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“Akwiyitsa chotani nanga!”, “Ndili wopenga”, “Sindikuleza mtima mokwanira” — ambiri a ife timaganiza mofananamo pa tsiku la ntchito. Koma kukwiya koopsa si chinthu chomwe chingathandize ntchito. Momwe mungathanirane ndi mkwiyo komanso kupindula nawo, akutero mphunzitsi Melody Wilding.
Aliyense wa ife kuntchito posachedwa amakhala ndi chifukwa chokwiya.
Timagona usiku wonse pa ntchito, yomwe kenako imatumizidwa ku zinyalala;
kasitomala amayamba kudzudzula aliyense popanda chifukwa;
anzako, monga mwachizolowezi, akuchedwa ku msonkhano, ndipo muyenera kutenga ntchito yonse yokonzekera.
Kuyambira mukhoza kuwira. Ndipo simungathenso kuika maganizo anu pa ntchito yofulumira komanso yofunika kwambiri.
Malingaliro anu amapita kunkhondo-kapena-kuthawa, ndipo "mumachita," kutanthauza kuti mumataya malingaliro anu, mumadzudzula ena kapena nokha, ndikukhumudwa. Munthawi imeneyi, mumakhala pachiwopsezo chonena zomwe pambuyo pake mudzanong'oneza nazo bondo.
Koma mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo sizingangowononga ntchito, komanso zimathandizira, akutero mphunzitsi komanso psychotherapist Melody Wilding. Iye anati: “N’zofala kwambiri kukhala ndi maganizo osiyanasiyana, kuphatikizapo kupsa mtima. - Kutengeka maganizo kumadza nthawi ya ntchito mofanana ndi moyo waumwini - ndipo izi sizoyipa konse. Kugwira ntchito ndi malingaliro anu (ndipo ndikofunikira kuphunzira!) ndiye chinsinsi chanzeru zamalingaliro, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kukhala mtsogoleri ndikuchita bwino kwambiri. Ukali ukhoza kulimbikitsa ndi kupatsa mphamvu kuthetsa mavuto a ntchito. "
Dziuzeni kuti: “Zimene ndikuona kuti n’zachibadwa, koma panopa sizili bwino kwa ine.”
Mwa kuphunzira kulamulira mkwiyo wanu, mungapangitse kusakhutira kwanu kukhala kolimbikitsa ndi kupeza zimene mukufunikira popanda kudziŵika kuti ndinu waukali. Melody Wilding amapereka njira zisanu zochitira ngati chinachake kuntchito chikukukwiyitsani.
1. Osalimbana ndi malingaliro anu
Mkwiyo ukabuka, nthawi zambiri timayamba kuimba mlandu ena kapena kuyesetsa kuti mtima wathu ukhale pansi. M’malo mwake, vomerezani kuti mkwiyo uli ndi kuyenera kwa kukhalapo. Ndi njira yachisinthiko yokhazikika mwa ife. Iyi ndi njira yathu yothanirana ndi zoopsa komanso zowopseza moyo wabwino.
Nthawi ina mukadzamva mkwiyo ukubwera, kumbukirani kuti simungaupewe. M’malo mwake, pezani njira yochotsera mkwiyo wanu uku mukukhalabe odzilemekeza osati kudzivulaza. Dziuzeni nokha, "Zomwe ndikumva nzachilengedwe, koma sizabwino kwa ine pakadali pano." Kuvomereza zomwe mukuchita ndikwabwino kusiyana ndi kulimbana nazo chifukwa zimakukhazika mtima pansi ndikusintha maganizo anu kuthetsa vutolo.
2. Imitsani Maganizo Okhazikika
Ngati mutaya mtima, chinthu choyamba kuchita ndikupeza njira yochepetsera malingaliro omwe amayambitsa mkwiyo. Njira yakuthupi yotulutsira vutoli idzakuthandizani ndi izi: yendani, chokani pa desiki yanu ndikuyitana mnzanu, kapena kupuma pang'ono.
Kuona m’maganizo ndi njira ina yothanirana ndi mkwiyo. Ganizirani m'maganizo mwanu panthawi yomwe mwakwiya. Mukuwoneka bwanji, mukumva bwanji, mukuti chiyani? Kodi mumakonda chithunzichi? Ndiyeno lingalirani mmene mukuchitira mwanzeru mkwiyo wanu, kuthetsa mkhalidwewo modekha ndi momangirira.
Mwakulingalira m’maganizo njira zosiyanasiyana zochitira ndi mkwiyo, mudzauletsa ndi kusalola kulamuliridwa.
3. Phunzirani zomwe zimayambitsa mkwiyo
Ndi chiyani kapena amakwiyitsa ndani? Samalani zomwe zikuchitika komanso anthu omwe akuzungulirani panthawi yomwe mukuyamba kukwiya kuti muyembekezere zomwe zingachitike mtsogolo ndikuyamba kuziwongolera.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati mnzanu akukwiyitsani, nthawi ina mukadzagwira naye ntchito, yesani kupuma kuntchito. Adzapangitsa kuti zitheke kusokoneza kukula kwa digiri yamalingaliro ngati (kapena) akwiyitsa, ndikuchotsa zomwe zimachitika zokha. Palibe amene amakonda kukwiya, ndikudikirira ndikuwerengera zowopsa pasadakhale, mutha kukhala osonkhanitsidwa komanso odekha.
Lankhulani ndi munthu wokhumudwayo m’njira imene (kapena kuti) angakonde
4. Sankhani Mawu Anu Mosamala
Ngati mwasankha kukumana ndi munthu amene akukukwiyitsani, dziwani ndipo fotokozani mmene mukumvera. Ndikofunikira kuwalankhula chifukwa amachepetsa kusamvana komanso kumathandiza kusonkhanitsa malingaliro, malingaliro ndi zikhumbo. Lankhulani ndi munthu wokhumudwayo m’njira imene (kapena kuti) angakonde. Mwachitsanzo, ngati amayamikira kulunjika ndi zolinga zomveka bwino, kumbukirani izi pofotokoza vuto. Mufunseni kuti afotokoze mmene zinthu zilili mmene iye amazionera. Khalani omasuka ndi omasuka kukambirana.
5. Ganizirani za yankho, osati vuto
Kuyang'ana pa zomwe zimakwiyitsa ndikosavuta komanso kosangalatsa. Koma izi ndi poyambira. Kutafuna chakukhosi n’kovulaza chifukwa pamafunika nthawi ndi mphamvu kuti muthetse mavuto, zomwe zimachititsa kuti musamachite zinthu zoipa. M’malo mwake, yang’anani pa zimene mungaphunzire pa mkhalidwewo kuti muupeze mopindulitsa.
Pewani zongopeka ngati "Nthawi zonse amafuna kuti ndifotokoze popanda kundipatsa nthawi yokonzekera."
M’malo mwake, yesani kunena kuti, “Ndinachedwa ndi lipotilo chifukwa ndinafunsidwa mphindi yomaliza. Izi zachitika kale. Kodi tingawongolere bwanji ndandanda kuti tipewe zimenezi m’tsogolomu?”
Pantchito yanu yonse, mudzakumana ndi mkwiyo koposa kamodzi. Kuti ukhale mtsogoleri, uyenera kuyang'aniridwa. Onetsetsani kuti muli ndi luso lofunikira ndikuwongolera mkwiyo moyenera komanso mwaukadaulo m'njira yomwe ingabweretse phindu lantchito m'kupita kwanthawi.