Anthu amakumana, kugwa m'chikondi ndipo nthawi ina amasankha kukhalira limodzi. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Christine Northam, banja lachinyamata, Rose ndi Sam, ndi Jean Harner, mlembi wa Clean Home, Clean Heart, akukamba za momwe mungachepetsere zizolowezi.
Kukhala pamodzi ndi mnzanu sikungosangalatsa chabe kugawana chakudya chamadzulo, kuwonera ma TV ndi kugonana nthawi zonse. Izi ndizofunika kugawana nthawi zonse bedi ndi malo a nyumba ndi munthu wina. Ndipo ili ndi zizolowezi ndi zinthu zambiri zomwe simumazidziwa kale.
Christine Northam ndi wotsimikiza kuti musanayambe kukambirana za kukhalira limodzi ndi mnzanu, muyenera kudziyankha moona mtima funso la chifukwa chake muyenera kuchita izi.
“Ichi ndi chigamulo chachikulu chomwe chimakhudza kudziletsa m’dzina la zofuna za mnzanu, ndiye mpofunika kuganizira ngati mukufuna kukhala naye kwa zaka zambiri. Mwina mwangogwidwa ndi maganizo,” akufotokoza motero. - Nthawi zambiri munthu m'modzi yekha mwa okwatirana amakhala wokonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi chachikulu, ndipo wachiwiri amadzipangira kukopa. Ndikofunikira kuti onse awiri afune izi ndikuzindikira kuzama kwa sitepe yotere. Kambiranani mbali zonse za moyo wanu wamtsogolo limodzi ndi mnzanuyo. "
Alice, wazaka 24, ndi Philip, wazaka 27, anakhala pachibwenzi kwa pafupifupi chaka chimodzi ndipo anasamukira limodzi chaka ndi theka chapitacho.
"Philip anali kuthetsa mgwirizano wochita lendi nyumba, ndipo tinaganiza kuti: bwanji osayesa kukhalira limodzi? Sitinkadziwa kwenikweni zomwe tinkayembekezera tikakhalira limodzi. Koma ngati simuika moyo wanu pachiswe, ubwenziwo sudzakula,” akutero Alice.
Tsopano achinyamata «anayamba ntchito». Amachitira lendi nyumba pamodzi ndikukonzekera kugula nyumba m'zaka zingapo, koma poyamba sizinali bwino.
Musanasankhe zochita pa nkhani yokhalira limodzi, m’pofunika kudziwa umunthu wa mnzanuyo, kumuyendera, kuona mmene amakhalira.
“Poyamba ndinakhumudwa ndi Filipo chifukwa sanafune kudziyeretsa. Iye anakulira pakati pa amuna, ndipo ndinakulira pakati pa akazi, ndipo tinayenera kuphunzira zambiri kwa wina ndi mnzake,” akukumbukira motero Alice. Filipo anavomereza kuti anafunika kuchita zinthu mwadongosolo, ndipo chibwenzi chakecho chinayenera kuvomereza mfundo yakuti m’nyumbamo simudzakhala aukhondo.
Jean Harner ndi wotsimikiza: musanapange chisankho chokhalira pamodzi, ndikofunika kumvetsera mtundu wa umunthu wa mnzanuyo. Mukamuchezere, muwone momwe alili. "Ngati simukumva bwino chifukwa cha chipwirikiti chomwe chakuzungulirani, kapena, mosiyana, mukuwopa kugwetsa nyenyeswa pamalo oyera bwino, muyenera kuganizira. Zizolowezi ndi zikhulupiriro za akuluakulu zimakhala zovuta kusintha. Yesetsani kukambirana zosagwirizana zomwe aliyense wa inu akufuna kupanga. Kambiranani zosoŵa za wina ndi mzake pasadakhale.
Christine Northam akupereka lingaliro lakuti okwatirana amene akukonzekera kukhalira limodzi amavomerezana zimene angachite ngati zizoloŵezi, zofuna kapena zikhulupiriro za mmodzi wa iwo zikhale chopunthwitsa.
“Ngati mikangano ya m’banja ikabuka, yesetsani kusaimbana mlandu pakali pano. Musanakambirane za vutoli, muyenera "kuzizira" pang'ono. Pokhapokha mkwiyo utachepa, mutha kukhala patebulo lokambirana kuti mumvetsere malingaliro a wina ndi mnzake, "amalangiza ndikuyitanitsa abwenzi kuti akambirane zakukhosi kwawo ndikukhala ndi chidwi ndi malingaliro a mnzawo:" Ndinakhumudwa nditawona phiri. wa zovala zauve pansi. Kodi mukuganiza kuti n’zotheka kuchita zimenezi kuti zisadzachitikenso?
Patapita nthawi, Alice ndi Philip anagwirizana kuti aliyense adzakhala ndi malo ake pabedi ndi pa tebulo chakudya. Izi zinachotsa mkangano wina pakati pawo.
Kukhalira limodzi kumabweretsa maubwenzi kumlingo watsopano, wodalirana. Ndipo maubale amenewo ndi oyenera kukonzedwa.
Gwero: Independent.