Zamkatimu
Mwina banja lililonse limalota za ubale wathanzi komanso wosangalatsa. Koma kodi n’chifukwa chiyani mapangano ena amatha kuthana ndi mavuto alionse, pamene ena amalephera kukumana koyamba ndi zopinga? Mwayi wa ukwati wokhalitsa ukuwonjezeka kwambiri ngati onse okwatirana ali ndi makhalidwe ena, akutero mphunzitsi ndi mlangizi pa chitukuko chaumwini ndi luso la maubwenzi Keith Dent.
Ngati mwawerenga mabuku ambiri ndi nkhani zokhudzana ndi maubwenzi, mwinamwake mwawona kuti pali mfundo ziwiri zotsutsana pa funso losankha bwenzi. Akatswiri ena amatsimikizira kuti "zotsutsana zimakopa", ena kuti, m'malo mwake, ndi bwino kufunafuna munthu yemwe ali wofanana ndi ife momwe tingathere.
“Koma zoona zake n’zakuti, kaya umunthu wanu umagwirizana kapena zilibe kanthu kwenikweni,” akutero mphunzitsi Keith Dent. Moyo wabanja uliwonse uli wodzaza ndi zovuta, ndipo chikondi sichinthu chokhacho chomwe chimasunga ubale wabwino. “M’mabanja ena anthu okwatirana amafanana m’makhalidwe, enanso safanana nkomwe. Kuchokera muzondichitikira ine ndikhoza kunena: onse a iwo akhoza kukhala pamodzi mosangalala mpaka kalekale.
Chofunika kwambiri ndi chakuti okondedwa ali ndi makhalidwe enaake.
1. Kutha kuvomereza popanda kuweruza
Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mumvetsetse ndikuvomereza mnzanu ndi mawonekedwe ake onse, kuphatikiza osati zokondweretsa kwambiri.
Ngati muyesa kukonzanso bwenzi lanu la moyo, ukwati wanu udzayamba kutha. Sizongochitika mwangozi kuti munasankhapo munthu ameneyu ndi zophophonya zake zonse. Kuphatikiza apo, palibe amene amakonda kumvera kudzudzulidwa, ndipo ena amazitenga ngati chipongwe.
2. Kukhulupirika kwa mnzanu
Kukhulupirika ndi chizindikiro cha mgwirizano wamphamvu pakati panu. Ndikofunika kuti mufune kupulumutsa banja - osati chifukwa cha udindo, koma chifukwa ndinu gulu limodzi ndipo ndinu otsimikiza kuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mukhalebe pamodzi.
3. Kudalira
Kodi munayamba mwakumanapo ndi banja losangalala momwe m'modzi amapangira zisankho zonse kwa onse awiri? Izo sizichitika. Aliyense wa okwatirana ayenera kutsimikiza kuti mnzakeyo amuthandiza pazochitika zilizonse ndipo nthawi zonse azilemekeza malingaliro ake, malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro ake. Pachifukwa ichi, chidaliro ndi luso lomvera ena ndizofunikira.
4.Kuona mtima
Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti muzitha kulankhula momasuka za zomwe mukukumana nazo. Nthawi zambiri ndife ochenjera kapena kubisa malingaliro athu enieni, chifukwa, podziwa bwenzi, timamvetsetsa kuti malingaliro athu kapena uphungu wathu udzakhala wosavomerezeka. Zikatero, osanama kapena kubisa zinazake, yesani kupeza njira yolankhulira zomwe mukuganiza, koma mwanjira yomwe mnzanuyo angazindikire.
5. Kutha kukhululuka
Mu ubale uliwonse, kusamvana, zolakwa, mikangano, kusagwirizana ndizosapeweka. Ngati okwatirana sadziwa kukhululukirana, ukwati sukhalitsa.
6. Kutha kuyamika
Ndikofunika kuti muthe kuyamikira zonse zomwe wokondedwa wanu amakupatsani, popanda kuziganizira mozama, ndikukhala ndi maganizo oyamikira mwa inu nokha.
7. Kuchita nthabwala
Nthawi zonse ndi bwino kuseka kusiyana ndi kusagwirizana kwanu. Kukhala wanthabwala kumathandiza kuti muzikondana wina ndi mnzake komanso kuchepetsa mikangano pakapita nthawi. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mudutse nthawi zovuta muubwenzi.
Za wolemba: Keith Dent ndi mphunzitsi, chitukuko chaumwini ndi luso laubwenzi.