewere Elena Malakhova adanena zomwe zimalimbikitsa amayi komanso momwe tingathere "kusokoneza" mauthenga awo.
1. "Kupha" amayi
Kodi kuzindikira?
Poyamba, mkazi woteroyo samawoneka ngati chilombo konse. Koma, popanda kudzizindikira yekha, wakhala akumanga khoma lamphamvu kuyambira ali mwana, kulekanitsa mwana wake ku chikoka chachibadwa kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kugonana kwa ana aamuna a amayi oterowo kumakhala kopanda chitukuko, kopanda pake, kumabwera ku kugonana, kuchedwa kosiyanasiyana kwa chitukuko cha psychosexual, ndipo kwinakwake, kungathe kupita njira yopotoka komanso yopatuka.
Mayi wamtunduwu amagwiritsa ntchito mu maphunziro ozindikira, osadziwa pang'ono kapena osadziwa zomwe zimawononga psyche ndi kugonana kwa mwanayo, kukhala poizoni kwambiri kwa iye. Izi makamaka mwamawu, chiwawa, mitundu yonse ya chiwawa, nkhanza, kuopseza, kukakamiza ... Chodabwitsa, pamene achibale ndi abwenzi "akugwira" amayi anga chifukwa cha zinthu zonyansa, zimakhala: akutsimikiza kuti akulera mwamuna weniweni. » Ndipo ndi kalembedwe kameneka ka maphunziro, kukoma mtima n’kopanda ntchito.
Zoyenera kuchita?
Tsoka ilo, nkhanza komanso chiwawa muubwana zingayambitse kusokonezeka kwakukulu kwa psyche ndi kugonana pazaka zakutsogolo. Ndipo kuphwanya uku sikungatheke nthawi zonse kudziwongolera. Ndi bwino ngati, akukula, mwana wa mayi "akupha" angathe kuzindikira vuto lake ndikupita kwa katswiri kuti amuthandize panthawi yake.
2. Mayi wopereka nsembe
Kodi kuzindikira?
Mayi woteroyo amakhala ndi lingaliro la "kukhalira ena". Anganyalanyaze zofuna zake poyembekezera malipiro okwera mtengo kwambiri kuchokera kwa mwanayo - mwayi woyendetsa moyo wake. Mawu achizolowezi m'kamwa mwa mayi woteroyo "Ndinakuchitirani zonse, ndinapirira, ndinavutika, ngati mutakhala bwino" ndi bodza lalikulu, lopangidwa kuti lilungamitse kusafuna kudziwa kuti mukuchitapo kanthu ndi moyo wanu. Komanso, nsembeyo ingayamikiridwe ndi amene waibweretsa. Si nzeru kuyembekezera zimenezi kwa wina, makamaka kwa mwana.
Pakati pa matenda okhudzana ndi kugonana kwa munthu wamtsogolo yemwe anakulira m'banja loterolo, pali matenda a kuyembekezera kulephera kwa kugonana ndi masochism. Chinthu chokha chimene kholo lozunzidwa lingaphunzitse mwana wawo ndi kukhala wozunzidwa. Chifukwa chake, azimayi omwe amawagwiritsa ntchito amagwera mwadongosolo ndi amuna otere.
Zoyenera kuchita?
Mwamuna ayenera kuphunzira kutsata machitidwe a amayi ake m'makhalidwe awo ndi kupanga moyo wosiyana. Choyamba, pamlingo wa malingaliro, ndiye kujambula zigawo zake momveka bwino, ndipo potsiriza, muzochita (mwachitsanzo, pa tsiku, musayese kukondweretsa wosankhidwa muzonse, koma mumuchitire ngati bwenzi lofanana).
3. Mayi wodziteteza mopambanitsa
Kodi kuzindikira?
Cholinga chake ndi kusunga mwanayo kwa nthawi yayitali mu malo akhanda mothandizidwa ndi chitetezo chochulukirapo komanso chisamaliro chochuluka chifukwa choopa kukula kwake. Ndi mawu ake ndi zochita zake, mayi woteroyo adzasonyeza mwanayo m'njira iliyonse kuti akadali wamng'ono: "phunzirani poyamba, ndiyeno mudzaganizira za atsikana" ndi zina zotero.
Tsoka lenileni kwa mayi wotero ndi maonekedwe a bwenzi ndi mwana wake. Zochitika zachilengedwe zopatukana, zomwe sizili zophweka kwa mayi aliyense, zimangokhala zosapiririka kwa amayi osamala kwambiri. Safuna kuzizindikira, kuzikonza, kukhala ndi moyo, amangoyesa kusunga mwanayo pafupi naye. Pakugonana kwa ana aamuna omwe sakanatha kuchoka paubwenzi wodalirana ndi amayi awo, zovuta zonse zakugonana (kusokonezeka kwa erection, kutulutsa umuna) komanso chizolowezi chosokoneza kugonana (mwachitsanzo, Madonna ndi Harlot complex).
Zoyenera kuchita?
Kukula, mwanayo amafunika kuchoka mu ubale wodalirana ndi amayi ake, kupatukana ndi amayi ake ndikukhala moyo wake. Iyi ndi njira yayitali yolimbikitsira kulimbana. Mwana wa mayi woteroyo amaphunzira kusonyeza machenjerero ake, kumanga malire ake, pang’onopang’ono kukhala munthu wosiyana, wachikulire, wokhoza kutenga thayo la moyo wake. Ena amatha kuyenda pawokha njira iyi, pomwe ena amangoyenda ndi katswiri.