"Kodi ndimakonda kukhala ndi moyo?": Mawu 10 ochokera ku nkhani ya katswiri wa zamaganizo Alfried Lenglet

Mu 2017, Alfried Lenglet anakamba nkhani ku Moscow yakuti: “Kodi n’chiyani chimapangitsa moyo wathu kukhala wofunika? Kufunika kwa zikhulupiriro, malingaliro ndi maubale kuti tilimbikitse chikondi cha moyo. ” Nazi zina mwazopatsa chidwi kwambiri za izo.

1. Timaumba moyo wathu

Ntchito imeneyi ili patsogolo pa aliyense wa ife. Ife tapatsidwa udindo ndi moyo, ife tiri ndi udindo pa izo. Nthawi zonse timadzifunsa kuti: Kodi ndidzachita chiyani ndi moyo wanga? Kodi ndipita kuphunziro, kodi ndikhala ndikuwonera TV usiku wonse, ndikumana ndi anzanga?

Kumlingo waukulu, zimadalira ife kaya moyo wathu udzakhala wabwino kapena ayi. Moyo umayenda bwino ngati timaukonda. Timafunikira ubale wabwino ndi moyo kapena tidzataya.

2. Kodi miliyoni zingasinthe chiyani?

Moyo womwe tikukhala sudzakhala wangwiro. Nthawi zonse tidzalingalira china chabwinoko. Koma kodi zingakhale bwino titakhala ndi madola milioni? Tingaganize choncho.

Koma zikanasintha bwanji? Inde, ndimatha kuyenda kwambiri, koma mkati mwake palibe chomwe chingasinthe. Ndikanatha kudzigulira ndekha zovala zabwino, koma kodi ubwenzi wanga ndi makolo anga udzakhala wabwino? Ndipo timafunikira maubwenzi awa, amatiumba, amatisonkhezera.

Titha kugula bedi, koma osagona. Titha kugula kugonana, koma osati chikondi. Ndipo chilichonse chimene chili chofunika kwambiri pa moyo sichingagulidwe.

3. Momwe mungamve kufunika kwa tsiku ndi tsiku

Kodi moyo ungakhale wabwino pa tsiku wamba? Ndi nkhani ya chidwi, kulingalira.

Ndinasamba m'mawa uno. Kodi sizosangalatsa kusamba, kumva mtsinje wamadzi ofunda? Ndinamwa khofi pa kadzutsa. Tsiku lonse sindinavutike ndi njala. Ndimayenda, ndimapuma, ndili wathanzi.

Zinthu zambiri zimapatsa moyo wanga kukhala wofunika. Koma, monga lamulo, timazindikira izi pokhapokha atataya. Mnzanga wakhala ku Kenya kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi. Iye ananena kuti kumeneko n’kumene anaphunzira kufunika kwa madzi ofunda.

Koma zili m’manja mwathu kulabadira chilichonse chamtengo wapatali chimene chimapangitsa moyo wathu kukhala wabwinoko, kuchichita mosamala kwambiri. Imani ndikudziwuza nokha: tsopano ndikusamba. Ndipo pamene mukusamba, mvetserani maganizo anu.

4. Pamene kuli kosavuta kwa ine kunena “inde” ku moyo

Mfundo ndizomwe zimalimbitsa ubale wanga wofunikira ndi moyo, ndikuthandizira. Ngati ndaona kuti chinthu chamtengo wapatali, sichapafupi kwa ine kunena kuti "inde" kumoyo.

Makhalidwe amatha kukhala zinthu zazing'ono komanso zazikulu. Kwa okhulupirira, mtengo waukulu ndi Mulungu.

Makhalidwe amatilimbitsa. Chifukwa chake, tiyenera kuyang'ana phindu pa chilichonse chomwe timachita komanso chilichonse chotizungulira. Kodi ndi chiyani pa izi chomwe chimadyetsa moyo wathu?

5. Popereka nsembe, timaphwanya symmetry

Anthu ambiri amachita zinazake chifukwa cha ena, amakana chinachake, amadzipereka okha: kwa ana, bwenzi, makolo, okondedwa.

Koma sikoyenera kokha chifukwa cha mnzanu kuphika chakudya, kugonana - ziyenera kupereka chisangalalo ndi kupindula inunso, mwinamwake pali kutaya kwa mtengo. Uku sikudzikonda, koma kufanana kwa makhalidwe.

