Kodi "amayi am'mimba" ndizomwe zikuchitika nthawi yathu ino?

Kumbukirani Miranda Priestley wamphamvu zonse mu Mdyerekezi Amavala Prada, omwe dziko la mafashoni limadalira maganizo ake ndipo amawononga ena popanda mthunzi wokayikira? Mukukumbukira agogo aakazi a Bury Me Behind the Baseboard omwe amapondereza mdzukulu wawo ndi chikondi chake chovuta?

Ndipo Elena kuchokera pa chithunzi cha dzina lomwelo Andrei Zvyagintsev, kwenikweni "kutengera" amuna ake - mwamuna wake ndi mwana wake? Ndipo amayi a Erica odzikonda mu The Pianist wolemba Michael Haneke? Azimayi onsewa amatha kutchedwa "phallic" ndi akatswiri amaganizo akale.

Akazi otere ali ndi «phallus», ndiko kuti, mphamvu, mphamvu. Njira yawo yayikulu yolumikizirana ndi ena ndikufanizira ndi kupikisana ndi amuna. Freud ankakhulupirira kuti chifukwa cha khalidwe ili ndi nsanje mbolo, amene mkazi akhoza kuchotsa mwa njira ziwiri zokha: kutsimikizira aliyense kuti iye si woipa kuposa amuna, kapena kubereka mwana amene mophiphiritsa m'malo mbolo.

Kodi phallicity imadziwonetsera bwanji mwa akazi amakono? Tinafunsa funso ili kwa akatswiri awiri: psychoanalyst Svetlana Fedorova ndi katswiri wa Jungian Lev Khegai. Ndipo ndiri nawo malingaliro awiri osiyana.

“Amaona kungokhala ngati chinthu chochititsa manyazi”

Svetlana Fedorova, psychoanalyst

"Phallus imayimira mphamvu, mphamvu zonse. Amuna ndi akazi onse amakopeka kuti agwiritse ntchito mphamvu zimenezi. Koma ngati mwamuna ali ndi mbolo mwachibadwa, ndiye kuti mkazi nthawi ina amakumana ndi vuto la kusowa. Angakumane ndi kusapeza bwino ndi izi ndipo amayesa kubwezera kusowa kumeneku mwa kupikisana ndi amuna.

Mkazi wa phallic safuna kungochotsa mphamvu kwa mwamuna, komanso kumutaya, kuti amuchotsere mphamvu. Munthu akhoza kuganiza mosavuta mayi wa banja amene devalues ​​mwamuna wake ndi kumupangitsa kukhala wopanda pake pamaso pa ana ake - mtundu uwu wa akazi ndi mmene kwambiri Russian chenicheni.

Sikuti ndi opondereza, ayi. Iwo akhoza kukhala ochenjera ndi osinthasintha. Pali «amphaka» amene khalidwe mofatsa ndi modekha, kugonjetsa munthu, ndiyeno zoyenera phallicity wake, kumusiya ndi ena ntchito Mwachitsanzo, kupeza ndalama.

Chikhumbo cha narcissistic chokhala ndi mphamvu zachimuna si chikhalidwe cha akazi onse. N’cifukwa ciani zimacitika? Mwinamwake chifukwa cha mantha a kusatsimikizika kwa chikhalidwe cha akazi. Chifukwa cha kukana passivity, amene amaona ngati chinthu chauve, manyazi.

Kawirikawiri, maganizo awa pa ukazi amaperekedwa kwa mtsikana ndi amayi ake. Akhoza kunena kuti: "Sungapange chikondi kwa anyamata", "palibe chikondi", "mwamuna amafunikira kuti abweretse ndalama." Angapeputse wochereza wachikazi wa mwana wake wamkazi ndikugogomezera kufunika kokhala ndi mphamvu pa mwamuna.

Kapena amalera mtsikana ali mnyamata ndipo amamupatsa manyazi chifukwa cha kufooka kwake. Mtsikana wotere samawona ukazi wake ngati chinthu chokongola, ndipo chiwalo chake chachikazi ndicho ulemu, gwero la chisangalalo ndi moyo watsopano. Amafuna kulanda chilichonse chachimuna ndikubwezera kusowa uku.

Kusukulu, mtsikana woteroyo amapikisana ndi ena m'chilichonse, amayesetsa kukhala wopambana, wanzeru, wokongola kwambiri. Ndipo ndendende chifukwa cha kuchepa kwa mtengo kwa ena. Kugonja sikupiririka kwa iye.

