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Mawu okhazikika, achipongwe amapangitsa mawu kukhala osasangalatsa komanso osasangalatsa. Koma, choyipa kwambiri, nthawi zina timawona ma clichés ngati nzeru ndikuyesera kusintha machitidwe athu ndi kawonedwe ka dziko kwa iwo. Zowona, masitampu alinso ndi njere ya chowonadi - koma njere yotani. Ndiye chifukwa chiyani timawafuna komanso momwe tingawabwezeretse?
Zisindikizo zazika mizu m’chinenerocho ndendende chifukwa chakuti poyamba zinali ndi njere za choonadi. Koma adabwerezedwa nthawi zambiri komanso nthawi zambiri kuti chowonadi "chachotsedwa", mawu okhawo adatsalira omwe palibe amene adawaganizira. Kotero zikuwoneka kuti sitampu ili ngati mbale yomwe gramu ya mchere inawonjezeredwa, koma sichinakhale mchere chifukwa cha izi. Masitampu ali kutali ndi chowonadi, ndipo akagwiritsidwa ntchito mosalingalira, amasokoneza malingaliro ndi kuwononga zokambirana zilizonse.
masitampu "olimbikitsa" omwe amayambitsa kuledzera
Anthu ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito masitampu kuti asangalale, amawakonzera tsiku latsopano, ndikuwalimbikitsa kuti akwaniritse. Zina mwazodziwika kwambiri ndi mawu otsatirawa.
1. “Khalani mbali ya chinthu chachikulu”
N’chifukwa chiyani timafunikira mawu olimbikitsa oterowo, kodi amatithandizadi kukwaniritsa chinachake? Masiku ano, mawu otopa amakhala ndi gawo lalikulu la intaneti ndikukhala mawu otsatsa, chifukwa chake munthu sayenera kupeputsa kudalira kwa anthu pazilimbikitso zamtunduwu. Makanema akanema, osindikizira, ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti amayang'ana kwambiri kutumikira omwe amati ndi anthu ochita bwino m'tsogolo komanso kukhulupirira kuti zinthu zikuyenda bwino nthawi yomweyo.
2. “Khalani wotsimikiza, limbikirani ntchito, ndipo zonse ziyenda bwino”
Nthawi zina zimawoneka kuti mawu olimbikitsa, malangizo ndi omwe timafunikira. Koma chosowa choterocho chikhoza kugwirizanitsidwa ndi kudzikayikira komanso kusakhwima kwa chidziwitso, ndi chikhumbo chopeza zonse mwakamodzi ndikupindula nthawi yomweyo. Ambiri aife timafuna kuti wina atiuze momwe tingachitire komanso zoyenera kuchita. Ndiye timakhala ndi chikhulupiriro kuti mawa tidzachita zodabwitsa ndikusintha miyoyo yathu.
Kalanga, izi kawirikawiri sizichitika.
3. "Munthu amangotuluka m'malo otonthoza - ndiyeno ..."
N’zosatheka kunena mosapita m’mbali zimene zili zoyenera kwa inu, zimene “zikugwirirani ntchito” ndi zomwe sizikukuchitirani. Mumadziwa bwino kuposa aliyense nthawi yoti muchoke panjira yowongoka, nthawi yosintha moyo wanu, komanso nthawi yoti mugone ndikudikirira. Vuto la masitampu ndikuti ndi la aliyense, koma simuli a aliyense.
Chifukwa chake ndi nthawi yoti muthetse chizolowezi chatsiku ndi tsiku cha mawu olimbikitsa. M'malo mwake, werengani mabuku abwino ndikutenga zolinga zanu mozama.
Masitampu "olimbikitsa" omwe amatisokeretsa
Kumbukirani: masitampu ena samapindula kokha, komanso amavulaza, kukukakamizani kuyesetsa zomwe sizingatheke kapena zosafunikira kuti mukwaniritse.
1. “Samalirani zanuzanu ndipo osasamala zomwe ena amaganiza”
Mutha kupeza kusiyanasiyana kwa mawu awa, odzazidwa bwino ndi kudzidalira kodzionetsera. Nthawi zambiri kwa iwo omwe amagwiritsa ntchito mawuwa, amakhala ongoyerekeza. Poyang'ana koyamba, mawuwa ndi abwino, okhutiritsa: kudziyimira pawokha ndi koyenera kuyamikiridwa. Koma mukayang'anitsitsa, mavuto ena amawonekera.
