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Miyendo yosametedwa, mapindikidwe ndi ma stretch marks… Kukhala ndi thupi kumalumikizidwa ndi anthu ambiri okhala ndi chithunzi chonyansa basi. Koma n’chifukwa chiyani zonsezi zikuoneka kuti n’zosasangalatsa kwa ife? Kodi timawopa chiyani tikamatsutsa lingaliro lomwe lakuyenda? N’chifukwa chiyani timaganiza kuti kutsatira maganizo a anthu ena n’kwabwino kuposa kutsatira maganizo athu pa nkhani ya kukongola?
Chifukwa chiyani timafunikira kukhala ndi thupi labwino?
Ndikuganiza kuti ndikofunikira kuti tiyambe ndi kufotokoza zomwe positivity ya thupi imachita. Ndipo chifukwa cha izi, tiyeni tibwerere mmbuyo pang'onopang'ono ndikuganizira vuto lomwe lidakhala poyambira mawonekedwe ake.
Vuto lalikulu la ambiri aife ndiloti maganizo athu oipa pa thupi lathu ndi "zoperewera" zimachotsa zinthu zathu zofunika: mphamvu, nthawi, ndalama.
Timakonza nkhani zomwe sitingathe kuzilamulira kuposa zomwe anthu ambiri amakhulupirira. Komanso, kuwongolera "zofooka" zathupi ndi ndalama zopanda phindu, ngati tijambula mafananidwe ndi bizinesi. Titha kuyika chilichonse chomwe tili nacho m'malo owopsa. Tingakhudze zotsatira zake mosalunjika. Ndipo palibe amene amapereka zitsimikizo zilizonse, makamaka pakapita nthawi, kuti tidzapeza ndikusunga zomwe timalota.
Ndipo lingaliro lalikulu la thupi positivity ndiloti simuyenera kuyika ndalama mu "thumba la ndalama" la maonekedwe: tili ndi mapulojekiti ena ambiri oti tiyikemo. "standards". Kupulumuka mu udani umene umawagwera kuchokera kunja. Ndipo thana ndi amene amawapanikiza kuchokera mkati.
Tili ndi mphamvu zochepa kwambiri pa thupi kuposa momwe ma TV amayesera kutiuza.
Thupi positivity imatipatsa zida zothana ndi wotsutsa wamkati, omwe nthawi zambiri amaleredwa mwa amayi kuyambira ali mwana. Monga momwe woŵerenga tchanelo changa cha telegalamu ananenera mwanzeru kuti: “Theka loyamba la moyo wako amakuuzani chimene chiri cholakwika ndi inu, ndipo theka lachiŵiri amayesa kugulitsa ndalama zimene zingathandize kuthetsa vutolo.” Ponena za "chisangalalo" ndi "zabodza zonenepa", zomwe nthawi zambiri zimadzudzulidwa chifukwa chokhala ndi thanzi, mawu awa, zikuwoneka kwa ine, amafanana ndi njira zakulera zakale monga "mutha kuwononga mwana ndi chikondi ndi chidwi."
Choyamba, munthu “sangawonongeke” mwa kum’patsa chuma. Kachiwiri, kukhazikika kwa thupi ndikukulimbikitsani kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi. Ndipo chachitatu, kachiwiri, tili ndi mphamvu zochepa pa thupi kuposa momwe atolankhani akuyesera kutiuza ndi mitu yawo monga "Momwe mungachepetsere akakolo m'masiku 5." Thupi si chovala chomwe chingasinthidwe mwamsanga ngati sichikhala chokongoletsera nyengo ino. Iwo ali m'gulu lathu «Ine». Thupi ndi gawo la kudzipanga kwathu, osati chinthu chomwe titha kuchigwiritsa ntchito momwe tikufunira.
Zinthu zachikazi kwambiri
Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti kayendetsedwe kabwino ka thupi kamachokera ku malingaliro ndi nkhani zachikazi ndipo lero zikupitirizabe kukhala gawo lofunika kwambiri pazochitika zake. Pamsonkhano uliwonse, m'magazini iliyonse, mutu wa chakudya ndi thupi udzakhala pafupifupi akazi okha: 98% ya anthu omwe amasamala za nkhani zokhudzana ndi zokhudzana ndi akazi.
Ndi chiyani chomwe chimaphatikizidwa muzokambirana za amuna? Kuyenda padziko lonse lapansi, bizinesi, ntchito, zolemba, bizinesi, zaluso, chilengedwe. Nanga ndi chiyani chomwe chili pazachikazi? "Choyamba dziyeretseni nokha, chirichonse chomwe chikutanthauza, ndiyeno, Cinderella, mukhoza kupita ku mpira."
Poyang'ana ndi kutseka chidwi cha amayi pamutu wodzisintha okha, amalandidwa mwayi wokhudza dziko lapansi mwanjira ina. Tikamanena kuti chikazi sichikufunikanso, ndi chakale ndipo tsopano tonse tili ndi ufulu wofanana - ndi bwino kuyang'ana ziwerengero. Kodi ndi amuna angati ndi akazi angati omwe akugwira nawo ntchito yokongola komanso nkhawa za zakudya zopatsa thanzi? Nthawi yomweyo tiwona kusiyana kwakukulu.
