Zamkatimu
Lerolino, anthu ambiri amalankhula za kulinganiza moyo wantchito, koma kodi nkofunikadi? Inde, anthu ena amangopita ku ntchito mongoyembekezera, kapena amakhala otanganidwa ndi mabanja awo, koma kodi n’zoipadi choncho? Izi ndi zomwe Irina Pracheva, mphunzitsi ndi mlembi wa pulogalamu ya kusintha kwa amayi, akuganiza za izo.
1. Kumvetsetsa chomwe chikuyambitsa kusalinganika
Kusalinganizika kulikonse kumakhala ndi chifukwa, ndipo kuti athetse, ndikofunikira choyamba kuzindikira. Nthawi zambiri anthu amalowa molunjika kuntchito chifukwa cha kusowa chikondi, kumvetsetsa ndi ulemu kunyumba, mavuto ndi okondedwa - ndiko kuti, amayesa kubwezera zomwe samalandira m'banja chifukwa cha kupambana kwa akatswiri.
Makasitomala anga Elena, woyang'anira wamkulu wopambana komanso mayi wa ana atatu, m'mawa uliwonse samangopita, koma amawuluka kupita kuntchito. Kumeneko, omwe ali pansi pake amamupembedza ndipo mtsogoleri amamuyamikira, maganizo ake amamvera, ndipo mawu ake nthawi zambiri amakhala otsimikiza. Atawoloka pakhomo la ofesi, Elena amadziona kuti ndi wodalirika, wofunikira, wosasinthika. Amathera nthawi yochuluka kuntchito, amamupatsa zabwino kwambiri ndipo amakwera mofulumira makwerero a ntchito.
Ndipo mwamuna wake Oleg akumuyembekezera kunyumba. Sagwira ntchito, amathera nthawi yake yambiri pakompyuta ndipo amaimba mlandu ena chifukwa cha zolephera zake. Ngakhale kuti sanakwaniritse chilichonse, ali wotsimikiza kuti banja liyenera kumumvera. Oleg nthawi zonse amanyoza Elena, amapeza zolakwika mu maonekedwe ndi khalidwe lake. Palibe chikondi m'banja kwa nthawi yayitali, Elena samasudzula mwamuna wake chifukwa cha ana. Komanso chifukwa alibe nthawi yoganizira zomwe akufuna. Elena amangothawa kunyumba, kumene sakusangalala kwambiri, kukagwira ntchito, komwe amamva bwino.
Ngwazizo zinathawa mavuto a m’banja n’kupita ku ofesi. Chifukwa cha kusakhutira mu ubalewo panali kusokonekera
Wogula wanga wina, Alexander, adapanga ntchito mukampani mpaka zaka 35 ndipo nthawi imodzi adayendetsa mabizinesi angapo, amathera maola 16-18 kuntchito, ndipo ngakhale kumapeto kwa sabata anali otanganidwa ndi misonkhano yabizinesi. Pomaliza, atakwaniritsa zonse zimene ankafuna, Alexander anazindikira kuti zaka 13 m'banja, iye ndi mkazi wake anasamuka kwa wina ndi mzake ndipo analibe kanthu kulankhula, koma ana. Wokondedwa wanga nthawi ina anaumirira kuti mkazi wake asagwire ntchito ndi kusamalira ana, koma kenako anazindikira kuti zinakhala zotopetsa naye. Anayamba kuthawa kunyong’onyeka ndi nkhani zokhudza ntchito zapakhomo ndi kumathera nthawi yambiri ndi anzake amalonda.
Mwamwayi, adazindikira kuti mkati mwake munalibe kanthu, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti inali nthawi yoti asiye, ndipume pantchito yake. Atayang’ana pozungulirapo, anazindikira kuti ambiri mwa anzake anali m’mavuto apakati, akusudzula akazi awo. Koma iye sanafune kubwereza zimenezi, kunali kofunika kuti abwezeretse ubale wake ndi mkazi wake. Ndi pempho limeneli adadza kwa ine kuti tikambirane.
Chodziwika bwino m'nkhanizi ndikuti anthu otchulidwa adathawa mavuto am'banja kupita kuofesi. Chifukwa cha kusakhutira mu ubalewu, panali kukondera kwa ntchito ndi bizinesi.
2. Kufuna kusintha
Pofuna kuchotsa «zosokoneza», muyenera moona mtima kupeza bwino. Zikumveka trite, koma kuchita, ine nthawi zambiri kukumana mfundo yakuti makasitomala akudandaula kusowa mgwirizano pakati pa ntchito ndi banja, koma osati kuyesera kupeza izo, koma kwenikweni, sindikufuna. Ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo, amamva chisoni chifukwa chakuti amakhala ndi nthawi yochepa yocheza ndi banja, kapena amakhumudwa kuti alibe zokonda zina koma ntchito. Koma munthu akafunadi kusintha, china chilichonse chimakhala ndi luso.
Mwamsanga pamene Elena ndi Alexander anazindikira zifukwa zenizeni za kusalinganizika, anazindikira kuti akufuna kupeza mgwirizano, iwo anatha mwamsanga kumanganso miyoyo yawo.
Mu bizinesi, zonse zinali zophweka kwa Maria: iye ankadziwa zomwe ankafuna, ndipo anapita kwa izo, kudalira yekha
Makasitomala wina, Maria, adabwera kudzakambirana ndi pempho lotsatirali: akufuna kuti asakhale mwini wake wa cafe wamakono komanso nyenyezi ya Instagram (bungwe lochita zinthu monyanyira loletsedwa ku Russia), yemwe nthawi zonse amagawana zinsinsi zopanga bizinesi yopambana. atolankhani, komanso mkazi wokondedwa. Komabe, pamisonkhano, zidapezeka kuti Maria amakonda kukhala nyenyezi yazamalonda achikazi, ndipo akuwopa kuyamba kupanga maubwenzi atsopano (panthawiyo kasitomala wanga adasudzulana, adalera ana aamuna awiri okha ndipo sanakumbukire zomwe adakumana nazo. nthawi yomaliza anali pa chibwenzi).
