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"Kuponi" - kumverera "kusonkhanitsidwa posungira" kulipira mumasewera. Zamaganizo «kuponi» ndi lingaliro la transaction kusanthula ndi Eric Berne.

Psychological «makuponi» ndi ofanana kwambiri kuchotsera makuponi amene amaperekedwa kwa makasitomala m'masitolo kugula katundu. Onsewo ndi makuponi ena amatha kusonkhanitsidwa, kupulumutsidwa, kutayidwa kapena kunamiziridwa. Ndizovuta kwambiri kwa okonda kusonkhanitsa zamaganizo «macouponi» kuwakana, monga momwe zingakhalire zovuta kwa okonda kugula makuponi kuti aziwotcha kuchotsera. Ndipo potsiriza, muzochitika zonsezi, omwe ali ndi makuponi ayenera kulipira makuponi.

Chitsanzo cha «kuponi»: mkazi, ataphunzira za kusakhulupirika mwamuna wake, kukankhira kunja. Koma pa pempho lake loumirira, posakhalitsa amamulola kuti abwerere, pamene akunena kuti: "Chabwino, mukhoza kukhala ndi moyo, koma kumbukirani kuti choyambirira sichidzakhalapo." Choncho, chifukwa cha kuperekedwa, adadzitengera yekha "coupon" ndi chipembedzo chachikulu cha mkwiyo ndi kunyoza ndi nthawi yovomerezeka yopanda malire (kwa moyo wonse) ndikugulitsa nthawi zonse m'maseŵera a banja.

Ndemanga kuchokera m'buku la "Transactional Analysis - Eastern Version"

Olemba: Makarov VV, Makarova GA,

Makasitomala amabwera kudzalandira chithandizo ndi ma Albums okhuthala a masitampu, okhala ndi mabanki a nkhumba. Kwa ambiri, kutolera “masitampu” ndi “ndalama” kumakhala chisonkhezero chachikulu m’moyo. Nthawi zambiri, makasitomala amadziunjikira zizindikiro za golide za malingaliro enieni omwe salola kuti awonetsere "pano ndi pano", koma sungani, ena "tsiku lamvula", ena patchuthi.

Nachi chitsanzo chofala. Sveta, dokotala, wazaka 43. "Album" yake amatchedwa "Loving Woman". Malingaliro enieni achisangalalo, ziyembekezo za chikondi, kukoma mtima, kugonana zinali zobisika kuseri kwa malingaliro achipongwe osalabadira amuna. M'banja, amayi adaletsa "kukhala mkazi": kugwiritsa ntchito zodzoladzola, kuvala bwino. “Musabadwe okongola, koma badwa osangalala”, “Si kukongola, koma kukoma mtima komwe kumapangitsa munthu kukhala wokongola”, “Amakumana ndi zovala, amaperekezedwa ndi malingaliro”. Mtsikanayo adaganiza zokhala wanzeru, wokoma mtima ndikudikirira kalonga moyo wake wonse. Mu "chimbale" chake adayikapo masitampu amalingaliro ake enieni achimwemwe ndi chikondi. Mphoto yake inali yoti akhale Kalonga yekha. Ndipo "Album" anali dowry wake.

Pogwira ntchito ndi masitampu, wothandizira amafunsa mafunso ambiri kwa kasitomala. Kodi piggy bank yanu ndi chiyani? Ndi mawonekedwe, kukula, mtundu wanji? Ndi mphaka kapena nkhumba? Ndi yolemera kapena yopanda kanthu? Kodi mupitirizabe kusonkhanitsa ndalama zachitsulo zosamveka mpaka liti? Kodi zomverera zanu ndi zabodza kapena zowona? Kodi mumatolera masitampu ati? Kodi muli ndi zimbale zingati? Perekani mitu kumabamu anu. Kodi mumatolera mpaka liti? Kodi mungakonde kulandira mphoto yanji? Panthawi imeneyi, ndikofunika kulekanitsa, kulekanitsa kasitomala ku malingaliro ake a racket, mwachitsanzo, pogwiritsa ntchito zithunzi za Albums, piggy banks. Kenako, wochiritsa ndi kasitomala amasanthula zosonkhanitsidwa ndi kubwezera komwe akuyembekezeredwa mwatsatanetsatane. M'kati mwa ntchito, kasitomala amazindikira kuti, atapatukana ndi kusonkhanitsa, adasiyana ndi kubwezera. Apa ndikofunikira kuchita njira yolekanitsa, kuyitanira kasitomala kuchita mwambo. Timagwiritsa ntchito njira za trance. Nayi imodzi mwazosankha: "Mutha kuwonetsa ma Albums anu ndi masitampu momwemo. Mabanki a nkhumba. Sankhani njira yoti muwachotsere. Ukhoza kukhala moto waukulu wamwambo. Mwina zikuwoneka ngati moto waupainiya. Ndizoyenera ngati mwasunga masitampu kuyambira nthawi imeneyo. Kapena mwina moto wawukulu wa asing'anga, pomwe mithunzi imathamangira mozungulira, otchulidwa m'moyo wanu, ali muzovala za carnival ndi zovala. Yang'anani mosamala. Ndani ali kumbuyo kwa masks, zomwe amachita, zomwe amalankhula. Kodi maganizo awo ndi otani? Kodi ali osangalala kapena achisoni? Yang'anani, mverani, imvani zomwe zikuchitika pozungulira. Ndipo mukakonzeka, tengani ma Albums anu ndikuwakweza, tsopano ponyani ma Albums pamoto. Onani masamba akufutukuka. Momwe masitampu amabalalika, kuyaka ndi moto ndikuthiridwa ndi phulusa. Ndani ali pafupi ndi inu? Yang'anani pozungulira, zomwe zasintha. Kodi anthu awa amene aima pafupi ndi inu ndi ndani? Avala zophimba nkhope kapena ayi? Yang'anani pa iwo. Amachita chiyani, amalankhula chiyani, amakhala ndi malingaliro otani.

Kodi muli ndi banki ya nkhumba? Ngati ilipo, yerekezani kuti mukuimenya ndi nyundo yaikulu ndikuiphwanya kwa omenya. Kapena kumira m'nyanja ya buluu, kumangiriza mwala wabwino ku "kiti" kapena "nkhumba" yomwe mumakonda.

Siyani kulemera kwa malingaliro omwe anasonkhanitsa. Atsanzike kwa iwo. Fuulani mokweza kuti "Chabwino!".

Zomverera zachinyengo

Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna amalekerera mkazi wake amene akufunafuna ntchito mwakhama. Malingaliro ake enieni akuwopa kusungulumwa, kusiyidwa, m’malo mwa kuipidwa mwachipongwe. Sasonyeza poyera maganizo ake enieni. Sauza mkazi wake zoona:

«Wokondedwa, ndikuwopa kuti ndikutayani. Inu ndinu kuwala pawindo kwa ine, tanthauzo la moyo wanga, chisangalalo ndi bata. N'zosakayikitsa kuti mkazi pambuyo pa mawu otere sadzakhalabe opanda chidwi ndipo adzachita zonse kuti akhale pafupi ndi mwamuna uyu. Komabe, zoona zake n’zakuti mwamunayo amangosonyeza kuti alibe nazo ntchito ndipo amadana ndi kubwezera. Pamene "chikho cha chipiriro" chikusefukira, amafotokoza zonse za madandaulo ake. Mkazi amachoka. Iye amakhala yekha. Malipiro ake ndi kusungulumwa komwe ankawopa kwambiri. Onani →