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Ana amene amaonetsa zaukali, kulimba mtima ndi kuchita zonse mosamvera, amatchedwa zovuta. Amalangidwa, amaphunzitsidwa kapena kutengeredwa kwa akatswiri a zamaganizo, koma chifukwa chake kaŵirikaŵiri chimakhala mu mkhalidwe wamanjenje kapena wopsinjika maganizo wa makolo, anatero Whitney R. Cummings, katswiri wa mavuto a khalidwe la ana.
Ana omwe salamulira bwino khalidwe lawo, amakonda kuchita zachiwawa ndipo samazindikira ulamuliro wa akuluakulu, amapanga mavuto ambiri kwa makolo awo, aphunzitsi ndi aliyense wowazungulira. Whitney Cummings amakhazikika pakusintha kwamakhalidwe, kuvulala paubwana komanso kulera ana. Ntchitoyi inamuphunzitsa kuti aziyankha modekha zochita za anthu ena (kuphatikizapo ana) komanso kuti asataye kudziletsa.
Komanso, anazindikira kufunika kodzisamalira kuti akwaniritse udindo wake waubereki. Kusakhazikika kwathu m'malingaliro nthawi zonse kumawonekera mu ubale ndi ana. Choyamba, izi nkhawa aphunzitsi ndi makolo (banja ndi anatengera) a «zovuta» ana, amene utakwezedwa maganizo amafunikira njira yapadera. Malinga ndi zimene katswiriyu ananena, iye ankakhulupirira zimenezi chifukwa cha zimene zinamuchitikira.
Kuti muyankhule zapamtima mumafunikira mphamvu
Whitney R. Cummings, Katswiri wa Khalidwe la Ana, Wolemba, Bokosi Pakona
Masabata angapo apitawo, masoka ochuluka anandigwera kwakuti sindinathe kusamalira bwino mwana wanga wamkazi. Nthaŵi zonse anali wovutikira kuposa ana athu aŵiri, koma tinachita zonse zotheka kuti asamve kusiyana kwake. Sitinkafuna kuti adziwe kuti pamafunika mphamvu zambiri, kuleza mtima, chifundo komanso mphamvu zamaganizo. Nthaŵi zambiri, tinapambana.
Sankakayikira kuti timagona usiku kwambiri, tikukambirana za khalidwe lake komanso kuganizira zimene tingachite mawa. Sanaone mmene tinatsekera kukhitchini kuti tipume ndi kukhazika mtima pansi. Sanazindikire kuti zowawa zake zakale zimapweteka bwanji m'mitima mwathu, makamaka tikamamuwona akubwerezanso m'maloto owopsa komanso akupsa mtima mwadzidzidzi. Sanadziwe kalikonse, monga momwe timafunira.
Iye ndi mwana wathu. Ndipo ndizo zonse zomwe ankayenera kudziwa. Koma mavuto ambiri anandilepheretsa kukhala ndi chiyembekezo, ndipo pomalizira pake anazindikira kuti zinali zovuta kuti ndikhale mayi wabwino. Zinali zoonekeratu kwa iye kuti anali kuchitidwa mosiyana ndi ana ena awiri. Kwa milungu itatu ndinali wopanda kanthu mkati mwakuti sindikanatha kukhala woleza mtima, wamphamvu komanso womvetsetsa.
Ngati poyamba ndinkawerama kuti ndimuyang'ane m'maso, ndikuyankhula mwachikondi, kuyesera kuti ndizindikire zomwe zinachitika, tsopano ndinatsika ndi mawu achidule ndipo sindinachite chilichonse. Ndinalibe chomupatsa, ndipo iye anazindikira. Sikuti tsopano ana akubadwako analandira chisamaliro chochuluka. Sindinathe kupereka kalikonse kwa aliyense wa iwo. Ndinalibe ngakhale mphamvu zoyankha meseji kapena foni.
Kodi, pempherani ndikuuzeni, ndingathe bwanji kukambirana momasuka za mnyamata yemwe amamukonda XNUMX koloko m'mawa, ngati sindinagone maola oposa khumi sabata yonse?