Akazi a Phallic vs Narcissistic Women: Kusiyana kwake ndi Chiyani?

Amayi a Phallic ali pafupi ndi mtundu wa umunthu wa narcissistic. Onse awiri nthawi zonse amakhala ndi nkhawa yomwe imayenera kumizidwa, mantha osowa kanthu omwe amafunika kudzazidwa.

Komabe, pali kusiyana pakati pawo, komwe psychoanalyst Paul-Claude Racamier amapanga motere: mkazi wa phallic amachita mobisa komanso kumbuyo, osati poyera komanso moona mtima. Nthawi zonse amawongolera "otsogolera" omwe amawoneka kuti amamuyimira komanso omwe amawawona ngati zida. Izi «wolowa m'malo» Mwachitsanzo, angakhale mwana wodwala amene amadwala kuti akwaniritse zobisika lamulo la mayi.

Ndipo munthu wamatsenga sabisa kapena kubisa tanthauzo lake. Iye akuwonekera poyera, "wodyedwa ndi kunyada mu ulemerero wake wonse wa mwambo." Iye sakutsimikizira chifuniro chake kudzera mwa «wachiwiri», koma amadzitsimikizira yekha.

Maziko a khalidwe la onse awiri amabisa mantha amphamvu kwambiri otaya, kuopa kutaya potency, mphamvu. Koma ngati wokhutira narcissists kusonyeza awo «phallus» (ndalama, udindo, mphamvu) ngati n'kotheka, ndiye phallic umunthu, kuwonjezera pa izi, komanso castrate ena.

Mayi aliyense amene wabala mwana amayesedwa kuti iye narcissistic kupitiriza, wake «phallus». Anthu ambiri amadziwa nkhani za amayi omwe sanazindikire china chake m'miyoyo yawo ndipo amafuna kuti mwanayo akwaniritse maloto awo kuti adzikonzekerere okha pambuyo pake: "Simuli kanthu popanda ine, zonse zikomo kwa ine."

Mwa njira, anthu amakono m'njira iliyonse amathandizira ndikukulitsa mikhalidwe iyi - kuyamwa, kukhala ndi mphamvu, kudzitsimikizira, ndipo ndizovuta kwambiri kukana izi.

Zoyenera kuchita kwa omwe akuzungulirani

Mwamuna amene amasankha mkazi wamphamvu, wamphamvu ngati bwenzi lake nthawi zambiri amakopeka ndi makhalidwe amenewa. Iye amangokhalira kungokhala chete ndipo amalola kuti mphamvu zake zimulande.

Nthawi zambiri ubale wamtunduwu umabwereza mbiri yakale, monga ubale wapamtima ndi mayi wopondereza kapena agogo. Pokhapokha pamene mwamuna azindikira kuti maubwenzi osagwirizana oterewa samamuyenerera, ntchito ya psychotherapeutic ndi yotheka.

Mnyamatayo, kuti athetse ubale wa symbiotic ndi amayi ake omwe amamukonda, ayenera kufunafuna wina amene angathetse mgwirizano umenewu. Moyenera, chinthu choterocho chingakhale tate, yemwe akuitanidwa kuti apange mtunda pakati pa mwana ndi mayi.

Koma ngati mayi wachotsa kale "phallus" kwa atate, izi zimakhala zovuta. Pankhaniyi, munthu wina akhoza kukhala munthu wachitatu - mphunzitsi, mphunzitsi, agogo aamuna, munthu aliyense wovomerezeka amene amamukhulupirira ndi kuthandiza kuthawa mphamvu ya amayi ake.

Mtsikanayo ayenera kugwira ntchito zovuta kwambiri. Ndikofunika kuti iye akulitse ukazi wake, ndipo chifukwa cha ichi - kuvomereza amayi ake, ziribe kanthu momwe angakhalire owopsa. Nthawi zambiri atsikana amati: "Sindidzakhala ngati iye." Pokhapokha atapeza chinachake chokongola mu ukazi wamayi ndikuchivomereza, sadzakhalanso ndi manyazi ndi ukazi wawo.

