Zamkatimu
Palibe chomwe chikuyima. Moyo umakhala wabwino kapena woipa. Timakhalanso bwino kapena oyipa. Kuti musataye chisangalalo cha moyo ndikupeza matanthauzo atsopano mmenemo, m'pofunika kupita patsogolo. Timagawana malangizo amomwe mungasinthire moyo wanu.
Mfundo ya chilengedwe chonse imati: zomwe sizikukulirakulira, mapangano. Inu mumapita patsogolo kapena kumbuyo. Kodi mungakonde chiyani? Mukukonzekera kuyika ndalama mwa inu nokha? Uwu ndi umodzi mwamaluso ofunikira kwambiri omwe Stephen Covey amatcha "kunola macheka."
Ndiloleni ndikukumbutseni fanizo ili: wodula matabwa amadula mtengo mosapumira, macheka sakhala obuntha, koma amawopa kuudula kwa mphindi zisanu kuti anole. Kuthamanga kwa inertia kumayambitsa zotsatira zosiyana, ndipo timagwiritsa ntchito khama ndikupindula zochepa.
“Kunola macheka” m’lingaliro lophiphiritsa kumatanthauza kudziika ndalama mwa inu nokha kuti mupirire zovuta ndi kukwaniritsa zolinga zanu.
Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino kuti mupeze phindu pazachuma? Nazi mafunso anayi omwe adzakhazikitse njira yopezera phindu. Mafunso abwino amathandizira kudzidziwa bwino. Mafunso akulu amabweretsa kusintha.
1. Ndinu ndani ndipo mukufuna chiyani?
"Sitimayo imakhala yotetezeka padoko, koma sizomwe idamangidwira." (William Shedd)
Aliyense amadziwa bwino za vuto la kulenga. Timakakamira nthawi ina, ndipo izi zimatilepheretsa kukwaniritsa zolinga zathu zatanthauzo. Kupatula apo, ndikosavuta kuyenda motetezeka, kugwiritsa ntchito zochitika zomwe zatengedwa kwinakwake panjira.
Funso ili lidzakuthandizani kuti muyambenso maganizo, kuyambira kumapeto. Mukufuna chiyani? Kodi zomwe mumakonda ndi ziti, zomwe mumakonda? Kodi zimakhudzidwa bwanji ndi zomwe mumachita? Kodi zikuwonekera m'ndandanda yanu?
2. Muli kuti ndipo mulipo chifukwa chiyani?
“Ukhoza kukhululukira mwana amene amaopa mdima. Chomvetsa chisoni kwambiri ndi pamene munthu wamkulu akuwopa kuwala. (Plato)
Woyendetsa sitimayo samayamba kugwira ntchito mpaka titafika poyambira pomwe takhazikitsa. Popanda izi, simungathe kupanga njira. Pamene mukupanga dongosolo la moyo wanu, ganizirani momwe mudafikira pomwe muli pano. Mutha kupanga zisankho zazikulu, koma zina sizigwira ntchito, ndipo mudzamvetsetsa chifukwa chake mukamazindikira zolakwika zamalingaliro ndi zochita zanu.
Pezani kaye mmene zinthu zilili musanayambe kuthana nazo. Sitingathe kuyendetsa zomwe sitikudziwa
Kodi muli kuti tsopano mogwirizana ndi komwe mukufuna kukhala? Mkangano wolenga pakati pa masomphenya anu amtsogolo ndi zenizeni zidzayamba kukukankhirani njira yoyenera. Ukadziwa kumene uli, zimakhala zosavuta kufika kumene ukufuna.
3. Mudzachita chiyani ndipo motani?
"Timakhala zomwe timachita mobwerezabwereza. Choncho, ungwiro si ntchito, koma chizolowezi. (Aristotle)
Cholinga ndi chilakolako ndizofunikira kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino, koma popanda ndondomeko yochitapo kanthu, ndi zongopeka chabe. Maloto akawombana ndi zenizeni, amapambana. Maloto amakwaniritsidwa pamene zolinga zakhazikitsidwa ndipo zizoloŵezi zabwino zimakhazikitsidwa. Pali phompho lakuya pakati pa komwe muli ndi komwe mukufuna kukhala. Ndondomeko yanu ndi mlatho umene udzawalumikizane.
Kodi mungakonde kuchita chiyani chomwe simukuchita panopa? Nchiyani chakuletsa iwe? Kodi mungatenge chiyani lero kuti mufike komwe mukufuna mawa? Kodi zochita zanu za tsiku ndi tsiku zimagwirizana nazo?
4. Kodi abwenzi anu ndi ndani ndipo angakuthandizeni bwanji?
“Awiri aposa mmodzi; ali ndi mphotho yabwino m’ntchito zawo: pakuti akagwa wina adzautsa mnzake. Koma tsoka kwa mmodzi akagwa, ndipo palibe wina womukweza. (Mfumu Solomon)
Nthawi zina zimaoneka ngati tili tokha paulendo wamoyo, koma sitiri. Tikhoza kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu, chidziwitso ndi nzeru za anthu otizungulira. Timakonda kudziimba mlandu tokha pamavuto onse komanso kuti tilibe mayankho a mafunso.
Nthawi zambiri zomwe timachita tikakumana ndi zovuta zimakhala zodzipatula ndikudzipatula. Koma nthawi ngati izi timafunikira chithandizo.
Ngati mutapezeka kuti muli panyanja, komwe mungathe kumira nthawi iliyonse, mungakonde chiyani - kuyitana wina kuti akuthandizeni kapena kudzidzudzula chifukwa chosasambira bwino? Kukhala ndi abwenzi ndikofunikira.
Tsogolo labwino limayamba ndikudzimvetsetsa nokha. Zomwe zimagwirizana kwambiri ndi kudzidalira komanso kudzidalira. Kudziwa nokha kumakupatsani mwayi wowongolera zomwe mumachita bwino komanso kuti musakhumudwe ndi zofooka zanu.
Mafunso anayiwa sadzakalamba. Amangopeza kuzama kochulukira komanso kuchuluka kwake pakapita nthawi. Zitsogolereni ku moyo wabwino. Sinthani zambiri kukhala kusintha.
Source: Mick Ukledji ndi Robert Lorbera Ndinu ndani? Mukufuna chiyani? Mafunso Anayi Amene Adzasintha Moyo Wanu» («Kodi Ndinu Ndani? Mukufuna Chiyani? : Mafunso Anayi Amene Adzasintha Moyo Wanu», Gulu la Penguin, 2009).