Tikusintha mosalekeza, ngakhale kuti sitizizindikira nthawi zonse. Kusintha kwa moyo kungatipangitse kukhala osangalala kapena okhumudwa, kutipatsa nzeru kapena kutikhumudwitsa. Zonse zimadalira ngati ndife okonzeka kusintha.
1. Maonekedwe a chiweto
Chiwerengero cha zokonda pansi pa zithunzi ndi amphaka pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti amalankhula momveka bwino za chikondi cha nyama za miyendo inayi. Izi si nkhani: ziweto zimapanga malo otonthoza, zimathandiza kuthana ndi nkhawa ndi nkhawa. M’nyumba za mphaka kapena galu, anthu sadwala matenda a mtima. Anthu ambiri amadzisankhira okha chiweto, chisamalire ngati wachibale.
Koma ngakhale galu wamba wamba kapena mphaka kuchokera kumalo ogona amatha kukhala osangalatsa kwa nthawi yayitali. Omwe amasewera ndi ziweto kwa mphindi 15 mpaka 20 patsiku amachulukitsa kuchuluka kwa serotonin ndi oxytocin, ma neurotransmitters omwe nthawi zambiri amagwirizanitsidwa ndi chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo. Zosinthazo ndizowonanso: mwa agalu, milingo ya oxytocin imachulukiranso mukakumana ndi eni ake.
2. Kukwatiwa
Kupsyinjika kumene timakhala nako pokonzekera ukwati kumapambanitsidwa ndi chisangalalo cha chiyembekezo chogwirizanitsa moyo ndi wokondedwa. Kuwonjezera pa phindu lodziŵika bwino, anthu okwatirana amalandira chitetezo cha m’maganizo—amavutika ndi kupsinjika maganizo kochepa, sakhala ndi chizoloŵezi chogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, ndipo amakhutitsidwa ndi iwo eni ndi moyo wawo kusiyana ndi osakwatiwa. N’zoona kuti mapindu amenewa amapezeka okhawo amene ali m’banja losangalala.
Njira ya amayi yothanirana ndi kusamvana imakhudzanso kumverana chisoni kwambiri ndikugwirizana ndi momwe akumvera.
M'mabanja osokonekera, mkhalidwe wamaganizidwe umakhala wopondereza, ziwopsezo zomwe zatchulidwazi zimakhala zoopsa kwambiri. Kupsinjika maganizo, nkhawa komanso kuzunzidwa m'maganizo kumakhudza kwambiri amayi. Ndipo sikuti amangotengera chilichonse pamtima.
Chifukwa chake chiri mu njira zothetsera kusamvana: kalembedwe ka akazi kumakhudzanso kumverana chisoni ndi kugwirizana ndi malingaliro a mnzawo, pamene amuna nthawi zambiri salabadira ndipo pakagwa mkangano amakonda kupeŵa kukambirana kosasangalatsa.
3. Kusudzulana
Kulekana ndi munthu amene poyamba ankakondedwa kwambiri kungakhale chiyeso chachikulu kuposa imfa yake. Zowonadi, munkhaniyi, timakhumudwitsidwa kwambiri - pakusankha kwathu, ziyembekezo zathu ndi maloto athu. Tikhoza kutaya mphamvu zathu ndikugwera mu kupsinjika maganizo kwakukulu.
4. Kukhala ndi ana
Pakubwera kwa ana, moyo umakhala wowala komanso wolemera. Ndi zomwe wamba amanena. Koma ziwerengero zikusonyeza kuti zinthu sizili bwino. Kafukufuku wa 2015 adawonetsa kuti makolo omwe amayenera kukhala ndi chidwi ndi nkhani za kuwonjezeredwa kwatsopano kubanja lawo ndi chisangalalo komanso chisangalalo. Koma kenako, magawo awiri mwa atatu a iwo adatsika m'chaka chachiwiri chakulera mwana, pomwe chisangalalo choyambirira chidadutsa ndipo moyo udabwerera kunjira yokhazikika.
Mimba iyenera kufunidwa, ndipo tiyenera kumva thandizo kuchokera kwa okondedwa, makamaka m'zaka zoyambirira.
Zowona, kufufuza koyambirira kumawonjezera chiyembekezo: lerolino, makolo ambiri sali osangalala kuposa zaka 20 zapitazo, koma amakhala achimwemwe kuposa awo omwe alibe ana. Ponena za mikhalidwe yomwe imatsimikizira ngati kubadwa kwa mwana kudzakhala kosangalatsa kwa ife, akatswiri a zamaganizo amavomerezana: mimba iyenera kukhumbidwa, ndipo tiyenera kumva thandizo kuchokera kwa okondedwa, makamaka m'zaka zoyambirira.
5. Imfa ya makolo
Ngakhale kuti tonsefe timakumana ndi zimenezi ndipo tingayesetse kudzikonzekeretsa pasadakhale, imfa ya wokondedwa wathu idakali yomvetsa chisoni. Kuti chisonicho chidzakhala champhamvu chotani chimadalira pa kugwirizana ndi khololo. Nthaŵi zambiri, amuna amalira kwambiri chifukwa cha imfa ya abambo awo, pamene atsikana amavutika kuvomereza imfa ya amayi awo.
Tikakhala achichepere, zimapweteka kwambiri. Ana amene makolo awo anamwalira ali aang’ono ali ndi mphamvu zofooka za chitetezo cha m’thupi ndipo amakhala pachiopsezo chachikulu cha kuvutika maganizo ndi kudzipha. Ngoziyo imakula ngati makolowo anali osasangalala ndipo anamwalira podzipha.