Psychotherapists amabwera kwa anthu omwe adakumana ndi tsoka, akukumana ndi kusamvetsetsana komanso kumva kuwawa m'maganizo. Koma pali zochitika zina pamene chirichonse chiri chosangalatsa ndi chabwino kunja kwa dziko, ndipo kasitomala amadzipatula yekha pamtsinje uwu, amabisala ndikulakalaka. Pazochitika zomwe chifukwa cha zomwe zikuchitika sizidziwika bwino, chithandizo chamankhwala chingathandize, akutero psychotherapist Tatyana Potemkina.
Timasankha kusamukira kudziko lina ndi chiyembekezo chakuti moyo wathu udzakhala wabwino. Osati zosavuta, koma zosangalatsa, zowala, zopambana. Ndipo ndife okonzekera zovuta. Koma tikuyembekezera kuchokera kunja: chinenero chatsopano, miyambo, malo, ntchito. Ndipo nthawi zina amachokera mkati.
Pomwe Julia, wazaka 34, adalumikizana nane kudzera pa Skype, anali asanatuluke panyumba kwa miyezi isanu. Kudziko la Scandinavia komwe adasamukira zaka ziwiri zapitazo, sanali pachiwopsezo. Mwamuna wanga ankayesetsa kuthera nthawi yambiri ali kunyumba. Akalibe, ankatumiza womuthandizira ngati akufuna chinachake. Ndipo Julia anali kuipiraipira.
“Ndimapita kuchitseko ndi kutuluka thukuta lozizira, kuli mdima m’maso mwanga, ndinatsala pang’ono kukomoka,” anadandaula motero. Sindikumvetsa zomwe zikundichitikira!
Pamene "palibe chomveka", zojambulajambula zingathandize. Ndinapempha Julia kuti akonze mapepala ndi gouache za gawo lotsatira. Ndipo adanditsimikizira kuti simukuyenera kukhala wojambula. "Tsegulani mitsuko yonse, tengani burashi ndikudikirira pang'ono. Kenako chitani chilichonse chomwe mukufuna. ”
Julia anaviika burashi mumitundu ingapo motsatizana ndipo anasiya mikwingwirima yaitali pa pepala. Tsamba limodzi, lina…Ine ndinamufunsa momwe anamupangitsa iye kumverera. Iye anayankha kuti zinali zachisoni kwambiri - monga pamene mchimwene wake anamwalira.
Ululu wosonkhanitsidwawo unapeza njira yotulukira, kumasula mphamvu. Mantha anachepa
Ivan anali msuweni wake. Anzake, anali mabwenzi ali ana, amakhala m'chilimwe pa dacha wamba. Iwo adayitananso ali achinyamata, koma makolo a Yulina sanafunenso kuti akumane nawo: zidadziwika kuti Ivan adagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
Ali ndi zaka 20, anamwalira chifukwa chakumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso. Julia ankakhulupirira kuti iyeyo ndiye anali ndi mlandu, chifukwa anataya moyo wake mopusa. Koma anadandaula kuti sakanatha kumuthandiza. Kunali kusakanizikana kwa mkwiyo, chisoni, kudziimba mlandu. Iye sanakonde chisokonezo ichi, iye anayesa kuiwala Ivan ndi kugwera molunjika mu maphunziro ake, ndiye mu ntchito yake: iye anachititsa pulogalamu wotchuka TV, iye anazindikira m'misewu.
Panalinso moyo waumwini. Julia anakhala mkazi wa wochita bwino bizinesi, amene iye amayamikira khalidwe lake mokondwera. Iwo adapanga chisankho chosamukira limodzi ndipo sanakayikire kulondola kwake.
Mwamunayo anapitiriza bizinezi yake, ndipo Yulia anaganiza zotengera chitsanzo chake potsegula maphunziro a Chirasha. Koma zinthu sizinayende. Anachita mantha kuyambitsa ina.
Yulia anati: “Sindinakhalepo wodalira, ndipo tsopano ndikukhala pakhosi pa mwamuna wanga. Zimandikhumudwitsa...
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Mobwerezabwereza ndimalimbikitsa Julia kuti agwiritse ntchito utoto kuti apereke mtundu ndi mawonekedwe kumalingaliro. Analira chisoni: imfa ya mchimwene wake, kusowa mphamvu, kupatukana ndi makolo ake, kusintha kwa chikhalidwe cha anthu komanso kutayika kwa kutamandidwa komwe kunamuzungulira kale ...
Ululu wosonkhanitsidwawo unapeza njira yotulukira, kumasula mphamvu. Mantha adafooka, ndipo Julia adakhalanso ndi moyo - komanso kwa iyemwini. Tsiku linafika pamene anatuluka panja ndi kukwera sitima yapansi panthaka. “Kenako, ine mwini,” ananditsanzika.
Posachedwapa, uthenga unabwera kuchokera kwa iye: adalandira maphunziro atsopano ndipo akuyamba kugwira ntchito.