Psychology

Kumene, kulankhula za «onse» amuna ndi «onse» akazi sakanakhala kwambiri. Tonse ndife osiyana kwambiri, ndipo aliyense amafunikira zosiyana. Chifukwa chake, sitikugawana malamulo opambana azimayi, koma malingaliro omwe ali oyenera kuwaganizira.

Amuna masiku ano ayiwala momwe angagonjetsere akazi. Mzimayi wina atangokopa chidwi chake, mwamunayo akuyima ndipo ... akuyamba kunena mawu akuti: "Ndiwe wokongola kwambiri!" "Chifukwa chiyani uli wekha?" "Tiyeni tipite kwinakwake pamodzi", "Sindili ngati enawo." Ndithudi akazi ambiri amvapo izi koposa kamodzi. Zikumveka zabodza, zosaona mtima, koma pazifukwa zina tsopano zavomerezedwa.

Malinga ndi wolemba nkhani Anthony D'Ambrosio, amuna asiya kuyesetsa kwambiri pa maubwenzi. Choncho analemba mndandanda wa zinthu zimene sayenera kuiwala.

1. Khalani oona mtima

Simuyenera kudalira kukakamizidwa kwambiri, simungapeze mapointi pa izi. Kubwerezabwereza kukongola kwake, kapena kudula foni yake usana ndi usiku, simungakope chidwi chake. Chedweraniko pang'ono. Ngati, m'malo mwake, inu nokha mukuwonetsa kusatheka ndikunamizira kuti simukuzindikira, ndiye kuti simungathe kuchita bwino. Zonsezo ndi mawonetseredwe chabe a kusakhwima.

M’malo mwake, khalani owona mtima. Mudzisunge. Simuyenera kuchita ngati kuti ndi chinthu china chomwe mukuyesera kuti muchigonjetse. Mchitireni ngati mkazi amene mukuyesera kupeza ulemu wake. Siyani malingaliro anu achiphamaso, yesani kuwamvetsetsa bwino. Monga ngati inu, iye amagwira ntchito, amaganiza, amakonza chinachake, amamanga moyo wake mwanjira ina. Onetsani chidwi pazochitika zonse za moyo wake watsiku ndi tsiku.

Yankhani ku SMS yake, tengani foni akamayimba. Mukamuchitira kanthu, chitani kuchokera pansi pamtima. Ngati amakukondani, mungaphunzire kuyamikira mbali zonse za moyo wake. Ndipo iye, nayenso, adzaphunzira kukuyamikirani ndi kukulemekezani, kukudalirani.

2. Khalani otsimikiza

Chidaliro chimawonekera m'mawu anu, ndipo makamaka muzochita zanu. Amamva m'mawu anu, amawona m'maso mwanu, amawamva m'mayendedwe anu. Mwanjira ina, khalidwe lanu limamuuza kuti, “Ine ndine mwamuna amene mukufuna. Ndikufuna kukupanga iwe wanga." Adzamva nthawi yomweyo, ngakhale popanda mawu.

Ngakhale kuti nthaŵi zonse pamakhala zopinga m’moyo, musalole kuti maganizo anu akutaye. M’malo mwake, muzinyadira mmene mumamvera ponena za iye. Asakhale ndi chifukwa chofunira munthu wina. Ngati mukuvutika ndi kusatetezeka ndi nsanje, mudzangokwaniritsa zomwe zimamukankhira kutali ndi inu. Mudzawononga mwayi wonse womanga ubale wabwino. Choncho lekani kudera nkhawa amuna ena.

Nthawi zonse padzakhala wina wokongola, wanzeru, wopambana kuposa inu. Ngati mumaganizira nthawi zonse, simungakhutire nokha. Inu nokha simudzakhala okondwa, ndipo simudzakhala ndi zinthu zomukondweretsa iye. Ngakhale atakupatseni nthawi yochepa kwambiri, imakhala ngati chiwonetsero cha chidwi. Khalani otsimikiza ndikugwiritsa ntchito zomwe mwapatsidwa.

3. Khalani wokhazikika

Pamene tikukula, moyo wathu umakhazikika. Tsiku lililonse timakonzekera, ndipo nthawi zambiri sitikhala ndi nthawi yokwanira yochitira chilichonse. Pumulani dongosolo lamisalali, lolani kuti muzichita modzidzimutsa.

Palibe chifukwa chokonzekera msonkhano - ingomuyitanani ndikumupempha kuti apite, mwachitsanzo, kumapiri kukakumana ndi m'bandakucha, kapena kuyenda mozungulira mzindawo usiku wonse, kukonza picnic ku paki, kupita naye ku sewero lake lomwe amakonda kapena konsati ya jazi. . Pali dziko lonse lotizungulira lomwe lingathe kupezeka kunja kwa ndondomeko iliyonse.

