Mfundo ina yodziwika bwino yokhudza kugonana. Zimatsutsidwa ndi akatswiri athu, ofufuza za kugonana Alain Eril ndi Mireille Bonyerbal.
Alain Eril, psychoanalyst, sexologist:
Kuchokera pamalingaliro a physiology, mkazi amatha kukhala ndi ma orgasms angapo, nthawi yomwe sipadutsa mphindi zitatu. Koma 3% yokha ya akazi amakwaniritsa "ambiri orgasm", popeza psychological factor apa ipambana physiology: akazi ambiri sakonda kugwiritsa ntchito luso lawo, mosadziwa mantha.
Ponena za mwamuna, pambuyo pa kutulutsa umuna ayenera kudutsa gawo lochira, pamene sangathe kukondwera, ngakhale ali pachikondi mpaka misala.
Amuna ena amangofuna kupangitsa mkazi kukhala ndi ma orgasms angapo kuti atsimikizire kuti ali ndi umuna wawo.
Pano, funso lochititsa chidwi kwambiri likuwoneka kwa ine momwe mwamuna amathera nthawi yomulekanitsa kuchokera ku gawo lotsatira la kudzutsidwa. Angasute pamene akuyembekezera kuti chilengedwe chiziyenda bwino, kapena angapitirizebe kukhudzana ndi mkazi amene adakali wodzutsidwabe. Pamapeto pake, zidzalimbikitsidwa ndi chikhumbo cha wokondedwayo, ndipo kwa maubwenzi pakati pa awiriwa izi zimakhala zopindulitsa kwambiri.
Mireille Bonierbal, psychiatrist, sexologist:
Mawu akuti "wopandamalire" amandidabwitsa chifukwa amaika chikhalidwe china. Kuchokera pamalingaliro amthupi, akazi amatha kuchita izi, koma kwa ena, orgasm imodzi ndiyokwanira. Komabe, amuna ena, okhazikika pa lingaliro ili la "infinity", ndithudi amafuna kukakamiza mkazi kukhala ndi ma orgasms angapo kuti adzitsimikizire okha za makhalidwe awo amphongo.
Kenako amayerekezera zimene akwanitsa kuchita ndi za mnzawo. Zikapezeka kuti akufunika nthawi yochulukirapo kuti achire (ndipo kwa amuna, gawo lochira limatha kuyambira mphindi zisanu mpaka usiku wonse), ndiye amasankha kuti pali cholakwika ndi iwo ndikupita kwa dokotala. Pakadali pano, kugonana mwa anthu osiyanasiyana kumasiyana mosiyanasiyana, kukhalabe mkati mwanthawi zonse.