Omwe akhudzidwa amadzinena okha kuti asiyidwa, atunduka, atenthedwa, osazindikira kuti zonse zatha, kupitiliza moyo wawo wopanda wokondedwa wawo komanso kulumikizana ndi zikhalidwe zawo.

• Nthawi zambiri, mphamvu zimasinthidwa, chisangalalo chimachepetsedwa kapena sichipezekanso. Nkhaniyi yalowa munthawi yazovuta komanso zachisoni komwe kumakhala kovuta kuthawa.
• Munthuyo sagwirizana ndi malingaliro omwe apanga kale omwe omuzungulira amamuchitira monga " yesetsani kudzidodometsa "," mpangeni nsanje "Kapena wamkulu wakale" ipita pakapita nthawi ".
• Nkhaniyi ili ndi lingaliro lakumira m'madzi: "amataya phazi", "amapuma" ndipo "amadzimva kuti akumira".
• Nthawi zonse amaganiza zakubwerera m'mmbuyo ndipo zikuwoneka kuti sizinachitike m'mbuyomu. Saganizira zochitika zotsatirazi.

Zizindikirozi ndizolimba kwambiri pomwe chiphwanyacho chimakhala chachiwawa komanso mwadzidzidzi. Zomwezo ngati kupatukana sikunachitike maso ndi maso. Zowona, komabe, izi sizomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha chikondi koma kuledzera.

Anyamata atha kukhudzidwa kwambiri kuposa atsikana atatha kutha ndipo zimakhala zovuta kuti asinthe. Zolingalira zamwamuna (kukhala olimba, kuwongolera chilichonse, kuwonongeka) zimawalimbikitsa kuti azikhala mwamtendere, zomwe zimawonjezera nthawi yokhululukidwa.

Nthawi yopatukana ndi nthawi yoopsa pakumwa mowa, mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mankhwala, omwe amawoneka ngati njira yothetsera mavuto omwe akukhudzidwa ndi kutha. 

Intaneti ndi mafoni masiku ano zimapereka mwayi wakuchedwetsa zomwe wolowererayo angachite ndikuphwanya popanda zoopsa zambiri. Tikafika pamaso pa munthu wina, timakhala ndi nkhawa yonse: chisoni, kudabwa, manyazi, kukhumudwa ...

Koma ndizoopsa kwambiri kwa amene watsala. Wotsikirayo amatenga chisankho osatha kufotokoza mkwiyo wake, mkwiyo wake. Kulekana pagulu pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi njira imodzi yopita ku mantha: udindo "ngati banja" umasintha mwadzidzidzi kukhala "wosakwatiwa" kapena, wovuta kwambiri, kukhala "wovuta", osadziwa mnzake komanso wodziwika kwa ena.

Kwa achinyamata kapena achikulire, kumverera kusungulumwa, kuzunzika ndi nkhawa ndizakuti lingaliro lodzipha limatha kumugwira kapena kumugonjera. Chibwenzicho chimakhala chokwanira komanso chodyetsa kunyoza kwake kotero kuti akumva kutopetsedwa. Iye salinso wamtengo wapatali, ndipo amaganiza kuti chikondi chilibe phindu. Zitha kuchitika kuti wachinyamata amakhala wamakani kwambiri kwa iyemwini.

Banja ndilofunikira kwambiri munthawi yovutayi. Ino ndi nthawi yoti mverani popanda kuweruza, mpatseni chidwi chachikulu, wachifundo popanda kumulowetsa m'amseri. Ndikofunikanso kusiya malingaliro a achinyamata okhwima omwe angaganize. 

Pambuyo pake, kutha kumawoneka ngati nthawi yothana ndi ululu komanso kuwongolera miyoyo ya anthu. Zimathandizanso kuti:

• Dziwani nkhani zatsopano zachikondi ndi chisangalalo chatsopano.
• Sinthani zokhumba zanu.
• Khalani ndi luso lolankhulana bwino, makamaka polemba malingaliro anu.
• Funsani dziko lanu lamkati, mukhale olekerera, achikondi "abwinoko".
• Dziwani kuti zowawa zopatukana zitha kukhala zazifupi kuposa zowawa zosasiyana.

Zowawa zachikondi zimalimbikitsa. Onse okonda ovulala amawona kuti akufunika kutsanulira zaluso kapena zolembalemba. Njira yopita ku sublimation ikuwoneka ngati njira yopulumutsira yomwe imakulitsa kupweteka, mtundu wa chisangalalo cha kuvutika, osathetsa ululu.

« Pomaliza, ndizosowa kwenikweni kuti timasiyirana wina ndi mnzake, chifukwa, tikadakhala bwino, sitikasiyana », Marcel Proust, Albertine wosasiyana (1925).

« Chikondi sichimamvekanso mwamphamvu kwambiri monga momwe zimakhumudwitsira, ndi zowawa zake. Chikondi nthawi zina chimakhala chopanda malire cha chimzake, pomwe chidani ndichotsimikizika. Pakati pa ziwirizi, magawo akuyembekezera, kukayika, chiyembekezo ndi kukhumudwa zimayambitsa mutuwo. » Didier Lauru