Ghost, benching, breadcrumbing, mooning... Neologisms zonsezi zimatanthawuza kalembedwe ka kulankhulana pazibwenzi ndi mapulogalamu okopana masiku ano, ndipo onse amafotokoza mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya kukana. Nthawi zina, njira zamaganizo izi zingawononge kudzidalira kwanu. Xenia Dyakova-Tinoku akuyesera kuti adziwe momwe angawazindikire komanso choti achite ngati mukukumana ndi "mzimu".
Chodabwitsa cha mizukwa palokha (kuchokera ku Chingerezi ghost — ghost) sizachilendo. Tonse tikudziwa mawu akuti "kuchoka mu Chingerezi" ndi "kutumiza kunyalanyaza." Koma m'mbuyomu, mu "nthawi isanakwane", zinali zovuta kuchita izi, mbiri ya othawa kwawo pakati pa abwenzi ndi anzawo anali pachiwopsezo. Mutha kukumana naye ndikumufunsa kuti afotokoze.
Pamalo a intaneti, palibe kuwongolera kotereku, ndipo ndikosavuta kuswa kulumikizana popanda zotsatira zowoneka.
Zimachitika bwanji
Mumakumana pa intaneti ndi munthu amene amafunitsitsa kulankhulana. Amapanga mayamiko, muli ndi mitu yambiri yofanana yokambirana, mwinamwake mudakumanapo "m'moyo weniweni" kangapo kapena kugonana. Koma tsiku lina amasiya kulankhulana, samayankha mafoni anu, mauthenga ndi makalata. Panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, mungapeze kuti amaŵerenga ndipo amakhala chete.
Anthu amachoka pa radar chifukwa safuna kumva kusapeza bwino chifukwa chosiyana nanu.
Mumayamba kuchita mantha: simukuyenera kuyankhidwa? Sabata yatha, mudapita kukanema ndikugawana zomwe mukukumbukira muli mwana. Koma tsopano mukuwoneka kuti simunalembedwe. Chifukwa chiyani? Zachiyani? Munalakwa chiyani? Zonse zidayamba bwino kwambiri ...
“Anthu amazimiririka pa chipangizo chanu pa chifukwa chimodzi: safuna kumva kusapeza bwino m’maganizo pofotokoza chifukwa chake unansi wanu sulinso wofunika,” akufotokoza motero Janice Wilhauer wochiritsira maganizo. — Umakhala mumzinda waukulu. Kuthekera kwa kukumana kwamwayi kumakhala kochepa, ndipo "mzimu" amangosangalala kwambiri ndi izi. Komanso, nthawi zambiri amasokoneza kulankhulana motere, zimakhala zosavuta kuti azisewera "chete".
Machenjerero amizimu opanda mphamvu amakhumudwitsa. Zimapangitsa munthu kukhala wosatsimikizika komanso wosamvetsetseka. Zikuwoneka kwa inu kuti mukunyozedwa, mwakanidwa, koma simuli otsimikiza kwathunthu za izi. Kodi ndikhale ndi nkhawa? Bwanji ngati chinachake chachitikira mnzanu kapena ali wotanganidwa ndipo akhoza kuyimba nthawi iliyonse?
Janice Wilhauer akunena kuti kukanidwa ndi anthu kumayambitsa malo opweteka omwewo mu ubongo monga ululu wakuthupi. Chifukwa chake, munthawi yovuta, chithandizo chosavuta chothandizira kupweteka chochokera ku paracetamol chingathandize. Koma kuwonjezera pa kugwirizana kwachilengedwe pakati pa kukanidwa ndi ululu, amawona zinthu zina zingapo zomwe zimawonjezera kusapeza kwathu.
Kulumikizana kosalekeza ndi ena ndikofunikira kuti munthu apulumuke, njira yosinthirayi idapangidwa zaka masauzande ambiri. Miyambo ya anthu imatithandiza kuzolowera zochitika zosiyanasiyana. Komabe, mizimu imatilepheretsa kutsatira malangizo: palibe njira yofotokozera zakukhosi kwathu kwa wolakwirayo. Nthaŵi zina, zingaoneke ngati tikulephera kudzilamulira tokha.
Momwe mungachitire ndi izi
Poyamba, a Jennis Wilhauer akulangiza kuti asamakhulupirire kuti kuchititsa alendo kwakhala njira yovomerezeka yolankhulirana popanda kulankhulana. Kuzindikira kuti mukukumana ndi mizukwa kumathandiza kuchotsa cholemetsa cha nkhawa pamoyo. “M’pofunika kumvetsetsa kuti kunyalanyazidwa sikunena kalikonse ponena za inuyo ndi mikhalidwe yanu. Ichi ndi chizindikiro chabe kuti mnzanuyo sanakonzekere ndipo sangathe kukhala ndi ubale wathanzi komanso wokhwima, "akutsindika Jennis Wilhauer.
The «Mzimu» akuwopa kukumana ndi zake ndi maganizo anu, akumanidwa chifundo, kapena dala mbisoweka kwa kanthawi kuti kukopa chidwi mu miyambo yabwino kunyamula. Ndiye kodi wamantha ndi wonyenga uyu ndi woyenera misozi yanu?