Zinthu zamwazikana, zolemba zolembedwa kunyumba zomwe zaiwalika, kusintha kotayika ... Ana ambiri, mokhumudwitsa kwambiri makolo awo, amakhala osalongosoka. Katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso katswiri wokhudza chitukuko cha ana Victoria Prudey amapereka malangizo osavuta komanso othandiza amomwe angaphunzitsire mwana kudziyimira pawokha.
Kwa zaka zambiri akugwira ntchito monga psychotherapist, Victoria Prudey anakumana ndi makasitomala ambiri ndipo anamva pafupifupi mavuto onse okhudzana ndi khalidwe lawo ndi chitukuko. Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zimadetsa nkhawa kwambiri makolo ndi kusokonekera kwa ana awo.
Makolo amene ali ndi ana akabwera ku ofesi yanga, nthawi zambiri ndimamva kuti “vula jekete, vula jekete, vula nsapato, pita kuchimbudzi, kasambe m’manja,” ndipo patapita mphindi zochepa makolo omwewo amandidandaula. kuti mwana wawo wamwamuna kapena wamkazi nthawi zonse amaiwala bokosi la chakudya chamasana kunyumba , diary kapena zolemba, amataya mabuku, zipewa ndi mabotolo amadzi, amaiwala kuchita homuweki, "akugawana nawo. Malingaliro ake akuluakulu, omwe nthawi zonse amadabwitsa makolo, ndikusiya. Lekani kuchita ngati GPS ya mwana wanu. Chifukwa chiyani?
Zikumbutso zochokera kwa akulu zimakhaladi ngati njira yakunja yoyendera ana, kuwatsogolera tsiku lililonse la moyo. Pogwira ntchito ndi GPS yoteroyo, makolo amatenga udindo wa mwanayo ndipo samamulola kuti akulitse luso la gulu. Zikumbutso kwenikweni "zimitsa" ubongo wake, ndipo popanda iwo mwanayo salinso wokonzeka kukumbukira ndi kuchita chinachake mwakufuna kwake, alibe zolimbikitsa.
Makolo amalekerera kufooka kwachibadwa kwa mwanayo mwa kupereka uphungu wosalekeza.
Koma m'moyo weniweni, sadzakhala ndi GPS yakunja, yokonzeka nthawi zonse kuthandizira kugwira ntchito zofunika ndikupanga mapulani. Mwachitsanzo, mphunzitsi wa pasukulupo ali ndi ana asukulu 25 m’kalasi, ndipo sangathe kupereka chisamaliro chapadera kwa aliyense. Tsoka, ana omwe amazolowera kuwongolera kunja amatayika pakalibe, ubongo wawo sunasinthidwe kuti athetse mavuto otere.
“Kaŵirikaŵiri makolo amagogomezera kuti ayenera kukumbutsidwa ndendende chifukwa chakuti mwanayo ndi wosalongosoka,” akutero Victoria Prudey. "Koma ngati makolo m'zaka zisanu zapitazi akhala akukumbutsa mwanayo nthawi zonse kuti asambe m'manja atatha kuchimbudzi, ndipo sakumbukirabe izi, ndiye kuti njira yotereyi sikugwira ntchito."
Pali ana omwe mwachibadwa sakhala odzipangira okha, ndipo makolo omwe amatsatira zofooka zawo zachibadwa, amakhala ngati GPS ndikupatsa anawo malangizo osalekeza. Komabe, akukumbutsa wothandizira, lusoli likhoza kuphunzitsidwa ndipo liyenera kuchitidwa nthawi zonse, koma osati kupyolera mu zikumbutso.
Victoria Pruday amapereka njira kwa makolo kuthandiza mwana wawo wamwamuna kapena wamkazi kugwiritsa ntchito malingaliro awo.
Mwanayo tsiku lina ayenera kuyang'anizana ndi zotsatira za kusalinganika kwake ndikuphunzira pa zolakwa zake.
- Phunzitsani mwana wanu kugwiritsa ntchito kalendala. Luso limeneli lidzamupatsa kudzidalira ndikumuthandiza kukhala wodziimira payekha pofika tsiku limene ayenera kulinganiza nthawi yake popanda inu.
- Lembani mndandanda wa zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku: masewera olimbitsa thupi m'mawa, kukonzekera kusukulu, kuchita homuweki, kukonzekera kugona. Izi zidzathandiza «kuyatsa» kukumbukira ake ndi accustom iye zinayendera zina.
- Bwerani ndi ndondomeko yamalipiro chifukwa cha kupambana kwa mwana wanu wamwamuna kapena wamkazi panjira. Mukaona kuti mndandanda wa zochita ukuchitikira paokha komanso pa nthawi yake, onetsetsani kuti mwakupatsa mphoto kapena mawu okoma mtima. Kulimbitsa bwino kumagwira ntchito bwino kuposa kulimbikitsana koyipa, kotero ndikwabwino kupeza zomwe mungatamandirepo kuposa kudzudzula.
- Mthandizeni kuti adzipatse zipangizo zina zochitira zinthu mwadongosolo, monga zikwatu zomata “Homuweki. Zachitika» ndi «Homuweki. Ndiyenera kuchita. ” Onjezani gawo lamasewera - pogula zinthu zoyenera, lolani mwana kuti asankhe mitundu ndi zosankha zomwe angafune.
- Lumikizani mwana wanu ku dongosolo lanu - phatikizani mndandanda wazinthu zogulira banja lonse, sankhani zovala zochapira, konzani chakudya motsatira njira, ndi zina zotero.
- Msiyeni alakwitse. Tsiku lina ayenera kuyang'anizana ndi zotsatira za kusalinganizika kwake ndi kuphunzira pa zolakwa zake. Osamutsatira kusukulu ndi diary kapena nkhomaliro ngati nthawi zonse amaiwala kunyumba.
“Thandizani mwana wanu kukhala GPS yakeyake,” Victoria Prudey akulankhula ndi makolo. Mudzamuphunzitsa phunziro lofunika kwambiri lomwe lidzakhala lopindulitsa kwambiri akadzakula ndikuyamba kupirira maudindo ovuta kwambiri. Mudzadabwitsidwa momwe mwana wanu wowoneka ngati wosakonzekera angakhalire wodziimira payekha.
Za wolemba: Victoria Prudey ndi psychotherapist yemwe amagwira ntchito limodzi ndi makolo ndi ana.