Zinthu 6 zomwe simuyenera kuzisintha kwa okondedwa anu

1. Kulumikizana kwanu ndi achibale anu ndi anzanu

“Ngati mnzanuyo amakukondani, adzayesetsa kuchitira mabwenzi ndi okondedwa anu mokoma mtima ndi mwaulemu,” anatero Christina Wilke, dokotala wa mabanja ku Pennsylvania. Izi zikutanthauza kuti sangakhumudwe ndikupangitsa nkhope yowawa poyankha kuperekedwa kuti mupite ku tchuthi lofunika labanja ndi makolo anu. Sadzanena mawu achipongwe pokambirana za zovuta pamoyo wa bwenzi lanu lapamtima.

“Simungangothetsa ubwenzi wa zaka zambiri kapena kuyanjana kwapafupi ndi achibale pa chisonkhezero cha bwenzi,” akufotokoza motero katswiriyo. Ndipo n’zokayikitsa kuti mungayambe kukhulupirirana ndi munthu amene amakukakamizani kusankha pakati pa iyeyo ndi anthu amene mumawakonda m’njira yanuyanu.”

2. Zolakwa zanu

Tonse timabwera mu ubale ndi kuchuluka kwa katundu. Aliyense ali ndi zofooka zake zapadera zomwe zapanga ndikutanthauzira moyo.

“Munthu woyenerera nthaŵi ndi mphamvu zanu adzapeza njira ya kukonda chirichonse chokhudza inu, kuphatikizapo kupanda ungwiro kwanu,” akutero Betsy Ross, katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku Massachusetts. - Kuwona zabwino zokhazokha mwa mnzanu, kunyalanyaza makhalidwe ake osakometsera kwambiri, ndizoopsa: palibe munthu m'modzi m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku amene angakhalebe wopanda pake m'zonse kwa nthawi yaitali. Panthawi ina, zidzakhala zosatheka kuti musaone nsapato zitaponyedwa pakati pa msewu, mbale zonyansa mu sinki, kapena ndemanga zopanda pake nthawi iliyonse. Ndipo ngati theka lina likana kuzindikira zofooka zanu, posapita nthaŵi mudzakhala ndi mikangano.

3. Makhalidwe abwino

“Ngati mukufuna unansi wolimba, musasinthe makhalidwe anu,” akuchenjeza motero mphunzitsi wa zisudzulo Kira Gould. - Chikondi chenicheni chimachokera pa zokambirana za anthu omwe ali owona kwa iwo eni. Poyesera kusakhala yemwe muli kuti musangalatse mnzanu, mumatopa msanga.

Kukhala bodza kumafooketsa. Makamaka, kusintha lingaliro lanu la banja, ulemu ndi kudzidalira, za (un) uzimu, kapena nkhani zachitetezo chachuma mokomera zikhulupiriro za mnzanu ndi njira yakufa yomwe nthawi zambiri imabweretsa kusokonekera kwa maubale. Ambiri aife tili pafupi ndikumvetsetsa chikhumbo chonse chofuna kukondedwa ndikuvomerezedwa, koma chosowa ichi sichiyenera kuwononga "Ine" yathu yeniyeni.

4. Zolinga za moyo

Zolinga zomwe mudali nazo musanakumane ndi theka linanso zisasinthe kwambiri chifukwa ndinu amodzi mwa theka la awiriwa.

“N’zoona kuti mungathe kulakalaka limodzi ndi kukonzekera limodzi za m’tsogolo, koma siziyenera kulepheretsa zolinga za moyo wapadziko lonse,” akutero Amy Kipp, dokotala wa mabanja wa ku Texas. “Zolinga zanu zizigwirizana, osati kupikisana. Ngati mwakhala mukugwira ntchito nthawi zonse, mnzanuyo ayenera kuthandizira mayankho omwe angakuthandizeni pantchito yanu.

Ngati kubadwa kwa ana ndizomwe mudalota nthawi zonse, simuyenera kugawana ndi malotowa kuti musangalatse mnzanuyo. Nkhani zofunika zoterozo ziyenera kukambidwa kumayambiriro kwenikweni kwa unansiwo, kotero kuti aliyense adzimveketse yekha ngati zolinga zanu ziri zofanana.”

5. Makhalidwe omwe amakupangitsani kukhala apadera

Kodi anzanu amati chiyani za inu akakudziwitsani kwa wina m'gulu lawo? Kodi ndinu okoma mtima ndi oganizira ena? Wanzeru modabwitsa komanso oseketsa?

“Kaya mikhalidwe yanu yowala, yapadera yotani, musailole kuzimiririka ndi kufa pamodzi m’moyo wanu,” akulangiza motero Marni Feuerman, dokotala wa mabanja wa ku Florida. - Ngati anthu ambiri aona kuti khalidwe lanu ndi lochititsa chidwi, musasinthe chifukwa chakuti munthu m'modzi yekha, mnzanu, amakudzudzulani.

Mwina amakuchitirani nsanje, ochezeka komanso osavuta kupita, kwa anzanu. Kapena amakonda kuwerengera ndikukonzekera chilichonse, ndipo kudzipereka kwanu ndi chikondi chaufulu zimamukwiyitsa. Njira imodzi kapena imzake, koma pamene mnzanu akukhulupirira kuti chinachake chiyenera "kuwongoleredwa" mwa inu, tengani izi ngati chizindikiro chochenjeza: kodi ndi bwino kupitiriza ubale wotere.

6. Zokonda zanu

Mukuchita masewera a mpira kapena mukupereka chithandizo kumapeto kwa sabata, koma posachedwapa mwakhala mukusiya zochitikazo, mukukonda kukhala ndi mnzanu. Kumayambiriro kwa ubale, panthawi ya chibwenzi komanso kudziwana bwino, kusintha kotereku kumakhala kwachilengedwe.

“Zimakhala zovuta kuti okondana asiyane, ngakhale kwanthawi yochepa. Komabe, musataye mtima pa zilakolako mwa kuchepetsa moyo ku maubwenzi atsopanowa, akuchenjeza Debra Campbell, katswiri wa zamaganizo wa banja ku Melbourne. - Wokonda atha kukhala m'modzi mwa anthu ofunikira kwambiri m'moyo wanu, koma kulumikizana ndi zinthu zina zachikondi, zokonda, masewera, ntchito zopanga ndizofunikira.

Zokonda ndi zabwino pa maubwenzi aumwini: chisangalalo ndi kukhutitsidwa komwe timapeza pochita zomwe timakonda kumawonjezera chilakolako. Panthawi ngati imeneyi, ndife owoneka bwino kwambiri ndipo chifukwa chake timakopeka kwambiri ndi bwenzi komanso zosangalatsa kwa ife tokha. Osataya mtima pazomwe zimakusangalatsani. ”