Kukhala wapanyumba kukhoza kusokoneza maubwenzi a anthu. Momwe mungakhalire ocheperako komanso kutuluka m'nyumba zambiri? 

Munthu wapanyumba ndi munthu amene amakonda kukhala panyumba, amene amakonda moyo wongokhala. 

Kukhala wapanyumba sikumawonedwa bwino nthawi zonse m'chitaganya. Eni nyumba nthawi zina amatchedwa anthu okhala m'nyumba. Anthu ena zimawavuta kumvetsa chifukwa chimene ena amasangalalira panyumba ndipo safunikira kutuluka. Akhoza kuwaona ngati anthu ocheza nawo.

Komabe, munthu wakunyumba sayenera kusokonezedwa ndi kukhala yekhayekha kapena kucheza: munthu wakunyumba amakonda kuwona anthu, koma kunyumba. 

Zifukwa zingapo zimatsogozedwa ndi akatswiri amisala kuti afotokoze kuti anthu amakhala kunyumba: amatha kukhala ndi chizolowezi chabanja chochereza zambiri kunyumba; iwo angakhale anali osasungika muubwana wawo ndi makolo awo ndipo kwawo kuli malo osungika; ali odzidalira ndipo safunikira kukhala ndi maonekedwe akunja nthawi zonse kuti amve kuti alipo. 

Ngati mnzanuyo akuda nkhawa kuti ndi munthu wapanyumba (akuwona kuti akufunika kutuluka kuposa inu), mutha kuyesa kusintha.

Pachifukwa ichi, katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi psychoanalyst Alberto Eiguet akusonyeza kuti mutsegule pang'onopang'ono: kuti muchite izi, muwone anthu omwe ali pafupi kwambiri ndi malo, ndiye onjezerani bwalo lanu, poyika ndalama mu mgwirizano mwachitsanzo. 

Katswiri wa zamaganizo Laurie Hawkes akusonyeza kuti mumaganizira za chisangalalo chomwe chimabwera ndi kutuluka: kunjenjemera paulendo wopita ku nyumba yosungiramo zinthu zakale, kukumana kokongola mukamapita kukamwa ndi anzanu. Katswiriyu amakulangizaninso kuti mupeze mphamvu yoyendetsera mkati mwanu kuti mutuluke komanso kuti musamachite kuti musangalatse okondedwa anu. Amakupangirani zolimbitsa thupi: lingalirani kudzipatula nokha ndikukambirana nokha: “Tiyeni, tituluke. Pali filimu yomwe ili ndi ndemanga zabwino kwambiri ”.

Nthawi zina, kukhala ndi mwambo wotuluka, kamodzi pa sabata mwachitsanzo, kungakupangitseni kufuna kutuluka. Mwachitsanzo, yesani kupita kumalo odyera kamodzi pamlungu.