Psychology

Kukopa kumalingaliro kumapanga malingaliro ndi zikhalidwe zoyenera. Izi ziyenera kuganiziridwa. kuti, pamene kuli kogwira mtima, kukopa malingaliro a mwana kumagwira ntchito kwa ambiri, koma osati onse, ana. Ana ovuta kwambiri ndi anzeru amakumbukira zolinga zawo, ndipo kukopa malingaliro sikumasintha. Muzochitika izi, kukopa malingaliro kuyenera kuwonjezeredwa ndi njira zina zophunzitsira.

Pemphani maganizo a mwana nthawi zambiri wamkazi njira. Zosankha zokhazikika ndizo kusonkhezera chifundo (“Taona mmene mlongo wako akulira chifukwa cha iwe!” kapena “Chonde musakwiyitse amayi”), zododometsa pa zinthu zosafunikira (“Taonani mbalame yotani!) Ndi kukopeka ndi zokhumbitsidwa, monga momwe zimakhalira mbalame! komanso kupanga zisankho potengera momwe mwanayo amamvera kwa makolo ake (Traffic Light model).

Taonani, mlongo wanu akulira!

Zodabwitsa kwambiri achikulire, makamaka amayi, pempholi kaŵirikaŵiri siligwira ntchito kwa ana aang’ono. Komabe, ngati ana akwiya kwa nthaŵi yaitali m’mikhalidwe yoteroyo, posapita nthaŵi amamvetsetsa zimene achikulire amafuna kwa iwo, ndipo amayamba kusonyeza kulapa. Komabe, ana amakonda kutengera akuluakulu, ndipo ngati mayi nthawi zambiri amakhumudwa, ana amayamba kubwereza izi pambuyo pake. Ndizovuta kuzitcha kuti chifundo chenicheni, koma njirayo ikukonzedwa. Chisoni chenicheni chimapezeka mwa ana osati kale kuposa zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri, ndipo apa chirichonse chiri payekha. Ngati ana amakonda kwambiri izi, koma palibe njira iliyonse.

Chonde musakwiye amayi!

Mwanayo akapanda kumvera, mayiyo amayamba kudzikwiyira n’kusonyeza kuti ndi woipa kwambiri chifukwa cha khalidwe lotere la mwanayo. Chitsanzochi ndi chofala kwambiri, ndipo nthawi zambiri chimachitika pakati pa akazi. Zotsatira zake? Kulakwa, chikondi ndi kumvera kumapangidwa bwino mwa ana aang'ono, makamaka atsikana. Ana okulirapo, makamaka anyamata, amaipiraipira pamenepa, amakwiya kapena kusalabadira malingaliro a amayi awo.

Taonani mbalame bwanji!

Mwanayo akuyang'ana zinthu zowoneka bwino zomuzungulira, zosokoneza zosafunikira. Sadya phala - tidzapereka apulosi. Safuna kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi m'mawa, tidzapereka kupita kusambira ndi abwenzi. Kusambira sikunayende bwino - tiyeni tiyese kuchita chidwi ndi masewera okongola a tennis. Zimagwira ntchito bwino ndi ana aang'ono. Ana akamakula, m’pamenenso amalephera. Monga lamulo, njira iyi imathera ndi chitsanzo cha Chiphuphu.

Mu chitsanzo ichi, makolo muzochita zawo amatsogoleredwa ndi maganizo ndi zochita za mwanayo. Mmene mwana amamvera komanso mmene amachitira zinthu zimakhala ngati nyale za galimoto kwa kholo. Mwana akalabadira zochita za makolowo, amasangalala ndi zochita za makolowo, izi zimakhala kuwala kobiriwira kwa iwo, chizindikiro kwa makolo: “Patsogolo! Mukuchita zonse bwino. ” Ngati mwana monyinyirika akwaniritsa zopempha za makolo, aiwala, ajambulitsa, ichi ndi chachikasu kwa makolo, mtundu wochenjeza: “Chenjerani, chenjerani, chinachake chikuwoneka cholakwika! Ganizirani musananene kapena kuchita! Ngati mwanayo akutsutsa, ichi ndi mtundu wofiira kwa makolo, chizindikiro: "Imani !!! Azimitsa! Osati sitepe patsogolo mbali iyi! Kumbukirani pomwe ndi zomwe mudaphwanya, zikonzeni mwachangu komanso m'njira yosamalira chilengedwe!

