Zamkatimu
Pa zaka 30
Léa, 34, amayi a Anna, 5, ndi Elie, 3.
“Tinalemba zinthu zonse zimene tinkafuna kuchita tisanakhale makolo. “
Ndili mu chiŵerengero cha Chifalansa, ndinali ndi mwana wanga wamkazi ku 28 ndipo mwana wanga wamwamuna ali ndi zaka 30. Nthawi zonse ndinkafuna ana, koma panalibe funso loti ndiwapange ndi wobwera woyamba, ndinkafuna bambo wamkulu. “Chitsanzo”cho chikapezeka, tinagwirizana kuti sitikufuna kuchita zinthu mopanda malire, tinkafuna kuti tizichitira limodzi zinthu tisanayambe banja. Tinalemba mndandanda wa zinthu zonse zomwe tinkafuna kuchita tisanakhale makolo: kupita ku Opera, New York, Maldives… Nditaimitsa mapiritsi, sindinadandaule. Ndili ndi zaka 28, ndikadali wamng'ono kukhala mayi, ndinali woyamba mwa atsikana onse. Kwa ine, kunali kofunika kuti ana anga asachedwe, chifukwa amayi anga anali nane zaka 36 ndipo, ndili mwana, nthawi zina zinkandivutitsa. Mimba yanga yoyamba inayenda bwino kwambiri, ndinali nditatha mwezi. Koma pamene mwana wanga wamkazi anabadwa, ndimakumbukira kuti ndinathedwa nzeru. Ndi mwayi bwanji kukhala m'chipinda cha amayi oyembekezera kwa masiku asanu, zomwe mzamba amandigoneka ... Ndikanakhala ndi mwanayu ndili ndi zaka 25, ndikanapanda kukhwima kuti ndithane ndi tsunami yokhudzidwayi. Kenako mwana wanga anabadwa patapita zaka ziwiri. Kwa ana anga awiri, ndinasiya miyezi isanu ndi inayi iliyonse ndipo ndikudziwa kuti zandilepheretsa ntchito yanga. Sitingakhale ndi zonse. Kukhala ndi ana anga kunali chinthu chofunika kwambiri panthawiyi ndipo sindinong'oneza bondo, koma masamba awiri a makolo m'zaka ziwiri si abwino kwa chitukuko cha akatswiri.
Lero ndasiyana ndi abambo. Ndikuganiza kuti njira yachiwiri inali yovuta kwa iye kuposa ine. Komabe, ndine wokondwa kwambiri kukhala ndi ana anga aŵiri, ndi amene amandichititsa kufuna kudzuka m’maŵa uliwonse. Ukakhala wekha, zinthu zofunika kwambiri zimasintha. Tsopano ndimangoganizira za ntchito yanga. ”
Lingaliro la shrink
Anthu nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti zaka zawo XNUMX ndi nthawi yabwino kwambiri yokhala ndi ana. Kunena zoona, mwa odwala anga, chodabwitsa, ndikuwona kuti pali mafunso ambiri ndi nkhawa pa nthawi ino ya moyo. Pa zaka 30, mimba nthawi zambiri imakhala chifukwa cha kukonzekera, monga momwe Léa amatiuzira. Anatenga nthawi, kudikirira kuti apeze kholo labwino, adapezerapo mwayi ndi mwamuna wake. Amakumbukira kuti anali ndi nkhawa chifukwa cha msinkhu wa amayi ake. Palibe chomwe chimachitika mwachisawawa, nthawi zonse pamakhala chinthu chosazindikira chomwe chimakwera, kaya ndi msinkhu kapena kusankha kwa mnzanu. Atsikana achichepere masiku ano amapangidwa mwangwiro ndipo kubweza pang'ono kumakhala kovuta kwambiri. Amafuna kuti apambane mu ntchito yawo, apeze bambo oyenera, ali mu chipwirikiti, ophwanyidwa mbali zonse ndi gulu lomwe likuwafuna kwambiri. Mpikisano umenewu ukhoza kubweretsa mavuto, makamaka kwa okwatirana. Léa amayambitsanso vuto lochita bwino mwaukadaulo mukakhala ndi makanda apafupi. Iye akulondola. Ndi nkhanza kudziŵa kuti pa msinkhu umene munthu angayambe kuonedwa mozama, kapena kuti ntchito yake ingayambike, kukwerako kumaimitsidwa mosapeŵeka ndi umayi. M’maiko ena sizili choncho.