“Mkazi wokangalika kupikisana ndi amuna ndi chinthu chachilendo”

Lev Khegai, katswiri wa Jungian

"Kulankhula za akazi amakono ponena za Freud, mwa lingaliro langa, sikulondola pazandale. Miyambo ya jenda masiku ano yasintha kwambiri. Malinga ndi miyezo ya nthawi imeneyo, mwamuna ankamveka bwino kuti ndi wokangalika, ndipo wamkazi anali wongochita chabe. Ndipo mu chikhumbo cha akazi kukhala okangalika, kupikisana, kuchita maudindo amuna m'moyo, Freud anaona chiwonetsero cha nsanje mbolo ndipo ankaona kuti neurosis.

Tikukhala mu nthawi ya chigonjetso chachikazi, ndipo chifaniziro cha mkazi wamalonda wopambana, mkazi womasuka yemwe amadzizindikira yekha pakati pa anthu mofanana ndi mwamuna, akuwoneka lero ngati chikhalidwe chenichenicho. Chifukwa chake, ndimatha kufotokozera akazi oterowo kudzera m'miyambo ya milungu yaikazi. Choyamba - Artemi, Hera ndi Demeter.

Artemis: mkazi wokonda kucheza

Iye ndi wodziimira payekha ndipo amakonda kukhala yekha. Safuna kuyambitsa banja, koma amakonda kwambiri ntchito, ndipo mwamwambo madera amuna - Artemi, monga mukudziwa, amakonda kusaka.

Mkazi woteroyo amatha kumva bwino komanso osakumana ndi mikangano yamkati. Koma ngati zikuwonekeratu kuti akufunikira ubwenzi, koma sangathe kupanga maubwenzi okhazikika, ngati chilakolako chake chopikisana chikugwirizana ndi kudzikayikira ngati mkazi, ndi mantha a mwamuna, ndiye kuti tikhoza kulankhula za kusokonezeka kwa umunthu. .

Hera: Mwamuna Wotsogolera ndi Banja

Amasandutsa mwamuna wake kukhala mwana ndipo amathetsa yekha mavuto onse azachuma ndi zachuma. Izi ndizochitika ku Russia: chitsanzo cha Hera ndi Margarita Pavlovna kuchokera ku filimu ya Mikhail Kozakov ya Pokrovsky Gates.

Zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi gawo limodzi ndi nkhondo komanso kusamvana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, koma m'njira zambiri ndi mbali ya chikhalidwe cha Asilavo chonse, chomwe, mosiyana ndi chikhalidwe cha makolo achi German, nthawi zonse chimakhala cha matriarchal.

Chinthu chinanso n’chakuti m’masiku akale, mwamuna ndi mkazi ankagawanabe ntchito: mwamunayo anali mutu wa zachuma, mkazi anali kuyang’anira maubwenzi a m’banja, mbali ya maganizo. Iye anali mutu, iye anali khosi.

Masiku ano maudindowa asinthidwa. Chikhumbo cha mkazi chotenga nawo mbali mofanana pazochitika zonse za okwatirana chakhala chizoloŵezi lerolino. Zikatero, kupikisana kwa okwatirana kudzakhala kwachibadwa.

Kusagwirizana kwa malingaliro osiyanasiyana ndi kufunafuna kuyanjanitsa kumakulitsa maubale. Komabe, Hera amakula mosavuta chikhumbo chofuna kulamulira, zomwe zimamupangitsa nsanje ndi kulamulira, kuona wokondedwa wake ngati katundu, monga gawo lake, kapena ntchito kapena chinthu. Ngati mwamuna sali wamphamvu monga Zeus, iye "anathena" mu ubale wotero, mwachitsanzo, akhoza kukhala chidakwa kapena wopanda mphamvu.

Demeter: Mayi wodziteteza kwambiri

Iye ndi woteteza kwambiri. Amakhulupirira kuti ayenera kupereka moyo wake chifukwa cha ana, kuiwala za iyemwini ndikusokoneza kukula kwa mwanayo, kumupangitsa kukhala wakhanda. Iye sakufuna kusiya ndi udindo wa umayi, ngakhale pamene ana akukula, ndipo mwachangu amasokoneza moyo wawo.

Titha kulankhula za kuphwanya malamulo pamene chibadwa cha makolo amawononga kukula kwa mwanayo ndi moyo wake. Demeter wabwino amalola mwanayo kupatukana naye nthawi komanso mopanda ululu.

Mwa njira, chifukwa cha maganizo a anthu pa moyo wodzilamulira wa makolo ndi ana, chikhalidwe chatsopano cha makolo abwino chimaonedwa kuti ndi makolo otere omwe sakumbukiridwa, amangodziwa za chikondi chawo.