Ana anga omwe sanakhumudwe kwenikweni ndi kulephera kwanga mwadzidzidzi. Sanafune chisamaliro chatsiku ndi tsiku. Anapita kusukulu paokha m’maŵa ndipo sanade nkhawa kuti m’malo mwa chakudya chamasana amadyetsedwa maswiti a nkhuku ndi maswiti, kuti inali nthawi yoti agone, ndipo pakama pawo panali mulu wansalu. Anakhumudwa kuti ndinali kulira tsiku lonse, koma sanandikwiyire. Iwo sanayankhe kusowa kwa chisamaliro cha makolo ndi antics olimba mtima.
Ndi mwana womulera, zonse zinali zosiyana. Anakwiya ndi misozi yanga yosalekeza. Kusowa chakudya chokwanira tsikulo motsatizana kunamusokoneza. Anakwiya kuti zinthu zinabalalika m’nyumba monse. Anafunikira kusasinthasintha, kulinganiza, chisamaliro, zomwe sindikanatha kupereka. Poyamba ndinkatha kukhutiritsa pafupifupi zosoŵa zamaganizo za mtsikana.
Ngati talemedwa ndi zokumana nazo zovuta, sitingathe kusamalira bwino mwana wovuta.
Chikondi chake chinali 98% chodzazidwa ndi zoyesayesa zanga, ndipo tsopano zatsala pang'ono kutha. Sindinathe kukhala pansi ndikulankhula naye mochokera pansi pamtima kapena kumutulutsa kuti akatenge ayisikilimu. Sindinafune kukumbatirana ndi kumugwira pafupi, sindinkafuna kuwerenga mabuku usiku. Ndinamvetsa mmene anaphonya zimenezi, koma ndinalephera kudziletsa.
M’mawu ena, iye anamva chisoni chifukwa ndinadzimva chisoni. Ndinkadziwa kuti chisoni changa sichidzakhalapo mpaka kalekale, ndipo posachedwapa ndidzatha kumusamalira monga kale. Malingaliro anga (ndi khalidwe) pang'onopang'ono anabwerera mwakale, koma ndondomeko imene akatswiri a zamaganizo amatcha "njira yophunzirira" imafuna kutenga nawo mbali. Kunena zoona, ndinayenera kumva chisoni, podziŵa kuti sangandiumirize pa ululu wanga, ndipo anayenera kuleza mtima, podziŵa kuti sindidzamusiya. Ndizovuta kwambiri.
Ngati nditatengera lingaliro limeneli ndi kulivomereza monga chowonadi chosatsutsika, posachedwapa nditaya mkhalidwe wa mayi wolera. Ndikofunikira kukhala wathanzi m'lingaliro lililonse kuika zosowa za mwanayo patsogolo pa zofuna zanu, koma izi ndizosatheka pamene simungathe kuganizira zofuna zanu. Komabe, kudzikonda sikuli kudzikonda, koma kofunika kwambiri.
Choyamba zosowa zathu, kenako zosoŵa, zokhumba ndi zofuna za ana athu. Ngati tidzipeza tokha m'malingaliro opulumuka, timangokhala ndi mphamvu zokwanira zodziganizira tokha tsiku lonse. Tiyenera kuvomereza izi ndikuganizira za mavuto athu: ndi njira iyi yokha yomwe tingatengere sitepe yotsatira.
Zoonadi, mkhalidwe wanga ngwosiyana kwambiri ndi umene makolo ambiri osakhazikika m’maganizo amakumana nawo. Koma mfundo zake n’zofanana. Ngati talemedwa ndi zokumana nazo zovuta, ngati malingaliro osasinthika akukhala ndi malingaliro onse ndipo sangatilole kulamulira malingaliro, sitingathe kusamalira mwana wovuta mwachizolowezi. Khalidwe lake losayenerera limafunikira kuyankha kwabwino kumbali yathu.