Nthaŵi zina amaliranso, amakhala ndi mantha ndi kusadzidalira ndipo amafunikira chithandizo chamaganizo. Ndipo palibe njira yabwinoko yodzipezera nokha ndikuchotsa mantha kuposa kampani yachimuna. Lipoti lochokera ku maphunziro a Paris komwe amayi saloledwa kulowa.
Paris School of Gestalt Therapy imapereka maphunziro amasiku atatu kwa amuna okha. Pa izo, mtolankhani wa Psychologies adawona kufunika kodziteteza, kuopa kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso mphamvu ya misozi yolumikizana. Anabwerera ku ofesi ya mkonzi atasinthidwa ndikufotokozera momwe zinalili.
Zotsutsana ndi zamakono
"Tadpole ameneyo ali kuti?"
Pa tsiku lachitatu la makalasi kunali koyenera kupeza totem nyama. Ndinasankha nsomba. Kwa kubalana, imakwera kumtunda. Zowopsa panjira iyi ndizosawerengeka, ntchitoyo ndi yovuta. Komabe, amakwanitsa. Mtsogoleriyo anandipempha kuti ndigone pansi. Kenako anapempha anthu anayi ongodzipereka kuti andikhale chagada, ndipo ndinafunika kuyesetsa kudutsa mumitembo yowundanayi. Ndipo panthawiyo ndinamva momwe Oscar yemwe anali wamwano kwambiri, wamanyazi kwambiri1, amene wandikwiyitsa kuyambira tsiku loyamba, akugwetsera nthiti zanga makilogalamu makumi asanu ndi anayi a kulemera kwake ndi kuseka kuti: “Kodi tadpole uyu ali kuti?”
Mmodzi wa zochita nawo kujowina atatu: awiri ankaimira makolo, bambo ndi mayi, ndipo wachitatu anali "mwana" litapiringizika pakati pawo.
Maphunzirowa anandikopa ndi mawu ake akuti: “Ngati ndiwe mwamuna, bwera!”. Kukopa uku kwa umuna, kudzutsa chikhalidwe: kumakhala bwanji kukhala mwamuna? Kwa ine, ponena za amuna ena khumi ndi awiri omwe adasonkhana pansi pa denga ili kumidzi ya Norman, ili si funso lodziwonetsera.
- Pali anyamata ambiri omwe akupera ndudu zawo pakhomo, ndizowopsa! - Eric, yemwe ndinakumana naye kuti ndimwe patatha maphunziro, amakumbukira mantha ake poyambitsa: "Ndili mwana, sindinkatha kupirira malo omwe munali amuna okha. Zonsezo zipinda zovekera. Uku ndi kugonana ndi nyama. Kukhalapo kwa mkazi kumandipatsa chidaliro. Ndikhala bwanji kuno? Nanga bwanji zokopa? Ndimakonda kunyengerera ... "Iye anamwetulira: mpumulo wotero tsopano kuyankhula za izo momasuka. “Ndinkadziwa kuti pakati pathu pali anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndinali kuopa kuti ndidzafunidwa, ndi kuti kuseri kwa mantha awa kubisika zokhumba zanga. Ndinaseka. “Tangoganizani, ndipo ndinapempha kuti andiike m’chipinda chapadera!” Tadutsapo kale izi…
amuna amaliranso
Titangoyamba kumene maphunzirowo, tinakakamizika kukhudzana wina ndi mnzake, mosasamala kanthu za zikhumbo za kugonana. Izi mwina ndizomwe zimachitika m'magulu azibambo, ndipo ndizofala kwambiri pamankhwala a Gestalt, pomwe zokumana nazo zimagwira ntchito yofunika kwambiri.
Kukumbatira, kumverera thupi laumunthu lofunda komanso losangalatsa, kugwedeza kwachifundo pa mkono, pamapewa ndi gawo la ntchito yomwe timapatsidwa.
Chimodzi mwa zochitika zomwe zimakhudzidwa ndi kujowina atatu: awiri anali makolo, abambo ndi amayi, ndipo wachitatu anali "mwana" wopindika pakati pawo. "Aliyense anakumbatirana, ndizogwirizana kwambiri." Kukumbukirako kudapangitsa Erik kuchita tsinya. “Zinali zovuta kwa ine. Ndinasowa mpweya. " Kenako anatiuza za malo amene anakuliramo: mayi wopondereza, bambo wopanda nkhope.
Komano, pamene aliyense asintha malo ndi ena onse, izi zinapangitsa kukhala kotheka kukumana ndi malingaliro otsutsana kwambiri, kuyambira pakutonthozedwa ndi chitonthozo mpaka kupsinjika maganizo ndi nkhawa. “Mwana amene timamuopa kumuphwanya,” ndinakumbukira motero. "Timaopa ndipo tikufuna kuphwanya." "Ndipo nthawi zina - chisangalalo chachikulu. Pochokera kutali kwambiri,” anawonjezera motero.
Kupatula apo, tonsefe timakhala ndi nkhawa zofanana: kulakalaka, kunyengerera, zovuta ndi abambo, mayi wopondereza kapena chisoni chifukwa cha kutayika kwake koyambirira, kuopa kukhala yekha.
