Zamkatimu
Nthawi zina muubwenzi ndikofunikira kunena mawu pa nthawi yake, nthawi zina kukhala chete kumakhala golide. Koma pali malingaliro osayankhulidwa omwe amabwera m'maganizo mwathu mobwerezabwereza. Ndipo apa amatha kusokoneza ubale wawo mosazindikira. Ndi chiyani chomwe chili chabwino kuti musamaganizire panthawi yogonana?
1. "N'chiyani chinatichitikira ife?"
Kapena monga chonchi - "Kodi chinachitika ndi chiyani ku chikondi chathu?"
Panali nthawi zomwe simumatha kulankhula mokwanira komanso osagawanitsa manja anu. Momwe mungawabwezere? Sizingatheke. Kuti zachilendo ndi changu mu ubale, amene anali pachiyambi, ndi tsiku lililonse latsopano adzakhala m'malo ndi zatsopano zomverera. Padzakhala zovuta zatsopano ndi zosangalatsa zatsopano.
Ndikofunika kuyamikira zakale ndikumvetsetsa kuti palibe amene adzabwererenso kumeneko. Psychotherapist, katswiri wa chithandizo chachisudzulo Abby Rodman akulangiza - yang'anani zam'mbuyo kuchokera pamalingaliro oyenera: ndikumwetulira, koma osati ndi misozi.
Ingovomerezani kuti palibe chisoni m'mawu akuti "Chikondi chathu sichiri chomwe chinali pachiyambi." Ndi zoona—chikondi chanu chimakula ndikusintha ndi inu.
Abby Rodman anati: “Nthawi zina ndimayang’ana m’mbuyo, kenako ndimauza mwamuna kapena mkazi wanga kuti: “Kodi ukukumbukira mmene tinalili poyamba? .."
Akumwetulira n’kunena kuti, “Inde. Zimezo zinali bwino kwambiri". Koma samandiuza konse, "Bwanji sitichitanso izi?" Kapena: “… Inde, ndikukumbukira. Chinachitika nchiyani kwa ife ndi chikondi chathu?
Ndipo m'malingaliro anga, iyi ndiye yankho labwino kwambiri.
2. "Ndikudabwa kuti N ali pabedi?"
Kulingalira koteroko, pamene mnzanu wosayembekezeka wagona pafupi, akhoza kusokoneza ubwenzi mofulumira kwambiri kuposa china chirichonse, akutero katswiri wamaganizo Kurt Smith. Iye amalangiza amuna, choncho uphungu wake umagwira ntchito makamaka kwa iwo. “Sili kutali ndi ganizo ndi kuchita monga momwe mukuganizira,” iye akufotokoza motero.
3. "Akadakhala ngati N"
Zodabwitsa ndizakuti, akatswiri azamisala m'banja amaona malingaliro oterowo kukhala osalakwa. Chifukwa nthawi zambiri amawonetsa zisudzo ndi anthu ena otchuka, kusweka kwanu kwamunthu watsopano, kapena kuphwanya akale a kusekondale.
Musalole kuti maloto anu akufikitseni patali. Kupatula apo, zitha kuwoneka kuti zomwe zimawasangalatsa zilinso mwa mnzanu - mwina pang'ono, koma zonse zili m'manja mwanu!
4. "Nthawi zonse amakhala wofulumira"
Mutha kugwira ntchito ndi kusagwirizana mumayendedwe anu ogonana, kugonana nthawi zambiri ndiye nsanja yabwino kwambiri yoyesera. Koma grouchiness ndi, ngati inu kuitana zokumbira zokumbira, kutopa sayenera kuloledwa osati pakhomo la chipinda chogona, koma ambiri m'nyumba mwanu.
5. “Sindiyankha; Musiyeni avutike"
Koma si chilungamo! Munakhudzidwa, kufunafuna chiyanjanitso, musasunthike ndipo musatuluke pakukumbatirana. Munamwetulira - kumwetuliranso. Muyenera kuyanjanitsa mwachangu kwambiri.
Kulanga ndi kuletsedwa kugonana, chakudya kapena kumwetulira sikovuta. Pali nzeru zambiri m’mawu a m’Baibulo akuti, ‘Dzuwa lisalowe muli mkwiyo.
6. "Sandikondanso"
Ngati mumaganizira nthawi zambiri, mutha kuyamba kukayikira chikondi chodzipereka kwambiri. Pali kaso njira. Osafunsa mnzanuyo kuti: "Ndiuze, umandikonda?" Kuthetsa kukambirana foni ndi «Ndimakukondani» kapena basi kumpsompsona iye tsanzikana.