Kulera mwana kumabweretsa chisangalalo chochuluka, koma nthawi zonse si nthano. Nazi zinthu zina zofunika kudziwa momwe mungathanirane ndi nthawi zachisangalalo komanso zovuta.

Kutengera ana ndi njira yayitali komanso yovuta: makolo amtsogolo amakumana ndi zoyankhulana zambiri, kudikirira nthawi zina kumatenga zaka zingapo, nthawi zonse ndikuwopseza kuti zonse zidzathetsedwa mphindi yomaliza.

Munthawi ya latency iyi, kukhazikitsidwa kwa ana kungakhale koyenera. Mwanayo atakhala wanu, ndikukhala ndi inu, mwadzidzidzi muyenera kukumana ndi zovutazo. Banja lopangidwa ndi kulera limabweretsa pamodzi mbiri zovuta: makolo, omwe nthawi zambiri sanapambane kukhala ndi pakati mwachilengedwe, ndi mwana, yemwe wasiyidwa.

Sitiyenera kupeputsa mavuto amene banja latsopanoli lingakhale nawo, ngakhale atakhala osapeŵeka. Komabe, kuzindikira ndi kuyembekezera mavuto oterowo ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yowazungulira.

Kulera ndi kopambana zonse msonkhano. Ndipo monga momwe zimakhalira ndi zochitika zonse, zomwe zikuchitika panopa zimadutsa kapena zimapachikidwa. Aliyense wa anthu okhudzidwa amafunikira mnzake, komabe kugwirizana kungatenge nthawi. Nthaŵi zina chikondi chimakwirira makolo ndi ana mofanana. Zimachitikanso kuti ubale wa chidaliro ndi chifundo umamangidwa pang'onopang'ono.

Palibe chitsanzo chimodzi, palibe njira yopita patsogolo. Chilonda chosiyidwa ndi chachikulu. Ngati pali kutsutsa maganizo kwa mwanayo, yesetsani kukhalabe ndi chiyanjano chakuthupi ndi iye, kuti mumuzolowere kukhalapo kwanu. Kudziwa mmene moyo wanu ulili kungakuthandizeninso kuumvetsa. Mwana amene sanasonyezedwe chikondi sangachite mofanana ndi mwana amene wakumbatiridwa ndi chisamaliro chochuluka kuyambira pamene anabadwa.

M'mitundu yonse ya kulera, kulera komanso kubereka, ubale wa kholo ndi mwana umadutsa nthawi yabata ndi chisangalalo, komanso zovuta. Kusiyana kwake n’kwakuti makolo amanyalanyaza zakale za mwana asanaleredwe. Kuyambira masiku oyambirira a moyo, khandalo limalemba zambiri zokhudza malo ozungulira. Akamazunzidwa kapena kuchitidwa nkhanza, ana oleredwa ndi makolo ena oleredwa ndi makolo awo akhoza kuyamba kudwala matenda obwera chifukwa chongokondana kapena kuchita zinthu zoopsa akamakula.

Kumbali ina, makolo olera, akayang’anizana ndi mikhalidwe yovuta, mopepuka amakhala ndi chizoloŵezi chokayikira kuthekera kwawo kolera mwanayo. Mulimonsemo, kumbukirani kuti palibe chomwe chikuyenda: mkuntho umadutsa, maubwenzi amasintha.

Nkofala kwambiri kwa makolo olera kukhala ndi vuto losalingalira bwino: liwongo la kusakhalapo kwa mwana wawo asanaledwe. Zotsatira zake, amawona kuti akuyenera "kukonza" kapena "kulipiritsa", nthawi zina ngakhale kuchita zambiri. Kumbali ya mwana wotengedwa, makamaka paunyamata, makamaka nkhani yake ikhoza kutchulidwa ngati alibi: amalephera kusukulu, amachulukitsa zopanda pake chifukwa adatengedwa. Ndipo pakabuka mkangano kapena chilango, amatsutsa kuti sanapemphe kuti aleredwe.

Zindikirani kuti kupanduka kwa mwanayo ndi kwabwino: ndi njira yodzichotsera yekha ku zochitika za "ngongole" momwe amadziwonera yekha ndi banja lake lomulera. Komabe, ngati nyumba yanu ikukakamira m’chisonkhezero choterocho, n’kothandiza kupeza chithandizo kwa sing’anga, amene amalankhula kwa makolo ndi ana mofanana. Kukumana ndi mkhalapakati wabanja kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo kungakuthandizeni kuthetsa mikangano yambiri.

Kulera mwana ndiko koposa zonse gwero la chisangalalo chosaneneka: pamodzi mumayambitsa banja lomwe limadutsa malamulo achilengedwe. Yankhani mosakayikira mafunso amene mwanayo amakufunsani, kuti azitha kudzimanga bwino. Ndipo kumbukirani kuti kudziwa komwe kudachokera ndikofunikira kwambiri: musamatsutse. Moyo umene makolo ndi ana amakhalira limodzi ndi wosangalatsa kwambiri. Ndipo mosasamala kanthu za mikangano yomwe idzabuka mosapeŵeka, nthawi ndi kukhwima zidzathandiza kuwachotsa ... monga banja logwirizanitsidwa ndi mwazi!

Ubale wa makolo olera ndi mwana umadzazidwa ndi chisangalalo ndi zovuta: banja "lokonzedwanso" lili ndi masiku ake abwino ndi oipa, monga mabanja onse. Kumvetsera, kusunga kulankhulana kwabwino, kuchitira chifundo, popanda kunena kuti chilichonse chinachokera ku nkhani ya kulera ana ena, ndi makiyi ofunikira kaamba ka moyo wabanja wogwirizana.