Psychology

Chikumbumtima chimapangidwa mwa kuphunzitsa. M’banja lirilonse, makolo amapanga chikumbumtima mwa mwana mwa kupereka mphotho ndi kulanga mwanayo chifukwa cha zochita zake. Makolo aliwonse amachita nawo maphunziro otere, ngakhale iwowo sadziwa.

Chikumbumtima m'lingaliro wamba ndi kudzitsutsa ndi kudzilanga chifukwa chochita "zoipa", "zoipa". Kuti tichite zimenezi, tiyenera kusiyanitsa «zabwino» ndi «zoipa».

Kusiyanitsa pakati pa zabwino ndi zoipa kumayikidwa muubwana mu njira yophunzitsira banal: chifukwa "zabwino" amatamanda ndi kupereka maswiti, chifukwa "zoipa" amamenya. (Ndikofunikira kuti mizati YOLIMBIRI ikhale pambali pamlingo wa zomverera, apo ayi zotsatira za maphunziro sizingagwire ntchito).

Panthawi imodzimodziyo, samangopereka maswiti ndi kumenya. Koma iwo anafotokoza:

  1. chinali chiyani - "choyipa" kapena "chabwino";
  2. chifukwa chake zinali "zoyipa" kapena "zabwino";
  3. ndi momwe, ndi mawu abwino, aulemu, anthu abwino amachitcha icho;
  4. ndipo abwino ndi amene sadakwapulidwa; oipa - amene amamenyedwa.

Ndiye chirichonse chiri molingana ndi Pavlov-Lorentz. Popeza, panthawi imodzimodziyo ndi maswiti kapena lamba, mwanayo amawona maonekedwe a nkhope, amamva mawu ndi mawu enieni, kuphatikizapo zokumana nazo zokhutitsidwa m'maganizo (lingaliro limadutsa mofulumira), kuphatikizapo malingaliro a ana ambiri kuchokera kwa makolo - patapita nthawi zochepa (khumi) timakhala bwino. zochita zogwirizana. Maonekedwe a nkhope ndi mawu a makolo akuyamba kusintha, ndipo mwanayo "wamvetsa kale" zomwe anachita "zabwino" kapena "zoipa". Ndipo anayamba kusangalala pasadakhale kapena - zomwe ziri zosangalatsa kwa ife tsopano - kumva lousy. Tsindikani ndi kuchita mantha. Ndiko kuti, "kudutsa" ndi "kuzindikira." Ndipo ngati simukumvetsa ndi zizindikiro zoyamba, iwo adzanena kwa iye mawu olimbikitsa: "kuipidwa", "umbombo", "mantha" kapena "olemekezeka", "munthu weniweni", "mfumukazi" - kotero kuti zibwere. Mofulumirirako. Mwanayo amakhala wophunzira.

Tiyeni tipitirire. Moyo wa mwanayo umapitirira, ndondomeko ya maphunziro ikupitirira. (Maphunziro akupitilira, tiyeni titchule mayina awo). Popeza kuti cholinga cha maphunziro n’chakuti munthu adzitsekereza malire, adziletse kuchita zinthu zosafunika ndi kudzikakamiza kuchita zimene zili zofunika, tsopano kholo loyenerera limatamanda​— “zabwino” — kaamba ka chenicheni chakuti mwanayo “anazindikira chimene iye anachichita. adachita zoipa” ndipo adadzilanga yekha chifukwa cha izi - chifukwa cha zomwe akukumana nazo. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono, iwo omwe "akudziwa", "avomereza", "olapa" amalangidwa pang'ono. Apa iye anathyola vase, koma sanabise, sanatayire pa mphaka, koma - ndithudi «wolakwa» - YEKHA YEKHA anabwera, ANAVOMEREZA kuti anali WOCHIMWA NDI WOKONZEKERA CHILANGO.

Voila: mwanayo amapeza PHINDU zodziimba mlandu. Iyi ndi imodzi mwa njira zake zamatsenga zozemba chilango, kuchifewetsa. Nthawi zina ngakhale kusandutsa zolakwa kukhala ulemu. Ndipo, ngati mukukumbukira kuti chinthu chofunika kwambiri cha munthu ndi kusintha, ndiye zonse zimveka bwino. Nthawi zambiri munthu paubwana amayenera kulanda anthu owonjezera chifukwa cha "chikumbumtima" ndikuchepetsa chiwerengero chawo chifukwa cha "chikumbumtima", m'pamenenso zochitika zoterezi zimasindikizidwa pamlingo wa reflex. Nangula, ngati mungathe.

Kupitilizako kumamvekanso: nthawi iliyonse munthu (woyamba kale), akuwona, akumva, akuganiza kuti akuwopsyeza (chilango choyenera kapena china chake chomwe chimaperekedwa ngati chilango - panali ndipo pali anzake ambiri achifwamba ndi ankhondo kwa oterowo. zidule), akuyamba KULAPA ku - AP! - kuthawa anthu, kufewetsa tsogolo, osati kuligwira mokwanira. Ndipo mosemphanitsa. Ngati munthu moona mtima sakuwona chiwopsezo, ndiye "palibe chotere", "zonse zili bwino". Ndipo chikumbumtima chimagona ndi loto lokoma la mwana.

Mfundo imodzi yokha yatsalira: chifukwa chiyani munthu amayang'ana zifukwa pamaso pake? Zonse ndi zophweka. Iye akuwafunafuna osati pamaso pake. Amabwereza zolankhula zake zodzitchinjiriza kwa iwo (nthawi zina ongopeka kwambiri) omwe akuganiza kuti tsiku lina adzabwera kudzafunsa zoyipa. Akudzilowetsa m’malo mwa udindo wa woweruza ndi wakupha. Amayesa mikangano yake, amayang'ana zifukwa zabwino. Koma izi sizithandiza. Ndipotu, iye (kumeneko, mu kuya kwachidziwitso) amakumbukira kuti iwo omwe amadzilungamitsa okha (kutsutsa, onyoza!) Amalandiranso chifukwa cha «chikumbumtima», ndi omwe amalapa moona mtima - kudzikonda kwa «chikumbumtima». Choncho, iwo amene ayamba kudzilungamitsa okha pamaso pawo sadzalungamitsidwa mpaka mapeto. Sakuyang'ana "choonadi". A - kutetezedwa ku chilango. Ndipo amadziwa kuyambira ali mwana kuti amatamanda ndi kulanga osati chifukwa cha choonadi, koma chifukwa cha - KUMVERA. Kuti iwo omwe (ngati) amvetse, sadzayang'ana "zolondola", koma "zozindikirika". Osati "kupitiriza kudzitsekera okha", koma "kudzipereka mwaufulu m'manja." Womvera, wokhoza, wokonzeka "mgwirizano".

Kudzilungamitsa ku chikumbumtima chanu n’kopanda ntchito. Chikumbumtima chimachoka pamene kupanda chilango (ngakhale kukuwoneka) kumabwera. Osachepera ngati chiyembekezo kuti "ngati sipanakhalepo kanthu mpaka pano, ndiye kuti sipadzakhalanso."

Chidule cha Timur Gagin:

  1. Chikumbumtima ndiye chinsinsi komanso chimodzi mwazinthu zolemekezeka kwambiri pakuwongolera khalidwe la munthu.
  2. Ngati mukufuna kuti mwana wanu akhale ndi chikumbumtima, muyenera kupanga chimodzi. Kodi. kulimbitsa thupi.
  3. Njira yopangira, njira yopangira chikumbumtima ndiyo kuphunzitsa. Ndipo sizikuwoneka kuti pali wina.

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