Mumtima, Maria ankaopa kwambiri maubwenzi, kukumbukira ululu umene mwamuna wake wakale adamubweretsera. Mantha ndi zikhulupiriro zochepa zinamulepheretsa kuyenda m’njira imeneyo. Koma mu bizinesi, zonse zinali zophweka kwa iye: Maria ankadziwa zomwe ankafuna, ndipo anapita kwa izo, akudalira yekha. Choyamba chinali kuchotsa mantha ndi zikhulupiriro zabodza zokhudza amuna. Pambuyo pake adadzuka chilakolako chofuna kukumana ndi chikondi.
3. Khalani ndi cholinga
Mwamsanga pamene Elena ndi Alexander ankafuna kupeza chimwemwe m'banja, anadziikira cholinga kukwaniritsa mgwirizano pakati pa ntchito zawo ndi moyo. Kwa anthu ochita bwino, kukhazikitsa zolinga ndi chida chomveka komanso chothandiza. Onse awiri ankadziwa kuti kumene cholinga chawo chilipo, pali mphamvu, choncho, ngati tsiku lililonse amamvetsera kuti akwaniritse bwino, pamapeto pake adzakwaniritsadi.
Zotsatirazi zandithandiza kuti ndisamangoganizira za cholinga changa. Wanga "maloto owopsa" anali heroine wa filimuyo «Office Romance» Lyudmila Prokopievna, ndipo ndinayesera kudzipatula ku fano ili momwe ndingathere. Nthaŵi zonse ndadziikira cholinga cha kukhala wopambana osati m’ntchito yanga yokha, komanso m’banja langa, kuyesetsa kukhala olinganizika ndi ogwirizana. Ndinadzifunsa kuti: “Kodi ndingatani lero kuti ndisakhale ngati Lyudmila Prokopyevna?” - ndipo funsoli linandithandiza kusunga chidwi changa pa ukazi ndi kukongola.
4. Pangani masomphenya omveka bwino
Kuti mukhale ndi cholinga choyenera, muyenera kupanga masomphenya omveka bwino a mgwirizano pakati pa ntchito ndi banja. Ndikoyenera kuchita izi osati nokha, koma ndi okondedwa: mwanjira iyi mudzadziwana bwino ndikumvetsetsa zomwe zili zofunika kwa banja lanu. Izi zimagwirizanitsa, zimapereka chidziwitso cha anthu. M'mabanja ena, zimatenga milungu ingapo kuti apange masomphenya a moyo wawo wabwino: mamembala onse apabanja akuphatikizidwa muzochita ndi kusangalala nazo.
Simuyenera kudumpha sitepe iyi, chifukwa zitha kupezeka kuti ana anu ali ndi zilakolako ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana okhudzana ndi mgwirizano. Kugwira ntchito pa masomphenya a moyo wabwino, mwachitsanzo, Mikhail anapeza kuti kukhalapo kwake pa mpikisano n'kofunika kwambiri kwa mwana wake. Mnyamatayo ankafuna kuti bambo ake azimuthandiza, amuthandize, komanso azinyadira zomwe anachita. Koma simuyenera kupita naye ku maphunziro m'mawa. Ngati sanakambitsirane zimenezi ndi mwana wake, ndithudi akanayesa kukonzanso ndandanda yake kuti atenge mnyamatayo, koma akanapitiriza kuphonya mpikisanowo.
5. Gwiritsani ntchito Njira ya SMART
Cholinga choyamba - kupeza mgwirizano pakati pa ntchito ndi banja - chiyenera kukhazikitsidwa malinga ndi luso la SMART. Chilembo chilichonse chomwe chili m'dzina chimabisa njira zogwirira ntchito: S (Zachindunji) - makamaka, M (Zoyezera) - zoyezeka, A (Zotheka) - zotheka, R (Zoyenera) - zofunikira, T (Zomwe Zilipo Nthawi) - zochepera panthawi yake.
Cholakwika chofala ndikukulitsa bar. Mwachitsanzo, Vladimir ndi maximalist ndipo amagwiritsidwa ntchito kukhala woyamba pa chilichonse. Posankha kuwongolera maunansi ndi mkazi wake, iye anachipanga kukhala chonulirapo chake chobwerera kunyumba tsiku lililonse XNUMX koloko madzulo. Cholinga ichi chinakhala chosatheka komanso chosatheka: kwa zaka zambiri adagwira ntchito mpaka khumi madzulo, ndipo kusintha mwadzidzidzi ndondomekoyi kumatanthauza kuyika bizinesiyo pangozi. Tinasintha cholinga chake: Vladimir anasankha kuti azibwera kunyumba kaŵiri pamlungu pasanathe XNUMX koloko madzulo kudzalankhula ndi mkazi wake. Kwa banja lawo, uku kunali kupita patsogolo kwakukulu, ndipo adakwanitsa kuchita popanda kupsinjika kwina komanso zotsatira zoyipa pantchito.
Mwa kukhazikitsa cholinga molingana ndi njira ya SMART, tikhoza kuchitapo kanthu ndipo tsiku lililonse titengepo kanthu kakang'ono pafupi ndi moyo wogwirizana ndi wosangalala.