Zizindikiro 6 za munthu wopusa

Ndine munthu wokonda umunthu, kotero ndikutsimikiza kuti kupusa ndi malingaliro osakhalitsa, monga kukhwima kwa khanda. Komabe, sindingalakwitse ngati ndingaganize kuti chifukwa cha kupusa kwanga, anthu ambiri sasangalala monga mmene amafunira. Ndipo ngakhale okondedwa awo - ndipo makamaka.

Koma tiyeni tiwone chomwe ndendende utsiru umadziwonetsera ndi momwe ungatetezere osati okhawo omwe amachita ndi munthu woteroyo, komanso iye mwini, kuti asangalale ndi moyo.

1. Chitsiru chimangolankhula za iye mwini.

Kulankhulana kulikonse kumatanthauza kukambirana, ndipo munthu wokhwima maganizo kaŵirikaŵiri amamvetsetsa kuti iyi ndi njira yopatsirana chidziŵitso. Kusinthana, osati kubzala. Zimachitika, ndithudi, kuti munthu ayenera kulankhula pamene chinachake chachitika - zimachitika kwa aliyense. Koma ngati tikukamba za solo ya pathological, pamene interlocutor alibe mwayi woyika mawu osachepera, osanenapo kanthu, tikuchita ndi chitsiru.

Ndipo musandilankhule za umunthu wa narcissistic. Zonse zomwe zili zofunika pankhaniyi ndikuti munthuyo sanazindikire kuti kumvetsera ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pakupeza chidziwitso cha moyo. Kuonjezera apo, khalidweli ndi lofunika kwambiri poyankhulana mwaubwenzi. Ndipo ngati ine ndekha ndikumvetsera, ndiye bwanji osasangalatsa wina? Pali ophunzitsa ambiri anzeru tsopano.

2. Pali anthu ambiri, iye amafuula

Ndisungitsa nthawi yomweyo, pali zochitika zapadera, zachisoni - koma zikakhala choncho palibe mafunso ngati "Kapena ndi chitsiru chabe?". Sindikunena za iwo, koma za anthu opusa omwe nthawi zambiri amalowetsa kusowa kwakuya ndi tanthawuzo mwamphamvu.

Tangoganizani: malo odyera, magetsi osasunthika, anthu akulankhula, wina akugwira ntchito pa laputopu, wina ali ndi msonkhano wabata wabata. Apa ndi apo, phokoso limawonjezeka pang'ono: iwo anaseka, iwo anapereka moni kwa iwo amene anabwera ... Ndipo mwadzidzidzi, pakati phokoso momasuka, mawu zosasangalatsa za dona amene amauza interlocutor tsatanetsatane wa moyo wake. Ndipo palibe aliyense wa iwo amene alipo amene angasiyidwe.

Sitikufuna kumvetsera, makamaka popeza sizosangalatsa, zopusa, zopanda pake ... Koma umu ndi momwe ubongo wathu umagwirira ntchito: timakakamizika kumvetsera phokoso lakuthwa, chifukwa moyo umadalira. Ndipo tsopano malo odyera onse amaperekedwa kutsatanetsatane wa chisudzulo ...

Osungulumwa omwe ali ndi mwayi wokhala ndi laputopu ali ndi mwayi - ali ndi mahedifoni ndipo, akuyang'ana kukayikira kwa wophwanya mawu omveka, akufulumira kumasula waya. Awiriwa amalipira mwachangu ndikuthawa: zonse zikungoyamba kwa iwo, ndipo kusudzulana kwa anthu ena ndi nkhani yosayenera kwambiri. Mayiyo akuyitanitsa vinyo wambiri, mawu ake akumveka mokweza. Ndipo ngakhale iwo omwe amakhala mumsewu wamsewu adamva kale za kupusa kwake ...

Mwachisawawa, malamulo a makhalidwe abwino amabwera m'maganizo. Iwo, monga buku la malangizo a ketulo, ali osapusitsidwa m'njira zambiri. Ziwonetsero zopusa mwa ine ndekha.