Chitsanzocho ndi chotsutsana. Ubwino wa chitsanzo ichi ndi kukhudzidwa kwa ndemanga, zovuta zake ndizosavuta kugwa pansi pa chikoka cha mwana. Mwanayo amayamba kulamulira makolo, kusonyeza kwa iwo chimodzi kapena china cha zochita zake ...

Yuri Kosagovsky. Kuchokera pa zomwe ndakumana nazo

Ndinazindikira zimenezi nditazindikira kuti kuchonderera kwa amayi pa logic yanga kunalibe kanthu pa ine. "Zokonda zakuthupi" zomwe anthu onse ndi osiyanasiyana amakonda nthawi zonse - akatswiri azachuma ... afilosofi ... andale ndi owonetsa nawo sanakhudze chilichonse. Ndinapatsidwa madola 5 kwa iye asanu - koma dongosololi silinagwire ntchito.

Ndinakhudzidwa ndi kuusa moyo kwa amayi komanso nkhani zomwe zinandisangalatsa.

Mpaka pano, ndimadzifanizira pang'ono ndi ngwazi za m'mabuku omwe ndimawerenga ndili mwana (amandikhudza mtima komanso amakhala okhalitsa).

Zotsutsa za amayi zoti ndidzakhala wosamalira malo ngati sindiphunzira bwino sizinandikhudze, koma kuusa moyo kwawo kunandikhudza.

Tsiku lina, atakhala pa chopondapo, anausa moyo nati: “O, mawu oyamba a Rachmaninoff mu C sharp wamng’ono…—chinthu chanji?” - ndipo ndinakhala zaka 10 ku Conservatory m'malo mwa zisanu (!) Ndikuyesera kumvetsetsa - ndi chiyani?

Pachifukwa ichi, maloto amakhudzanso kutengeka kwathu ndipo amatitsogolera ndikutilimbikitsa kuti tichite, kapena mosiyana, kuti tisamachite zomwe sikofunikira.

Kunali mpweya wake umodzi umene unandipangitsa kuti ndizisewera maola 11 pa tsiku pa piyano kwa zaka 10, koma sanandilole kupita kusukulu ya nyimbo ndi koleji, koma sanandilole kuti ndilankhule ndi aphunzitsi ku nyumba yosungiramo zinthu zakale. Ndi iye amene adandipangitsa kuti ndidziwe ndekha zaka 10 - nyimbo ndi piyano ndi chiyani?

Ndi iye amene adakakamiza wopanga kuti awonekere pamalo panga ndipo ndi amene adakakamiza wopangayo kuti andikokere ku Paris Conservatory komwe ndidayimba konsati yanga ya piyano pa pempho lawo ndikuchoka mnyumbamo ngati wolemekezeka. membala wa Paris Conservatory - ngakhale sinditenga mopepuka ayi osati pang'ono «maphunziro», kupatula chilakolako ndi chikondi nyimbo.

Ndipo kunali kuusa moyo kwa amayi anga komwe kunapangitsa munthu wina kundiyitanira ku Chikondwerero cha Mayiko ndikuchita kumeneko - ine sindipita kulikonse.

Izi ndi zomwe maganizo ndi momwe amakhudzira munthu, ndi zotsatira za zochita za anthu ena. Ndizosangalatsa komanso zothandiza. Kuchita bwino” ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri. Chilichonse chomwe chimagwira ntchito bwino komanso chisinthiko chinali chofunikira pakukula kwa munthu kuti apulumuke.

Siyani Mumakonda