Zamkatimu
Nthawi zina zimawoneka kuti moyo ndi wamdima komanso wopanda chiyembekezo. Ntchito sizimawonjezera, moyo waumwini ukugwa, ndipo ngakhale mkhalidwe wachuma m'dziko palibe paliponse. Wophunzitsa komanso wolankhula zolimbikitsa John Kim amadziwa njira zitatu zosinthira moyo wanu kukhala wabwino.
Kodi munaonapo nsomba ikusambira m’madzi auve? Iye amaoneka wosatekeseka, alibe mphamvu, ndipo sasunthanso zipsepse zake, ngati kuti ndi maunyolo achitsulo. Sinthanitsani madzi akuda ndi madzi oyera ndipo zonse zimasintha. Nsombazo zidzakhala zamoyo, zidzakhala zokondwa ndi zogwira ntchito, ndipo mamba ake adzakhala owala.
Maganizo ndi zikhulupiriro zathu zili ngati madzi. Zokumana nazo zoipa m'moyo zimapanga zikhulupiriro zabodza, zimadetsa malingaliro ndikuchotsa mphamvu zofunikira. Timayamba kukayikira luso lathu, kumamatira muubwenzi wosapindulitsa, ndipo sitilola kuti kuthekera kwathu konse kukukula.
Komabe, anthu, mosiyana nsomba, akhoza kusintha awo «madzi» okha. Ambiri amakhala akapolo a maganizo awo ndipo samakayikira n’komwe kuti angathe kulamulira maganizo awo ndi mmene amaganizira. Sachita khama kusintha maganizo awo chifukwa choopa kapena kudziona kuti sayenera kukhala m’madzi aukhondo.
Chowonadi ndi chakuti mutha kuyeretsa aquarium yanu. Mumadzuka ndikukonzekera tsiku lanu. Nyemwetulirani ndipo khalani otsimikiza. Ikani ndalama mu maubwenzi abwino. Dzizungulireni ndi anthu abwino. Zindikirani mphindi zosangalatsa. Pangani chinachake. Mutha kusintha moyo wanu posintha momwe mumaonera.
Chilichonse chimayamba ndi malingaliro ndikutha nawo. Zomwe mumaganiza za inu nokha zimatsimikizira zenizeni zanu. Njira zitatuzi zidzakuthandizani kuyeretsa "madzi" anu.
1. Dziwani mtundu wa mphamvu zomwe mwadzazidwa nazo, zabwino kapena zoipa
Ngati mukulamuliridwa ndi mphamvu zoipa, mumagwiritsa ntchito maubwenzi omwe atha, kukulitsa zizolowezi zanu zoipa ndi makhalidwe oipa, kugona bwino, ndikudziyesa nokha. Mumadandaula ndi zazing'ono, mumadya zakudya zopanda thanzi, kukangana, kukana, kutukwana, kukwiya ndikuwona moyo ngati chilango.
Ngati muli ndi mphamvu zabwino, mumapanga, mumamanga ndikuyika ndalama mwa inu nokha ndi anthu omwe amakukondani. Mumaika malire athanzi, mverani nokha, lankhulani malingaliro anu momasuka ndi modekha, ndikulota. Simudziweruza nokha kapena ena, simumalembapo ndipo simuchita mantha.
Mumakhala ndi moyo wokangalika, kuyang'ana zakudya zanu, kumwa madzi ambiri, ndipo mulibe vuto logona. Mumadziwa kukonda moona mtima ndipo mumatha kukhululuka.
2. Dziwani zikhulupiriro zabodza zomwe zikusintha moyo wanu.
Palibe aliyense wa ife amene anakula popanda kuvutika. Kuvutika kunali kosiyana: thupi, makhalidwe, kugonana ndi maganizo. Wina amakumbukira nthawi zonse momwe adatsekeredwa m'chipinda, wina amakumbukira chikondi chake choyamba chosasangalatsa, ndipo wina amakumbukira imfa ya wokondedwa kapena kusudzulana kwa makolo ake. Zomwe mudawona ndi kumva, ndi momwe ena adakuchitirani, zimatsimikizira moyo wanu ndikupanga malingaliro abodza.
Njira yabwino yodziwira zikhulupiriro zomwe zili zabodza ndi zomwe zili zabodza ndiyo kudzifunsa zomwe mukuwopa.
Zikhulupiriro zabodza: Sindidzakhala wosangalala. Ndine munthu wopanda pake. Sindidzachita bwino. Sindimapeza kalikonse. Ndine wozunzidwa. Ndine munthu wofooka. Ngati sindikhala wolemera, palibe amene adzandikonda. Ndine mwamuna woipa, bambo, mwana, ndi zina zotero. Malingaliro awa ndi ena oipa amatanthauzira miyoyo yathu, amachepetsa kudzidalira kwathu ndikulepheretsa luso ndi zilakolako.
Tsopano ganizirani momwe moyo wanu ungakhalire popanda malingaliro awa. Kodi mungakonde kukhala bwenzi ndi ndani? Ndani akanaitanidwa pa tsiku? Kodi mungasankhe ntchito yanji? Kodi mungatani pa nthawi yanu yopuma?
3. Osagonja ku zikhulupiriro zabodza. Chitani zomwe sangakulole kuchita
Njira yabwino yodziwira zikhulupiriro zomwe zili zabodza ndi zomwe zili zabodza ndiyo kudzifunsa zomwe mumaopa komanso chifukwa chake.
Mukufuna kujambula thupi lanu lonse, kukwera njinga yamoto ndikuyimba ng'oma mu gulu la rock. Koma mukuwopa kukhumudwitsa abambo anu, kotero munasankha ntchito yowerengera ndalama, kukwatira mtsikana wamakhalidwe abwino ndikumwa mowa pamaso pa TV madzulo. Mumatero chifukwa mumakhulupirira kuti mwana wabwino sangakhale wogwetsa. Ichi ndi chikhulupiriro chabodza.
Yesani kupereka tanthauzo lanu la mwana wabwino. Iyenera kukhala chiyani? Ndipo mudzamvetsetsa kuti ubale wabwino ndi abambo anu sugwirizana ndi zojambula ndi njinga yamoto. Tsopano yambani kukhala moyo wanu: kulumikizananso ndi oimba anzanu, pezani tattoo ndikugula njinga yamoto. Ndi njira iyi yokha yomwe mungayeretsere "madzi" anu ndikukhala omasuka komanso osangalala.