5 mphira magulu kwa «zoipa» mayi

Miyezi ingapo yapitayo, pamene ine ndi mwamuna wanga tinali kukonza chakudya chamadzulo, mwana wanga wamkazi wotsiriza anabwera kwa ine ndipo anatambasula dzanja lake kusonyeza chinachake pachikhatho chake. "Hey baby, uli ndi chiyani pamenepo?" - Ndinawona chinachake chamdima, koma sindinawone nthawi yomweyo chomwe chinali, ndipo ndinayandikira. Nditazindikira zimene ankandisonyeza, ndinathamangira kukatenga thewera, koma mofulumira ndinapunthwa chinthu china n’kugwera pansi.

Ndinapunthwa nsapato ya mwana wamkazi wapakati, yomwe adayiponya pakati pa chipindacho. "Bailey, bwera kuno tsopano!" Ndinakuwa. Anaimirira, n’kutenga thewera laukhondo, n’kunyamula wamng’onoyo n’kulowa m’bafa. "Bailey!" Ndinakuwa kwambiri. Ayenera kuti anali m’chipinda cham’mwamba. Nditawerama kuti ndisinthe thewera la mwanayo, bondo lomwe linagwedezeka linkawawa. "Bailey!" - ngakhale mokweza.

"Chani, amayi?" Nkhope yake inasonyeza kukhala wosalakwa, osati wanjiru. Koma sindinazindikile chifukwa ndinali nditayamba kale. “Simungaponye nsapato mumsewu wotero! Chifukwa cha inu, ndapunthwa ndi kugwa!” Ndinakuwa. Adatsitsa chibwano chake pachifuwa, "Pepani."

"Sindikufuna 'pepani' wanu! Osachitanso!» Ndinachitanso chisoni ndi nkhanza zanga. Bailey anatembenuka ndikuchoka ndi mutu wake wowerama.

Ndinakhala pansi kuti ndipumule nditatha kuyeretsa zotsatira za «ngozi» ndi thewera ndikukumbukira momwe ndinalankhulira ndi mwana wamkazi wapakati. Mphepo yamanyazi idandigwera. Ndine mayi otani? Kodi chalakwika ndi ine ndi chiyani? Nthaŵi zambiri ndimayesetsa kulankhula ndi ana mofanana ndi mwamuna wanga—mwaulemu ndi mokoma mtima. Ndili ndi ana anga aakazi aang’ono ndi aakulu, nthaŵi zambiri ndimapambana. Koma mwana wanga wamkazi wosauka! Chinachake chokhudza mwana wachinyamata ameneyu chimandikwiyitsa. Ndimasanduka ukali nthawi zonse ndikatsegula pakamwa panga kuti ndimuuze zinazake. Ndinazindikira kuti ndikufunika thandizo.

Tsitsi magulu kuthandiza aliyense «zoipa» mayi

Kodi ndi kangati komwe mwakhala ndi cholinga chochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kusintha zakudya zopatsa thanzi, kapena kusiya kuwonera masewera angapo madzulo kuti mugone msanga, ndipo patatha masiku angapo kapena milungu ingapo mumabwereranso kumalo omwewo. unayambira kuti? Apa ndipamene zizolowezi zimabwera. Zimayika ubongo wanu pa autopilot kuti musagwiritse ntchito mphamvu zanu kuchita chilichonse. Mukungotsatira zomwe mwachizolowezi.

M'mawa, kutsuka mano, kusamba, ndi kumwa kapu yathu yoyamba ya khofi ndi zitsanzo za zizolowezi zomwe timachita pa autopilot. Tsoka ilo, ndinayamba chizolowezi cholankhula mwano kwa mwana wapakati.

Ndinatsegula buku langa langa pamutu wakuti “Chotsani Zizolowezi Zoipa” ndipo ndinayamba kuliŵerenganso. Ndipo ndinazindikira kuti zomangira tsitsi zidzandithandiza kusiya chizoloŵezi choipa chochitira mwano mwana wanga wamkazi.

Momwe ntchito

Nangula zowoneka ndi chida champhamvu, chozikidwa pa umboni pakusiya zizolowezi zoyipa. Amathandiza kupewa kuchita zinthu mwachizoloŵezi. Ngati mukuyesera kusintha zakudya zanu, ikani chomata pa furiji yanu: "zokhwasula-khwasula = zamasamba zokha." Tinaganiza zothamanga m'mawa - tisanagone, ikani zovala zamasewera pafupi ndi bedi.

Ndinaganiza kuti nangula wanga wowoneka adzakhala 5 zomangira tsitsi. Chifukwa chiyani? Zaka zingapo zapitazo, pa blog ndinawerenga malangizo kwa makolo kuti agwiritse ntchito magulu a mphira kuti apeze ndalama ngati nangula wowonekera. Ndinangogwiritsa ntchito deta yofufuza kuti ndiwonjezere njira iyi ndikusiya chizolowezi choyatsa mayi wokwiya kamodzi kokha. Ngati mumakalipiranso mwanayo ndikudzilola kuti mukhale wolimba nthawi zambiri kuposa momwe mungafune, tsatirani izi.

Zoyenera kuchita?

1. Sankhani zomangira tsitsi 5 zomwe ndizosavuta kuvala padzanja lanu. zibangili zoonda nazonso ndizoyenera.

2. M'mawa, ana akadzuka, aike pa mkono umodzi. Ndikofunika kudikira mpaka ana ali maso chifukwa anangula owoneka sangagwire ntchito mutawazolowera. Choncho, ayenera kuvala ana akakhala pafupi, ndi kuchotsedwa ngati ali kusukulu kapena akugona.