Nthawi zabwino kwambiri m'moyo nthawi zambiri zimachitika zokha, ndipo sitingathe kuneneratu. Madeti okhazikika ndi otopetsa pang'ono, bwerani ndi china choyambirira.

4. Sonyezani ulemu

Amuna nthawi zambiri amaiwala kuti mkazi sayenera kuchitidwa ngati «bwenzi lawo». Ayenera kukhala ndi maganizo ena. Lamulo loyamba: osalumbira naye, musanene mawu opweteka - ndizonyansa. Kodi mumalakalaka kuti wina alankhule choncho ndi mwana wanu wamkazi?

Gwirani chitseko kutsogolo kwake, muthandizeni kukhala pansi patebulo pokokera mpando. Musamange maubwenzi onse pa kugonana - onetsani kuti iyeyo ndi wofunikira kwa inu, kuti si chinthu chogonana kwa inu. Kutsegulirana wina ndi mnzake pamlingo wapamtima ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zosangalatsa kwambiri paubwenzi wonse.

Mumapanga mgwirizano womwe umalimbikitsa chilakolako chanu. Ndiyeno kugonana sikulinso kugonana, koma chinachake chochuluka. Adzalimbikitsidwa kupatsidwa ulemu woterowo, ndipo chikhumbo chake chidzangokulirakulira.

5. Khalani okondweretsa kwa iye

Amayi azindiwongolera ngati ndikulakwitsa kunena kuti amakopeka ndi amuna olankhula bwino. Luntha ndiye chida champhamvu kwambiri mu zida zanu zankhondo.

Yesani kuphunzira china chatsopano tsiku lililonse, kukulitsa chidziwitso chanu m'dera lomwe limamusangalatsa. Zikakhala gawo la moyo wanu, mutha kulota limodzi, kupanga mapulani, kupanga moyo wanu wamtsogolo ndikusintha malingaliro anu kukhala zenizeni. Lembani zokambirana zanu ndi tanthauzo. Lankhulani zomwe zimakulimbikitsani ndikukulimbikitsani.

Inde, mutha kukopa munthu wokhala ndi mawonekedwe kapena akaunti yolimba ya banki, koma mutha kugonjetsa moyo ndi umunthu wanu.

6. Khazikani mtima pansi

Monga mukudziwira, mukakhala chete, m'pamenenso mumakhala. Akazi amapeza kuleza mtima kokopa kugonana. Mukuwoneka kuti mukunena kuti: Ndine wokonzeka kudikirira, chifukwa ndinu oyenera. M’pofunika kukhala woona mtima ndi woona mtima, kumulemekeza, kumuyamikira monga mkazi. Kenako, mwina mudzalandira mphoto yomwe mwaiyembekezera kwa nthawi yaitali. Ndipo ngati sichoncho, ndiye kuti izi ndi zachilendo. Mphindi iliyonse ya moyo ndizochitika zathu, palibe chifukwa chotaya.

7. Khalani mwamuna

Dziko lapansi ladzaza ndi anthu omwe amakhala opanda chilakolako komanso opanda cholinga. Safuna kukhala pachiwopsezo motero amawopa kutsegulira mkazi. Amafunafuna akazi okongola kwambiri ndipo amayesa kuwagonjetsa podzinamizira kuti sali munthu, kuti agwiritsidwe ntchito ndi kusiyidwa pamene wina wokongola mofanana akuwonekera m'chizimezime. Nthawi zina amabwerera n’kulumbirira kuti zinthu zikhala bwino tsopano.

Ndipo nthawi zonse ndi bodza. M'malo mwake, khalidweli silikupangani kukhala mwamuna - limakupangitsani kukhala wotayika wosatetezeka. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna kuti mukwaniritse ndendende, ndiye kuti muzimuyamikira, kumulemekeza, kumuthandiza kukula, kumuthandiza, kumuuza momwe alili wabwino. Ngati mukuona kuti mwachita bwino kwambiri, chitani zina. Ngati simungathe, musataye nthawi yanu, ndipo koposa zonse, nthawi yake.

Pamapeto pake, zilibe kanthu kuti muli ndi ndalama zingati kapena mukuwoneka wokongola bwanji. Chofunika kwambiri ndi chakuti mungamupangitse kumva kuti ndi wapadera. Ndiye pali mwayi woti adzakukondani popanda kukumbukira. Ndipo ikatero, pitirizani kuigonjetsa mobwerezabwereza.

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