Pamene chikhumbo chawo choyembekezera kukhala ndi mwana sichichitika m’mimba yokhayokha, maanja ambiri amatembenukira ku AMP (Assisted Reproductive Medicine) kapena AMP. Kutali ndi chiyanjano cha m'banja, timagwidwa mu ndondomeko yachipatala yomwe imakhala mkhalapakati wofunikira pakukwaniritsidwa kwa polojekiti yathu. Pamene tikuyesera, thupi lathu limagwiritsidwa ntchito, lotambasulidwa ku kukwaniritsidwa kwa polojekiti ya mwanayo.
Thandizo pamaganizidwe
Masiku ano, magulu azachipatala achita kupita patsogolo kwambiri kuti athandize okwatirana amene akuona kuti akufunika thandizo. Mkati mwa zoyesayesazo, timachirikizidwa kotero kuti tisalole kuthedwa nzeru, kupanda chilungamo, kapena ngakhale kutaya mtima; kuti athe kukonzanso ziyembekezo zawo pa nthawi ya mimba, pa mwana woyembekezera, osati pa chikhumbo chokha chofuna kukhala makolo kuti potsirizira pake akhale ngati okwatirana ena. Nthawi zina, muyenera kupeza thandizo kuchokera kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo, kuti mupeze njira yolankhulirana ndi mnzanu ngati kuli kofunikira. (ndipo palibe chochita manyazi!)
Nkhawa yaikulu
Pamene mimba imapezeka, timakhala ndi chigonjetso chenicheni, timamva mphindi yachisangalalo chachikulu, chomwe chimatsagana ndi kulengeza kwa chochitika chosangalatsa. Ndipo kukayikira komweko kapena nkhawa monga makolo onse am'tsogolo amawuka, nthawi zina amawonekera kwambiri. Pambuyo pa kudikira kwanthaŵi yaitali chotere, chikhumbo chofuna kukhala ndi mwana chimakhala champhamvu, tonsefe timamva kukhala okonzeka kulandira khanda ndi kumusamalira. Koma mwana akabadwa, nthawi zina idealized ndipo timadzipeza tokha anakumana ndi kulira, kukhazikitsidwa kwa kayimbidwe tulo, nkhawa yaing'ono kudya. Akatswiri a ubwana ndi ubwana (madokotala, azamba, anamwino a ana) alipo kuti atithandize kukonzekera modekha momwe tingathere pa ntchito yathu yatsopano, osati monga "makolo angwiro" koma monga "makolo osamalira".
Nkhaniyi yatengedwa m'buku lofotokozera la Laurence Pernoud: J'attens un enfant 2018 edition)