Nthawi zina zikuwoneka kuti tikufunika kudzikweza tokha. Koma ngati pali mtundu wabwinoko nokha, ndiye kuti wina aliyense ndi woyipa? Ndiyeno kodi tiyenera kuchita chiyani ndi ife eni lero - kuwataya, ngati zovala zakale, ndipo mwamsanga "olondola"?
Ndi dzanja lopepuka la osindikiza buku la Dan Waldschmidt, lomwe limatchedwa kumasulira kwa Chirasha "Khalani Wopambana Wekha", ndondomekoyi yalowa m'malingaliro athu. Pachiyambi, dzinali ndi losiyana: Kukambitsirana kwa Edgy, kumene "m'mphepete" ndi m'mphepete, malire, ndipo buku lokha ndilokambirana (zokambirana) ndi owerenga za momwe angakhalire ndi malire a zotheka ndikulimbana ndi zikhulupiriro zochepa. .
Koma mawuwa anazika mizu m’chinenerocho ndipo amakhala moyo wodziimira yekha, kutiuza mmene tiyenera kudzichitira tokha. Kupatula apo, kutembenuka kokhazikika sikuli koopsa: mawu ndi mawu omwe timagwiritsa ntchito nthawi zambiri amakhudza chidziwitso, chithunzi chamkati chamalingaliro okhudza ife eni, chifukwa chake, ubale wathu ndi ife eni komanso ndi ena.
Zikuwonekeratu kuti dzina lachi Russia logwira mtima linapangidwa kuti liwonjezere malonda, koma tsopano zilibe kanthu: lakhala mawu omwe amatilimbikitsa kuti tizidzichitira tokha ngati chinthu.
Popeza ndizomveka kuganiza kuti kamodzi tsiku lina, ndi khama, ndidzakhala "wodziwika bwino kwambiri wa ine ndekha", ndiye kuti ndili ndani pakalipano, kuphatikizapo moyo wanga wonse, ndi "buku" lomwe silikhala bwino. . Ndipo matembenuzidwe osapambana amayenera chiyani? Kubwezeretsanso ndi kutaya. Ndiye zimangotsala pang'ono kuyamba kuchotsa "zopambana" kapena "zopanda ungwiro" - kuchokera ku zolakwika za maonekedwe, kuchokera ku zizindikiro za msinkhu, kuchokera ku zikhulupiliro, kuchokera kukukhulupirira zizindikiro za thupi ndi malingaliro.
Pali lingaliro lophunzitsira lomwe muyenera kufunafuna zambiri kuchokera kwa mwana ndikumutamanda pang'ono.
Koma ngakhale zili choncho, anthu ambiri amasiya makhalidwe awoawo. Ndipo podziwa komwe angasunthire ndi zomwe angakwaniritse, samayang'ana mkati, koma kunja, pazidziwitso zakunja. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, amadziyang'ana okha kudzera m'maso a anthu otsutsa komanso olamulira kuyambira ali mwana.
Pali lingaliro la kuphunzitsa kuti zambiri ziyenera kufunidwa kwa mwana ndipo kutamandidwa kochepa kuyenera kuperekedwa. Kale chinali chotchuka kwambiri, ndipo ngakhale tsopano sichinatayike konse. "Mwana wa mnzanga akuthetsa kale mavuto a kusekondale!", "Ndiwe wamkulu kale, uyenera kusenda mbatata molondola!", "Ndipo ndine wamsinkhu wako .."
Ngati muubwana ena adapereka kuwunika kosakwanira kwa mawonekedwe athu, zomwe takwanitsa kuchita, luso lathu, zomwe timayang'ana kwambiri zimasunthira kunja. Chifukwa chake, achikulire ambiri akupitilizabe kuyang'ana kwambiri zomwe zimanenedwa ndi mafashoni, zowulutsidwa ndi atolankhani. Ndipo izi sizikugwira ntchito pa zovala ndi zodzikongoletsera zokha, komanso zikhulupiriro: ndani wogwira naye ntchito, komwe angapumule ... mokulira, momwe angakhalire.
Palibe wa ife amene ali wojambula, osati wojambula. Ife tiripo kale mu chidzalo cha umunthu wathu.
Zimakhala zododometsa: mumakhala m'mphepete mwa kuthekera kwanu, perekani zonse zomwe mungathe, koma palibe chisangalalo kuchokera pa izi. Ndikuwona kuchokera kwa makasitomala: amatsitsa zomwe akwaniritsa. Amapirira, amapanga china chake, amagonjetsa zovuta, ndipo ndikuwona kuchuluka kwa mphamvu, kukhazikika, luso lazinthu izi. Koma ndizovuta kwa iwo kuti agwirizane ndi kupambana kwawo, kunena kuti: inde, ndinachita, ndili ndi chinachake choti ndilemekeze. Ndipo zikuwonekeratu kuti kukhalapo komwe kumasandulika kukhala njira yogonjetsa: munthu amayesetsa kupyola malire a zotheka - koma kulibe m'moyo wake.
Mwina simukuyenera kukhala odziwika bwino? Palibe wa ife amene ali wojambula, osati wojambula. Tilipo kale mu chidzalo cha umunthu wathu: timapuma ndi kuganiza, timaseka, timamva chisoni, timalankhula ndi ena, timazindikira chilengedwe. Tikhoza kukulitsa ndi kukwaniritsa zambiri. Koma osati chofunika. Ndithudi pali wina amene amapeza ndalama zambiri kapena kuyenda, kuvina bwino, kudumpha mozama. Koma palibe amene angakhale ndi moyo wabwino kuposa ife.