Mu dongosolo la makolo, mkazi ndi chinthu. Chinthucho chili ndi makhalidwe ena ndi ntchito zothandiza. Ngati ndinu chinthu, chinthu chomwe chiyenera kukhala ndi "chiwonetsero" nthawi zonse, ndiye kuti mumakhala munthu yemwe angathe kusinthidwa. Umu ndi momwe «chikhalidwe chachiwawa» chimabadwa, ndipo chimakhazikika pamutuwu.
Mwachitsanzo, posachedwapa ndinapeza nkhani * yokhala ndi ziŵerengero zoopsa kwambiri za chiwerengero cha ana aang’ono ogulitsidwa muukapolo wa kugonana. Ndipo 99% ya iwo ndi atsikana. Ngakhale 1% ya anyamata omwe ali mumsewuwu mwachiwonekere sali opangidwira akazi. Tikanena kuti jenda lilibe kanthu pamilandu yotere, ndiye ndani amene amalipira “ufulu” wogwiririra ana amenewa? Kodi ndizotheka kuti angakhale munthu wamtundu uliwonse? Kodi n’zotheka kulingalira mkazi amene amagula “utumiki” woterowo n’kubwerera kwawo kwa banja lake ngati kuti palibe chimene chachitika?
Mantha, kulakwa, kudzikayikira - iyi ndi ndende yomwe akazi amamangidwa ndi nkhawa za thupi ndi mtengo wake.
Sosaite yakhala ikulimbana ndi kugonana kwachikazi kwa nthawi yaitali komanso zowonetserako pang'ono, komabe, "ufulu wa kugonana" wamwamuna wakhala wofanana ndi msinkhu wa chosowa chofunikira. Kutsogolo kwakukulu polimbana ndi kugonana kwa akazi ndi thupi**. Kumbali imodzi, amayenera kukhala achigololo-ndiko kuti, kusonyeza kugonana kuti akope amuna.
Kumbali ina, machitidwe omwe akuyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito kuti akwaniritse cholinga ichi (zoletsa, zakudya, opaleshoni ya pulasitiki, njira zowawa za kukongola, nsapato ndi zovala zosautsa) sizikuthandizira konse kukhudzidwa kwa kugonana kwa thupi ndi mkazi mwiniwake. Izi zikuwonetseredwa bwino ndi mauthenga a amayi m'mabwalo osiyanasiyana: "Mwamuna wanga adanena kuti ndikufunika kuchepetsa thupi, sakundifunanso." Kapena: "Ndikuopa kuti palibe amene angandikonde" ndi zina zotero. M'matembenuzidwe omvetsa chisoni kwambiri: "Ndi mankhwala opweteka otani omwe amamwa pamene chirichonse chikupweteka pambuyo pobereka, ndipo mwamuna amafuna kugonana."
Mantha, kulakwa, kudzikayikira - iyi ndi ndende yomwe akazi amamangidwa ndi nkhawa za thupi ndi mtengo wawo kupyolera mu thupi lokha. Pali zikwi ndi mamiliyoni a iwo - omwe alidi mumsampha uwu. Malinga ndi ziwerengero zaku America, 53% ya atsikana azaka khumi ndi zitatu sakhutira ndi matupi awo, ndipo akafika zaka 17 amakhala kale 78%. Ndipo, zowona, izi zimabweretsa chiwopsezo chachikulu pakukula kwa zovuta zakudya ***.
Chifukwa chiyani kukhazikika kwa thupi kumayambitsa mkwiyo
Mwina pali mantha ambiri muukali umene umagwera pa thupi positivity. Ndizowopsa kutaya zomwe mwayikamo kwa nthawi yayitali. Kutsutsa kwamphepo kumayambitsidwa ndi lingaliro losavuta, likuwoneka,: tiyeni tizilemekezana mosasamala kanthu za maonekedwe. Tisalole mawu okhumudwitsa komanso osagwiritsa ntchito kukula, miyeso ya thupi ngati chipongwe. Ndipotu, mawu «mafuta» wakhala chipongwe akazi. Mtengo wonenepa ndi tanthauzo chabe, ndipo mphaka wonenepa nthawi zambiri amakhala wokongola, ngakhale munthu wonenepa amatha kumvekabe ngati "wolimba" nthawi zina.
Koma ngati thupi likusiya kukhala chizindikiro cha ukulu wake, ngati sitingathenso kudzikuza kuti ndife ochepa thupi, ndiye tingatani kuti tizidziyerekezera ndi ena?
Makhalidwe asintha. Ndipo mwina simuyenera kuyang'ana omwe ali oyipa kapena abwinoko. Mwina ndi nthawi yoti tiyang'ane mkati ndikuwona kuti ndi chiyani chomwe chili chosangalatsa kwa ife, kuphatikiza mawonekedwe, mawonekedwe?
M'lingaliro limeneli, kukhala ndi thupi labwino kumatipatsa ufulu watsopano - ufulu wodzitukumula, kudzikweza. Amatipatsa mwayi kuti potsiriza tisiye kuonda, kupanga, kuvala munthu ndi munthu, ndipo potsiriza kuchita chinachake chosangalatsa kwambiri - kuyenda, ntchito, kulenga. Kwa ine ndekha komanso ndekha.
* https://now.org/now-foundation/love-your-body/love-your-body-whats-it-all-about/get-the-facts/
** Thupi, chakudya, kugonana ndi nkhawa. Zomwe zimadetsa nkhawa mkazi wamakono. Kafukufuku wama psychologist. Lapina Julia. Alpina non-fiction, 2020
*** https://mediautopia.ru/story/obeshhanie-luchshej-zhizni-kak-deti-popadayut-v-seks-rabstvo/