Zamkatimu
Ana anu ndi okakamizika, mumamva ngati mumangokhalira kukuwa… Yakwana nthawi yoti mubwerere ku mikangano ya tsiku ndi tsiku ndikuyambiranso udindo wanu monga amayi.
Perekani chitsanzo kwa mwana wanu
Mukapita naye kusitolo yaikulu, amathamangira m'mashelefu, kupempha maswiti, kuthawa kupita ku zoseweretsa, kumaponda mapazi ake pa desiki la ndalama… Mwachidule, mwana wanu amakwiya kwambiri. Asanayang'ane chomwe chayambitsa vuto panjapo, kholo la Zen limadzifunsa mosakhudzika ndi zomwe akupereka kuti amuwone. Nanga iwe? Kodi mumagula zinthu ndi mtendere wamumtima, kodi ndi nthawi yabwino yogawana nawo kapena ntchito yapakhomo yomwe mumadetsa nkhawa pambuyo pa ntchito yotopetsa ya tsiku ndi tsiku kwa inu ndi sukulu? Ngati iyi ndi njira yachiwiri yoyenera, pumulani limodzi musanayambe mpikisano, idyani chakudya, yendani pang'ono kuti muwongolere. Asanalowe mu supermarket muchenjeze: ngati athamanga mbali zonse, adzalangidwa. Ndikofunikira kuti lamulo ndi chilangocho zinenedwe pasadakhale, modekha osati mu mkwiyo wa nthawiyo.
Osakakamizidwa kukuthokozani
Mwatopa ndipo mwana wanu amakufunsani mafunso ambiri, monga: "N'chifukwa chiyani kumwamba kuli mdima usiku?" “,” mvula imachokera kuti? Kapena “N’chifukwa chiyani papi alibenso tsitsi pamutu pake?” Ndithudi, chidwi cha mwana wamng'ono ndi umboni wa luntha, koma muli ndi ufulu wosakhalapo. Ngati simukudziwa yankho, musamangonena chilichonse kuti mukhale ndi mtendere. Dziperekeni kuti mudzapeze mayankho ndi iye pambuyo pake, ndikuwonjezera kuti zikhala bwino kupita limodzi kukawona mabuku kapena kuchezera tsamba limodzi kapena awiri pa intaneti okhudzana ndi mafunso asayansi kapena mafunso akulu amoyo ...
Musalowerere m’mikangano yawo
Zimakwiyitsa kuwamva akukangana pa chilichonse, koma mikangano ya abale ndi alongo ndi gawo la moyo wabanja. Kaŵirikaŵiri cholinga chosadziŵa kanthu cha anawo ndicho kuloŵetsamo makolo awo mkangano kotero kuti agwirizane ndi mmodzi kapena winayo. Popeza nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosatheka kudziwa yemwe adayambitsa (koma pokhapokha ngati ndewu yeniyeni), kubetcherana kwanu ndi kunena kuti, “Iyi ndi ndewu yanu, osati yanga. Pangani izo kuti zichitike nokha, ndipo ndi phokoso laling'ono momwe mungathere. Izi zili pamlingo wakuti wamng'onoyo ndi wamkulu mokwanira kuti alankhule ndi kudziteteza, komanso kuti chiwawa sichidziwonetsera ndi chiwawa chakuthupi chomwe chingakhale choopsa. Kholo la Zen liyenera kudziwa kuletsa kuchita zachiwawa komanso kukuwa.
Osapereka ndalama popanda kunena chilichonse
Timakhulupilira molakwika kuti kukhala zen ndikudziwa momwe tikumvera komanso kudzidzimuka kwinaku tikumwetulira. Zabodza! Ndizopanda phindu kutsanzira kusatheka, ndi bwino kulandira malingaliro anu kaye ndikubwezeretsanso pambuyo pake. Mwana wanu atangoyamba kumene, akufuula, akuwonetsa mkwiyo wake ndi kukhumudwa kwake, mufunseni mosazengereza kuti apite kuchipinda chake, kumuuza kuti sayenera kuwononga nyumbayo ndi kukuwa kwake ndi ukali wake. Akangofika kuchipinda kwake, msiyeni angobwebweta. Panthawiyi, pangani bata lamkati mwa kupuma kangapo motsatana mozama (kulowetsani m'mphuno ndikutulutsa pang'onopang'ono kudzera mkamwa). Kenako, mukamadekha, gwirizanani naye n’kumupempha kuti anene madandaulo ake kwa inu. Mvetserani kwa iye. Zindikirani zomwe zikuwoneka kuti ndi zolondola pazopempha zake, ndiyeno ikani mwamphamvu ndi modekha zomwe sizingavomerezeke komanso zosakambidwa. Kudekha kwanu ndi kolimbikitsa kwa mwanayo: kumakuikani pamalo enieni achikulire.