3. Chitsiru chimanyalanyaza zosowa za wolankhula naye

Kodi ali ndi chidwi? Sali wotopa? Mwina akufunika kusamuka, koma sakupeza kapumidwe koyenera? Mu mpweya umodzi, munthu woteroyo amadzaza danga lonse. Ndizovuta makamaka kwa anthu osakhwima omwe amawopa kukhumudwitsa, kukhala osayenera.

Kusowa kwa mayankho kumalankhula za kudzilungamitsa kwa khanda. Olumikizana oterowo ali ngati mwana yemwe sanapatsidwe chifundo, yemwe sangamvetsetse kuti amayi ake atopa ndi kumukokera pa sled kwa kilomita khumi ndi zisanu ndi zitatu. Kotero iwo, kumbali imodzi, akuwoneka kuti akuwonekera momveka bwino: "Ngati simukukonda chinachake, ingonenani." Ndipo kumbali inayo - eya, yesani, ndiuzeni. Malipiro chifukwa cha madandaulo anu - zikomo, osati lero.

4. Munthu wopusa amaopa chilichonse.

sindipita kumeneko - ndi zimenezo. Sindikufuna kupita kuno, kuli uko. Komabe, kufunafuna kosalekeza kwa zone yachitetezo ndi chitonthozo kumalepheretsa chisinthiko. Malingaliro aliwonse amoyo pachisinthiko ichi amakhala ndi njala ndipo amapeza njira zothetsera mantha awo paokha kapena kupempha thandizo. N’kupusa kulola mantha kuyambitsa moyo.

Palinso mbali ina ya ndalama—pamene munthu athamangira kunkhondo popanda kuyeza kuopsa kwake ndi kusayerekezera ndi mphamvu zake. Ndi zopusa zingati zomwe zachitidwa pa kulimba mtima kumeneku! Koma mtundu wachiwiri uwu wa «okwera pamahatchi opanda mitu» udakali pafupi ndi ine kuposa omwe akudikirira, omwe amawopa chilichonse.

Mwa kuchita kanthu kena, munthu amapeza chidziŵitso, ngakhale chitakhala choipa, mtundu wina wa nzeru. Ndipo nchiyani chimene chiri chokumana nacho ndi nzeru za munthu amene amakhala mkati mwa mipanda inayi ndipo, chifukwa cha kunyong’onyeka, amayesa kokha kupeza njira yabwino koposa ya TV? ..

5. Chitsiru sichikayikira maganizo ake.

Malingaliro anga, uku ndiko kutalika kwa kupusa. Onani gawo lililonse la sayansi, momwe malingaliro asinthira pakapita nthawi. Chinachake chinkaonedwa kuti n’choona, chosatsutsika, ndiyeno kutulukira kumodzi kunatembenuza dongosolo lonse lachidziŵitso ndipo zikhulupiriro zakale zinasanduka chinyengo chambiri m’tsiku limodzi.

Kuonjezera apo, kuganiza kolimba, pamene munthu sadziwa kusinthasintha ndikuganizira chidziwitso chatsopano, ndi njira yolunjika ku Alzheimer's. Ndi zomwe kafukufuku wamakono akunena. Koma ndani akudziwa, mwina asintha malingaliro awo…

6. Munthu wopusa amagawa zinthu kukhala zakuda ndi zoyera.

Makhalidwe a magulu, makamaka kuchulukitsidwa ndi kuuma, ndi chizindikiro china cha kupusa. Waphonya nthawi - muli ndi topographical cretinism. Ndi zimenezotu, mudzakhala choncho kwa moyo wanu wonse. Kusazindikira ma halftones, mawonekedwe a nkhani ndi momwe zinthu zilili - izi sizodziwika kwa anthu anzeru.

…Mawu awa ndi chitsanzo cha magawano otere. Kugawa anthu kukhala opusa ndi anzeru ndi kupusa kwambiri. Ndipotu, munthu aliyense ali ndi nkhani yake ndi zochitika zake, zomwe zinachititsa kuti pa nthawi ino ya moyo munthu amangolankhula za iye yekha, sayang'ana ndi interlocutor wake, kapena anagwidwa ndi mantha.

Aliyense wa ife nthawi zina amatha kuchita mopusa, kotero chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe tingachite ndikulunjika ku moyo wathu wamkati ndikupereka chidwi chachikulu kudziko lotizungulira.