Ubwana wathu wonse amatisunga mosamalitsa. Sanatichotsere maso ndipo, monga mmene tikuonera, “anatitsamwitsa” ndi kudziletsa. Lingaliro lakuti amayi ayenera kuyamikiridwa chifukwa cha maphunziro oterolo likuoneka kukhala lopanda nzeru, komabe zimenezo n’zimene munthu ayenera kuchita.
Amafuna kudziwa zimene timachita, zimene timasangalala nazo, kumene tikupita komanso anthu amene timalankhula nawo. Iwo amaumirira kuti muyenera kuphunzira bwino, kukhala omvera ndi achitsanzo chabwino. Ali ndi zaka 8, izi sizikuvutitsa, koma pa 15 zimayamba kutopa.
Mwina muunyamata mumaona kuti amayi anu ndi adani anu. Anakwiya kwambiri chifukwa chotukwana, kuti sanamulole kupita kokayenda, kumukakamiza kutsuka mbale ndi kutulutsa zinyalala. Kapena amaonedwa kuti ndi wokhwima kwambiri chifukwa ankafuna kulamulira chirichonse, ndipo ankasilira abwenzi omwe anali ndi makolo "ozizira" ...
Ngati, pambuyo pa mkangano wina, munamvanso kuti: “Mudzandithokoza pambuyo pake!” Konzekerani kudabwa - amayi anali olondola. Izi zidapangidwa ndi asayansi aku Britain ochokera ku yunivesite ya Essex. Monga gawo la kafukufukuyu, adapeza kuti atsikana omwe adaleredwa ndi amayi "osalekerera" amakhala opambana m'moyo.
Zowathokoza amayi
Asayansi anayerekezera maphunziro amene ana amapeza komanso zimene amapeza pamoyo wawo. Zinapezeka kuti ana a amayi okhwima adalowa m'mayunivesite abwino kwambiri ndipo adalandira malipiro apamwamba poyerekeza ndi omwe amaloledwa kuchita chilichonse ali ana. Atsikana omwe ankawalamulira ali ana sapezeka kuti alibe ntchito. Kuonjezera apo, sakhala ndi ana ambiri ndipo amayamba mabanja ali aang'ono kwambiri.
Amayi amene aphunzira mwakhama iwo eni amakhala ndi mwayi wogwiritsa ntchito maphunziro a ana awo. Imodzi mwa ntchito zawo zazikulu ndikulimbikitsa mwanayo ndi chilakolako chopita ku koleji. Ndipo amamvetsetsa chifukwa chake izi zimachitikira.
Komanso, kulera ndi okhwima amaphunzitsa mwanayo kuti asabwereze zolakwa makolo, molondola kuona zotsatira za zochita ndi kukhala ndi udindo zisankho, mawu ndi zochita zawo. Kodi munadzizindikira nokha ndi amayi anu pofotokozera? Yakwana nthawi yomuthokoza pazimene anakuphunzitsani.
Mwapindula zambiri, kuphatikizapo chifukwa cha milandu pamene amayi anu "anakumangani manja ndi mapazi", kukuletsani kupita ku disco kapena kutuluka mochedwa. Kukhazikika kwake komanso kukhulupirika kwake nthawi zina kumakupangitsani kukhala mkazi wamphamvu, wodziyimira pawokha komanso wodzidalira. Mfundo zokhazikitsidwa zomwe zimawoneka ngati zankhanza komanso zachikale muubwana zitha kukuthandizani, ngakhale simungazindikire nthawi zonse.
Choncho yesetsani kuti musamadzudzule mayi anu pa zimene mukuganiza kuti analakwitsa. Inde, sizinali zophweka kwa inu, ndipo ndi zofunika kuzizindikira. Komabe, "mendulo" iyi ili ndi mbali yachiwiri: kulumikizana sikungakupangitseni kukhala munthu wamphamvu monga momwe mwakhalira.