Makolo amataya moyo wawo chifukwa cha ana awo: amasiya maholide awo kuti amange nyumba kuti ana awo aziyenda. Koma pambuyo pake adzanyoza anawo kuti: “Ife takuchitirani chirichonse, ndipo inu ndinu osayamika.” Ndipotu iwo amati: “Lipirani ngongole. Khalani othokoza ndipo mundichitire zina. ”

Pomva chisangalalo chakuti tingathe kusiya kanthu chifukwa cha ana, timaona phindu la zochita zathu. Koma ngati palibe malingaliro otero, timadzimva kukhala opanda pake, ndiyeno pamafunika kuyamikira.

6. Chamtengo wapatali chili ngati maginito

Makhalidwe amakopa, ndikupemphani. Ndikufuna kupita kumeneko, ndikufuna kuwerenga bukhu ili, ndikufuna kudya keke iyi, ndikufuna kuwona anzanga.

Dzifunseni nokha funso: ndi chiyani chomwe chimandikopa panthawiyi? Zikunditengera kuti tsopano? Kodi mphamvu yamaginitoyi imanditengera kuti? Ngati ndalekanitsidwa ndi chinachake kapena munthu kwa nthawi yaitali, kulakalaka kumayamba, ndikuyamba kufuna kubwerezabwereza.

Ngati izi ndizofunika kwa ife, timalolera kupita ku kalabu yolimbitsa thupi mobwerezabwereza, kukakumana ndi bwenzi, kukhala pachibwenzi. Ngati ubale ndi munthu uli wamtengo wapatali, timafuna kupitiriza, tsogolo, malingaliro.

7. Zomverera ndizofunikira kwambiri

Ndikakhala ndi malingaliro, zikutanthauza kuti ndakhudzidwa ndi chinachake, mphamvu yanga ya moyo, chifukwa cha wina kapena chinachake, yayamba kuyenda.

Ndimakhudzidwa ndi nyimbo za Tchaikovsky kapena Mozart, nkhope ya mwana wanga, maso ake. Chinachake chikuchitika pakati pathu.

Kodi moyo wanga ukanakhala wotani ngati palibe chilichonse mwa izi? Osauka, ozizira, ngati bizinesi.

Ndiye chifukwa chake, ngati tili m’chikondi, timamva kuti tili ndi moyo. Moyo umakhala chithupsa, umakhala mwa ife.

8. Moyo umachitika mu maubwenzi, apo ayi kulibe.

Kuti mukhazikitse ubwenzi, muyenera kufuna ubwenzi, kukhala wokonzeka kumva winayo, kukhudzidwa naye.

Kulowa muubwenzi, ndimadzipanga ndekha kwa wina, ndikuponyera mlatho kwa iye. Pa mlatho uwu timapita kwa wina ndi mzake. Ndikakhazikitsa ubale, ndili ndi lingaliro la mtengo womwe mumayimira.

Ndikapanda kutchera khutu kwa ena, ndingataye phindu lalikulu la ubale wanga ndi iwo.

9. Ndikhoza kukhala mlendo kwa ine ndekha

Ndikofunika kudzimva nokha tsiku lonse, kudzifunsa nokha funso mobwerezabwereza: ndikumva bwanji tsopano? Ndikumva bwanji? Kodi ndimamva bwanji ndikakhala ndi anthu ena?

Ubale ndi ena ukhoza kukhala wabwino ngati zonse zili bwino mu ubale ndi iwe mwini.

10. Kodi ndimakonda kukhala ndi moyo?

Ndimakhala, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ndimakula, ndimakhwima, ndimakumana ndi zochitika zina. Ndili ndi zomverera: zokongola, zowawa. Ndili ndi malingaliro, ndimatanganidwa ndi zinazake masana, ndili ndi chosowa chopezera moyo wanga.

Ndinakhala kwa zaka zingapo. Kodi ndimakonda kukhala ndi moyo? Kodi pali china chabwino m'moyo wanga? Kapena mwina ndi lolemera, lodzala ndi mazunzo? Nthawi zambiri zimakhala choncho. Koma kawirikawiri, ine ndekha ndikusangalala kuti ndili ndi moyo. Ndikumva kuti moyo ukundikhudza, pali mtundu wina wa resonance, kusuntha, ndikusangalala ndi izi.

Moyo wanga suli wangwiro, komabe wabwino. Khofi ndi wokoma, kusamba kumasangalatsa, ndipo pali anthu amene ndimawakonda komanso amandikonda.