Momwe mungaletsere troll yanu yamkati

Mnzathu wokayikitsa ameneyu anakhazikika m’mutu mwathu. Amatichititsa kukhulupirira kuti akuchita kaamba ka ubwino wathu, cholinga chake chimene analengeza ndicho kutiteteza ku mavuto. M’chenicheni, cholinga chake sichili chabwino m’pang’ono pomwe: amafunitsitsa kutipangitsa kukhala osasangalala, amantha, omvetsa chisoni, osungulumwa.

"Troll si mantha anu kapena malingaliro oyipa, ndiye gwero lawo. Amagwiritsa ntchito zowawa zakale ndikukunyozani, kukukumbutsani zomwe mukuziopa kwambiri, ndikupanga kanema wowopsa wonena za tsogolo lomwe likukuzungulirani m'mutu mwanu, "atero Rick Carson, wolemba wogulitsa kwambiri wa The Troll Tamer. Kodi zidachitika bwanji kuti troll idawonekera m'moyo wathu?

Kodi troll ndi ndani?

Kuyambira m’maŵa mpaka madzulo, iye amatiuza mmene timaonekera pamaso pa ena, akumamasulira zimene timachita m’njira yakeyake. Ma Troll amatenga mawonekedwe osiyanasiyana, koma onse ali ndi chinthu chimodzi chofanana: amagwiritsa ntchito zomwe takumana nazo m'mbuyomu kutilalatira kuti tigonjetse moyo wathu wonse kuti tidzichepetse tokha komanso nthawi zina zowopsa zakuti ndife ndani komanso momwe moyo wathu uyenera kukhalira.

Ntchito yokhayo ya troll ndi kutisokoneza kuchokera ku chisangalalo chamkati, kuchokera kwa ife owona - owonera odekha, kuchokera kuzinthu zathu. Ndi iko komwe, chowonadi ndife “magwero a chikhutiro chakuya, wakuchuruka nzeru, ndi kutaya mabodza mopanda chifundo.” Kodi mukumva malangizo ake? “Muli ndi zinthu zofunika kwambiri zoti muzichita. Choncho asamalireni!”, “Kumbukirani mmene ziyembekezo zimathera? Inde, zokhumudwitsa! Khala pansi osasuntha, mwana!

"Ndimamasulidwa osati pamene ndikuyesera kumasuka, koma ndikangowona kuti ndadziika m'ndende," Rick Carson akutsimikiza. Kuwona kupondaponda kwamkati ndi gawo la mankhwala. Chinanso chingachitike kuti tichotse chongoganizira «mthandizi» ndipo potsiriza kupuma momasuka?

Favorite Troll Myths

Nthawi zambiri nyimbo zomwe trolls amaimba zimasokoneza malingaliro. Nazi zina mwazodziwika bwino zomwe amapanga.

• Nkhope yanu yeniyeni ndi yonyansa.
• Chisoni ndi chiwonetsero cha kufooka, ukhanda, kusatetezeka, kudalira.
• Kuvutika ndi kwabwino.
• Kuthamanga kuli bwinoko.
• Atsikana abwino sakonda kugonana.
• Achinyamata osalamulirika okha ndi amene amakwiya.
• Ngati simuzindikira / kufotokoza zakukhosi, zidzachepa zokha.
• Kuwonetsa chisangalalo chosadziwika kuntchito ndi kupusa komanso kosachita bwino.
• Ngati simuchita ndi bizinesi yosamalizidwa, zonse zidzathetsedwa zokha.
• Amuna amatsogolera bwino kuposa akazi.
• Kulakwa kumayeretsa moyo.
• Kuyembekezera ululu kumachepetsa.
• Tsiku lina mudzatha kuwoneratu chilichonse.
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Wolemba za njira yoweta ma troll amasiya mizere ingapo yopanda kanthu kuti tilowe zinazathu - zomwe wolemba nkhani wa troll amatinong'oneza. Ichi ndi sitepe yoyamba kuti tiyambe kuona machenjerero ake.

Ufulu ku kupondaponda: zindikirani ndi kupuma

Kuti muchepetse mayendedwe anu, muyenera kuchita zinthu zitatu zosavuta: ingowonani zomwe zikuchitika, sankhani, sewerani zomwe mwasankha, ndikuchitapo kanthu!

Osadzizunza ndi funso loti chifukwa chiyani zonse zidakhala momwe zidakhalira. Ndizopanda ntchito komanso zosapanga. Mwinamwake yankho lenilenilo lidzapezeka mutapenda mkhalidwewo modekha. Kuti muchepetse mayendedwe, ndikofunikira kuti mungozindikira zomwe zikukuchitikirani, osaganizira chifukwa chomwe mumamvera.

Kuona modekha n’kothandiza kwambiri kusiyana ndi mfundo zambirimbiri. Chidziwitso, monga kuwala kowala, chimalanda mphatso yanu mumdima. Mutha kuzilozera ku thupi lanu, kudziko lozungulira inu, kapena kudziko lamalingaliro. Zindikirani zomwe zikukuchitikirani, thupi lanu, pano ndi pano.

Kuwongolera kuunika kwachidziwitso, tidzatha kumva kudzaza kwa moyo: malingaliro ndi malingaliro adzasiya kugwedezeka mwachisawawa m'mutu, ndipo tidzawona bwino zomwe zikuchitika kuzungulira. The troll mwadzidzidzi adzasiya kunong'oneza choti achite, ndipo tidzasiya stereotypes athu. Koma samalani: troll idzachita chilichonse kuti mukhulupirire kuti moyo ndi chinthu chovuta kwambiri.