3. Ngati mutakwiyitsidwa ndi mwana wanu, chotsani mphira imodzi ndikuyiyika mbali inayo. Cholinga chanu ndi kuvala zotanuka pamkono umodzi masana, ndiko kuti, kuti musalole kutsetsereka. Koma bwanji ngati simungathe kukana?

4. Mutha kubweza chingamu ngati mutatenga masitepe 5 kuti mupange ubale ndi mwana wanu. Muubwenzi wabwino, chochita chilichonse choyipa chiyenera kulinganizidwa ndi 5 zabwino. Mfundo imeneyi imatchedwa «matsenga 5: 1 chiŵerengero».

Palibe chifukwa chopangira chinthu chovuta - zochita zosavuta zingathandize kubwezeretsa kugwirizana kwamaganizo ndi mwana: kumukumbatira, kumunyamula, kunena kuti "Ndimakukondani", kuwerenga naye buku, kapena kumwetulira mukuyang'ana m'maso mwa mwanayo. . Osazengereza kuchita zinthu zabwino—yambani mutangochita zoipa.

Ngati muli ndi ana angapo, simuyenera kugula gulu lina lamagulu, cholinga chanu ndikusunga onse asanu padzanja limodzi ndikuwongolera zolakwa zanu nthawi yomweyo, kuti seti imodzi ikukwanireni.

Yesetsani

Pamene ndinaganiza zoyesera njira iyi ndekha, poyamba ndinali wokayikira. Koma njira zachizoloŵezi zodziletsa sizinathandize, panafunika chinthu china chatsopano. Zinapezeka kuti nangula wowoneka mwa mawonekedwe a magulu a mphira, mothandizidwa ndi kupanikizika pang'ono pa dzanja, kunakhala matsenga osakaniza kwa ine.

Ndinakwanitsa kupyola m’maŵa woyamba popanda vuto lililonse. Pa nthawi ya chakudya chamasana, ndinadzudzula mwana wanga wamkazi wapakati, ndikumukwiyitsa, koma mwamsanga ndinasintha n’kubweza chibangilicho pamalo pake. Chotsalira chokha cha njirayo chinali chakuti Bailey adakokera chidwi cha zotanuka ndikupempha kuti zichotsedwe: "Izi ndi za tsitsi, osati za mkono!"

Bailey anafunsa modabwitsa, "Kodi mukukhaladi supermom?" “Inde,” ndinayankha. "Hooray, amayi anga akhoza kuwuluka!" anakuwa mokondwera.

Kwa kanthawi ndinali ndi mantha kuti kupambana koyamba kunali mwangozi ndipo ndidzabwereranso ku ntchito yachizolowezi ya "mayi woipa" kachiwiri. Koma ngakhale patapita miyezi ingapo, chingamu chikupitirizabe kugwira ntchito modabwitsa. Ndimalankhula ndi mwana wamkazi wapakati mwachikondi komanso mokoma mtima, osati mokwiya, monga kale.

Ndinatha kudutsa popanda kukuwa ngakhale panthawi yachikhomo, kapeti, ndi chidole chofewa. Bailey atazindikira kuti cholemberacho sichimasamba, adakhumudwa kwambiri ndi zoseweretsa zake kotero kuti ndinasangalala kuti sindinamuwonjezere kukhumudwa ndi mkwiyo wanga.

Zotsatira zosayembekezereka

Posachedwapa, ndakhala ndikuwononga nthawi yambiri popanda zibangili zanga kuti ndiwone ngati khalidwe latsopano "likumamatira". Ndipo ndithudi, chizolowezi chatsopano chapindula.

Ndinapezanso zotsatira zina zomwe sindimayembekezera. Kuyambira pamene ndinayamba kuvala mabala a raba pamaso pa mwana wanga wa kusukulu, khalidwe lake lasinthanso. Anasiya kulanda zoseŵeretsa kwa mng’ono wake, analeka kuvutitsa mlongo wake wamkulu, ndipo anayamba kumvera ndi kuchitapo kanthu.

Chifukwa chakuti ndimalankhula naye mwaulemu kwambiri, amandiyankha chimodzimodzi. Chifukwa chakuti sindilalatira pa vuto lililonse laling’ono, iye safunika kundikwiyira, ndipo amandithandiza kuthetsa vutolo. Chifukwa amaona kuti ndimamukonda, amandikonda kwambiri.

Chenjezo lofunikira

Pambuyo pa kuyanjana kolakwika ndi mwana, zingakhale zovuta kuti muthe kumanganso ndikumanganso ubale. Cholinga chobwezera chibangilicho chiyenera kukuthandizani inu ndi mwana wanu kumva chikondi ndi chikondi.

Ndinapeza gwero lenileni la chimwemwe. Simungasangalale ngati mutawina lotale, kukwezedwa pantchito, kapena kulembetsa mwana wanu kusukulu yotchuka. Mukazolowera chilichonse mwazochitika izi, zidzasiya kukusangalatsani.

Chisangalalo chenicheni, chokhalitsa chimabwera chifukwa chogwira ntchito mwanzeru komanso kwanthawi yayitali kuti muchotse zovulaza ndikupeza zizolowezi zofunika.

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