Zamkatimu
Nthawi imadutsa, ndipo simungamvetsebe kuti ubale wanu uli pati? Munthu sasowa kwathunthu pa radar, koma kawirikawiri amaimba ndi kulemba? Akuwoneka kuti ali pafupi - amatumiza ma selfies, amauza zomwe zikuchitika m'moyo wake - koma samamulola kuti ayandikire kwa iye? Ngati izi zikumveka bwino kwa inu, mwina ndi nthawi yoti munene zachisoni kuti anthu ena amakuwonani ngati "bwalo la ndege".
Nthawi zambiri timamutenga ngati munthu wobwerera m'mbuyo yemwe amatikokera mwachikondi komanso pogonana. Winawake yemwe sitinagwirizane naye, koma yemwe titha kuyambitsa naye ubale ngati palibe njira yabwinoko. Mwina sitivomereza kwa ife tokha, koma nthaŵi zonse timatsimikiza kuti umu ndi mmene timachitira ndi munthu.
Koma mumamvetsetsa bwanji kuti nthawi ino inu nokha muli "pa benchi"?
1. Amalankhula nanu pafupipafupi, koma osati tsiku lililonse.
Mauthenga atatu kapena anayi pa sabata, mafoni angapo pamwezi, mauthenga angapo a selfie, maitanidwe angapo a khofi - munthu woteroyo samasowa pa mzere wa maso, amalumikizana, koma amawonekera nthawi ndi nthawi.
Akuwoneka kuti amatisunga pa chingwe - ndipo nthawi yomweyo amakhala kutali; amathera nthaŵi ndi ife m’njira yomukomera, koma satenga sitepe lotsatira.
Momwe mungakhalire? Ngati mwatopa ndi masewera otere, mukhoza kusiya kuyankha mafoni ndi mauthenga kwa masiku osachepera angapo, kapena, mosiyana, yambani kulemba ndi kuyitana tsiku lililonse. Ndipo onani zomwe anachita. Izi zidzakupangitsani kumveka bwino ndikuthandizira kuthetsa malingaliro ongoganizira chifukwa chake akuchita zinthu modabwitsa pafupi nanu.
2. Amakukopani koma sakubwezerani.
Mnzako amayamikira kapenanso malingaliro okhudzana ndi kugonana, koma ngati mubwereranso chimodzimodzi, amangosintha mutu kapena kutha. Ndi zonse zokhudza kulamulira zinthu - n'kofunika kuti interlocutor kusunga m'manja mwawo ndipo musalole zimene zikuchitika pakati pa inu kupita mlingo wotsatira, kukhala chinthu chachikulu kuposa ubwenzi chabe.
Momwe mungakhalire? Nthawi ina munthu akamanyalanyaza zoyesayesa zanu za kukopana, adziwitseni kuti mwawona njira iyi ndikumufunsa mwachindunji za zomwe zikuchitika, chifukwa chake akuchitira, ndi zomwe zikutanthawuza pa ubale wanu.
3. Misonkhano yanu imakusokonezani nthawi zonse.
Amaphonya ndipo akufuna kukumana, koma china chake chimasokoneza masiku - chimfine, kutsekeka kwa ntchito, ndandanda yotanganidwa, kapena zochitika zina zamphamvu.
Momwe mungakhalire? Kunena zowona, simunakonzekere kupitilizabe kungokhala pamakalata ndi mafoni. Ndipotu, maubwenzi ndi maubwenzi achikondi amafuna kulankhulana maso ndi maso nthawi zambiri.
4. Nthawi ya inu nonse nthawi zonse imakhala "yosayenera"
Chinachake chimasokoneza nthawi zonse osati pamisonkhano yanu yokha, komanso ndikusintha kwa ubale kupita kumlingo watsopano. Mwina munthuyo "sanakonzekerebe", kapena pali "chinachake chomwe chiyenera kukonzedwa", kapena "iwe ndi ine tinapangidwira kwa wina ndi mzake, koma ino si nthawi yoyenera." Ndizosangalatsa kuti pachilichonse - kusintha ntchito, kusuntha, tchuthi - nthawi ndi yoyenera kwambiri.
Momwe mungakhalire? Nthawi ndiye mtengo wathu waukulu, ndipo palibe amene ali ndi ufulu wongoiponya mozungulira. Ngati amene mumamukonda sanakonzekere kuti ayambe chibwenzi pakali pano, ndiye kuti mukhoza kupita patsogolo.
5. Ali kale pachibwenzi ndi winawake
Zikuwoneka kuti iyi si belu lowopsa chabe, koma belu lenileni, komabe, tikamakonda munthu, timakonda kunyalanyaza "zinthu zazing'ono" monga kukhalapo kwa bwenzi lomwe lingakhalepo mu theka lachiwiri - makamaka womwe ubalewo ukuwoneka kuti " watsala pang'ono kutha."
Njira ina ndi pamene munthu ali ndi ufulu mwadzina ndipo amakutsimikizirani kuti ndinu wangwiro, ndi chabe kuti "sanachoke kwathunthu pa ubale wapita" kapena "sali woyenera" inu panobe. Monga lamulo, izi sizimulepheretsa kukumana ndi ena - misonkhano yotereyi "sikutanthauza kanthu" kwa iye.
Momwe mungakhalire? Moyo ndi waufupi kwambiri kuti ungawononge iwo omwe sali okonzeka kukhala ndi ubale ndi inu. Lankhulani mosabisa chilichonse, ndipo ngati izi sizikupangitsani chilichonse, khalani omasuka kuzimitsa kulumikizana.
Muyenera kukhala ndi munthu amene amakukondani moona mtima ndipo akuchitapo kanthu kuti ayambe chibwenzi, m'malo mochita masewera, akukuwonani ngati "bwalo la ndege".