Mawu anatuluka. Kufotokozera kwamalingaliro - kuphatikiza nthawi zina kulephera kumva - pamodzi ndi kukhudza kumatanthawuza magulu a amuna. Yesetsani kuyang'anana m'maso. “Ndine mmodzi wa anthu amene amachitira nkhanza ana anga,” anatero mmodzi wa ife. - Kukwiya kwambiri. Ndikufuna kuwapha. Ndimawakonda, koma nditha kuwapha. " Panali chete. Sikunali kudzudzula amene analankhula, koma kukhala chete kuyembekezera china. Kenako mawu adamveka kuti: "Nditeronso." Kenako wina. Ambiri aife tinaluma m'maso. “Inenso,” ndinatero. - Ndipo inenso". Kulira kwakukulu, kulira kwakukulu. "Nditero, inenso nditero." Ndinamva kukhudza kwachikondi, kotonthoza pa dzanja langa. Kukhala mwamuna si izo zokha, komanso izonso.
Ma Illusions Otayika
Pagulu la amuna, funso la kugonana limabukanso. Za kugonana kosiyana.
Timalankhula mosapita m’mbali, makamaka popeza tasonkhana m’magulu a anthu atatu kapena anayi, monga ngati m’khola. “Pamene ndimloŵa ndi zala ziŵiri, zitatu, ndiyeno zinayi, ndimakhala woyandikana kwambiri kuposa pamene ndichita ndi chiŵalo, chifukwa chakuti iye sali wolandira ndi waluso monga nsonga za zala zake,” Daniel akugawana nafe. tsatanetsatane wotero, kuti tonse tili ndi chinachake choti tiganizire. Mark akutenga pansi: "Ndikafuna kupeza mwamuna, chirichonse chiri chophweka: Ndikufuna kumuyika pabulu." Ndipo izi, nazonso, zimatilowetsa m'malingaliro.
Daniel anati: “Sindinachionepo motero. Tonse tinaseka. Ndipotu, tonsefe timakhala ndi nkhawa zofanana: chilakolako, kunyengerera, zovuta ndi abambo, amayi olamulira kapena chisoni chifukwa cha kutaya kwake msanga, mantha a kusungulumwa. Ndipo nthawi zina timamva ngati anyamata ang'onoang'ono m'thupi lachimuna. “Ndakalamba kale, ndipo sindikudzukanso monga momwe ndinkakhalira,” mmodzi wa owonetsa mwambowo anavomereza motero. "Mulungu akudziwa momwe ndimakondera!" Potency ndiye mphamvu yathu yofunikira, koma ngati mukuganiza kuti ilowa m'malo mwa chilichonse, imangokhala chinyengo. Palibe chomwe chimakhala kwamuyaya, monga momwe Abuda amanenera.
Anyamatawo anakhala amuna
Pakhonde pomwe timamwa chakumwa, Eric akutenga mtedza: "Ndinaphunzira kuchokera ku maphunzirowa momwe kulili koopsa kuzindikiridwa ndi erection yako. Kwa nthawi yayitali ndimaganiza kuti kuti akhalebe wosangalala, mwamuna ayenera kukhalabe ndi potency. Tsopano ndikudziwa kuti ndi bwino kusiya zinthu izi. " Izi ndi zokumbukira zabwino. Zokoma. Madzulo tinakumana, aliyense amene analipo, patebulo lalitali lamatabwa.
“Monga amonke,” anatero Eric.
“Kapena amalinyero,” ndinalingalira motero.
Vinyo adatuluka pamenepo. “Ayi, kwenikweni,” bwenzi langa anawonjezera, “ndinafikira kuganiza kuti kukhala wopanda akazi kwa masiku ochepawo kunali kosangalatsa kwambiri. Sindinafunikire kunyengerera aliyense!”
Kukhala kwa masiku angapo opanda akazi kunali kosangalatsa kwambiri. Pomalizira pake sindinafunikire kunyengerera aliyense!
Inde, panalinso choncho ndi «tadpole». Ndili mnyamata, ndinkatchedwa «tadpole mu zitini» chifukwa cha magalasi.
Ndinavutika. Ndinali wamng'ono, wosungulumwa komanso wovala magalasi. Ndiyeno mwadzidzidzi, patapita zaka, pamene ndinayesetsa kukhala nsomba, ndekha pamaso pa khoma la anthu, chigumukire munthu uyu, ndi fungo lawo, kulira amuna, tsitsi, mano, ndinadzimva ndekha kugwa mu phompho ubwana. , kumene chirichonse, o zomwe ndinapempha - pat wochezeka, dzanja lolimbikitsa paphewa. Ndipo nkhanza imeneyo iyenera kuti inathyola nthiti yanga! Kenako mtsogoleri wina wophunzitsa analowererapo kuti andimasulire. Koma awa sanali mathero. “Tsopano, menyani! Menyani ndi chimbalangondo. "
Oscar anali chimbalangondo. Nkhondoyo inalonjeza kuti idzakhala yopambana. Ndinamenyana ndi mwamuna kuwirikiza kulemera kwanga. Yemwe pamapeto pake adavomereza kwa ife kuti adazunzidwa ndi anzake a m'kalasi. Iye anali wamtali kwambiri, wamtali kwambiri, ndipo anali wamanyazi kotero kuti sanayese kudziteteza: Pambuyo pake, iye ankafuna kukondedwa, koma sankadziwa kuti nthawi zina kunali koyenera kulimbana ndi izi, ndipo chifukwa chake ananyozedwa. kunyansidwa ndi kumenyedwa ndi mikwingwirima. Tinalimbana. Oscar sananditeteze nthiti zanga. Koma kugwira kwake kunali kolimba ndipo maso ake anali aubwenzi komanso ofewa. “Tayani zonse zimene mwasonkhanitsa. Khalani mfulu.» Ali ndi liwu lakuya, liwu la munthu.
1 Pazifukwa zachinsinsi, mayina ndi zina zaumwini zasinthidwa.