Nthawi zina pa kuukira kwa troll, mpweya wathu umatayika. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kupuma mozama komanso mpweya wabwino, Rick Carson akutsimikiza. Mimba iyenera kukhala yozungulira mwachibadwa pokoka mpweya ndikutuluka pamene mukutuluka. Izi ndi zomwe zimachitika kwa iwo omwe ali omasuka ku troll. Koma kwa ambiri aife omwe timavala troll yathu kumbuyo kwa khosi kapena m'thupi, zomwe zimachitika ndendende: tikamakoka, m'mimba imakokedwa ndipo mapapu amangodzazidwa pang'ono.

Zindikirani momwe mumapuma nokha mukamakumana ndi wokondedwa kapena munthu amene simukumukhulupirira. Yesetsani kupuma moyenera muzochitika zosiyanasiyana, ndipo mudzamva kusintha.

Kodi mukuchita manyazi kuvomereza zoyamikira? Sewerani makhalidwe ena. Nthawi ina wina akadzanena kuti ndi wokondwa kukumana nanu, pumirani mozama ndikusangalala ndi mphindiyo. Chitsiru pozungulira. Sinthani moyo wanu ndi masewera.

Tsegulani malingaliro anu

Kodi mumalola kangati kusonyeza chisangalalo, mkwiyo, kapena chisoni? Onsewa amakhala m’thupi mwathu. Chisangalalo chenicheni chosalamulirika ndikumverera kowala, kokongola komanso kopatsirana. Mukayamba kuchoka pa troll yanu, mudzasangalala kwambiri. Zomverera ziyenera kufotokozedwa moona mtima komanso mozama, katswiri wa zamaganizo amakhulupirira.

“Mkwiyo si woipa m’pang’ono pomwe, chisoni sichitanthauza kupsinjika maganizo, chilakolako cha kugonana sichibala chisembwere, chimwemwe sichifanana ndi kusasamala kapena kupusa, ndipo mantha safanana ndi mantha. Kutengeka mtima kumakhala koopsa tikamatsekereza kapena kuphulika mopupuluma, popanda kulemekeza zamoyo zina. Mwa kutchera khutu ku malingaliro, mudzawona kuti palibe choopsa mwa iwo. Ndi troll yokha yomwe imawopa kukhudzidwa: amadziwa kuti mukamawapatsa ufulu, mumamva mphamvu yamphamvu, ndipo ichi ndiye chinsinsi cha kusangalala ndi mphatso ya moyo.

Zomverera sizingatsekeke, zobisika - mulimonse, posachedwa zidzakwawa m'thupi kapena kunja - mwa mawonekedwe a kuphulika kosayembekezereka kwa inu nokha ndi omwe akuzungulirani. Ndiye mwina ndi nthawi yoti muyese kusiya kutengeka mwakufuna kwanu?

Ngati munazolowera kubisa mkwiyo wanu m’kati mwa ndewu, yang’anani mantha anu m’maso ndipo dzifunseni kuti: Kodi choipitsitsa n’chiyani? Yesani kunena zoona pazochitika zanu. Nenani motere:

• “Ndikufuna ndikuuzeni zinazake, koma ndikuwopa kuti mungakwiye. Kodi mungakonde kundimvera?"
• "Ndakukwiyirani kwambiri, koma ndimalemekeza ndi kuyamikira ubale wathu."
• “Ndikukayikira kulankhula nanu za mutu umodzi wovuta… Koma sindikumva bwino ndipo ndikufuna ndikufotokozereni bwino nkhaniyi. Kodi mwakonzeka kukambirana moona mtima?
• “Kudzakhala kukambirana kovutirapo: sinditha kulankhula bwino, ndipo ndiwe wokonda kunyodola. Tiyeni tiyese kulemekezana.”

Kapena kutenga mantha athu. The troll ndi wokondwa kwambiri kuti mukukhala motengera malingaliro. Dziko lamalingaliro ndiye mankhwala. Yesetsani kupanga malingaliro anu molondola - izi zidzakutulutsani muzongopeka zowopsa kukhala zenizeni. Mwachitsanzo, mukuganiza kuti bwana wanu angakane lingaliro lanu. O, troll yazunguliranso, mwazindikira?

Kenako tengani kapepala ndikulemba kuti:

Ngati ndili ____________________ (chinthu #1 chomwe mukuwopa kuchita), ndiye ndikuganiza ndine __________________________ (zotsatira #1).

Ngati ine ___________________________________ (lembani yankho kuchokera pamzere #1), ndiye ndikuganiza ______________________________________ (mzere #2).

Ngati ine ___________________________________ (lembani yankho kuchokera pamzere #2), ndiye ndikuganiza ________________________________________ (m'mbali #3).

Ndi zina zotero.

Mutha kuchita izi kangapo momwe mungafune ndikudumphira mozama momwe ifeyo timaganizira kuti ndizotheka. Pa kutembenuka kwachitatu kapena kwachinayi, ndithudi tidzayamba kuzindikira kuti mantha athu ndi opanda pake ndi kuti pamlingo wozama timazoloŵera kugonjera zochita zathu ku mantha a ululu, kukanidwa, ngakhale imfa. Tidzawona kuti troll yathu ndi yoyendetsa bwino kwambiri, ndipo tikawunika mosamala momwe zinthu zilili, tidzapeza kuti palibe zotsatira zenizeni kwa ife mmenemo.

Zokhudza Wolemba: Rick Carson ndiye woyambitsa wa Troll Taming Method, wolemba mabuku, woyambitsa ndi wotsogolera wa Troll Taming Institute, mphunzitsi waumwini ndi mlangizi wa akatswiri a zamaganizo, ndi membala ndi woyang'anira wovomerezeka wa American Association for Marriage and Family. Chithandizo.