Zoona zake n’zakuti munthu amene amanyalanyaza maganizo a ena n’kunena izi poyera amangofuna kuonedwa kuti ndi wodziimira paokha komanso wodziimira payekha. Aliyense amene anganene zimenezi amatsutsana ndi chibadwa chawo kapena amangonama. Anthufe timatha kukhala ndi moyo ndikukula mkati mwa gulu lokonzekera bwino. Tiyenera kuganizira zimene ena amaganiza, chifukwa timadalira pa ubale wathu.
Kuyambira pakubadwa, timadalira chisamaliro ndi kumvetsetsa zomwe akuluakulu amatipatsa. Timalankhula zokhumba zathu ndi zosowa zathu, timafunikira kuyanjana ndi kuyanjana, chikondi, ubwenzi, chithandizo. Ngakhale kudzikonda kwathu kumadalira chilengedwe. Chifaniziro chathu cha ife eni chimabadwa kupyolera mu gulu, dera, banja.
2. “Mutha kukhala amene mukufuna. Mutha kuchita zonse”
Osati kwenikweni. Mosiyana ndi zomwe timamva kuchokera kwa mafani a sitampu iyi, palibe amene angakhale aliyense, kukwaniritsa chilichonse chomwe akufuna, kapena kuchita chilichonse chomwe akufuna. Mawuwa akadakhala oona, tikadakhala ndi luso lopanda malire komanso opanda malire. Koma izi sizingakhale: popanda malire ena ndi gulu la makhalidwe, palibe umunthu.
Chifukwa cha majini, chilengedwe ndi kakulidwe, timakhala ndi zochitika zina zomwe sizodziwika kwa ife tokha. Tikhoza kukula “mkati” mwa iwo, koma sitingathe kuwapitirira. Palibe amene angakhale wothamanga wothamanga kwambiri komanso wankhonya wolemera kwambiri panthawi imodzi. Aliyense akhoza kulota kukhala purezidenti, koma ochepa amakhala atsogoleri a mayiko. Choncho, ndi bwino kuphunzira kufuna zotheka ndi kuyesetsa kukwaniritsa zolinga zenizeni.
3. “Ngati khama lathu lithandiza kupulumutsa mwana mmodzi, n’zothandiza”
Poyamba, mawu awa akuwoneka ngati aumunthu. Zoonadi, moyo uliwonse ndi wamtengo wapatali, koma zenizeni zimapanga kusintha kwake: ngakhale chikhumbo chothandizira sichidziwa malire, chuma chathu chilibe malire. Tikamayika ndalama mu projekiti imodzi, ena "amatsika".
4. "Zonse zili bwino zomwe zimatha bwino"
Gawo la umunthu wathu ndi lomwe limayang'anira za pano ndi pano, komanso gawo la kukumbukira, kukonza ndi kudzikundikira zokumana nazo. Kwa gawo lachiwiri, zotsatira zake ndi zofunika kwambiri kuposa nthawi yomwe yagwiritsidwa ntchito. Chotero, chokumana nacho chowawa chautali chimene chinathera m’chisangalalo chiri “chabwino” kwa ife kuposa chochitika chachifupi choŵaŵa chimene chinatha moipa.
Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo, zochitika zambiri zomwe zimatha bwino, kwenikweni, sizikhala ndi zabwino zonse mwazokha. Mbali yathu yomwe imayang'anira kukumbukira sikumaganizira nthawi yomwe yatayika mosayembekezereka. Timakumbukira zabwino zokha, koma panthawiyi zoyipa zidatenga zaka zomwe sizingabwezedwe. Nthawi yathu ndi yochepa.
Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna wina anatumikira zaka 30 pa mlandu umene sanapalamula, ndipo atatuluka m’ndende, analandira chipukuta misozi. Zinaoneka ngati mapeto osangalatsa a nkhani yosasangalatsa. Koma zaka 30 zatha, simungathe kuzipezanso.
Choncho, chimene chili chabwino kuyambira pachiyambi ndi chabwino, ndipo mapeto osangalatsa sangatipatse chimwemwe nthawi zonse. M'malo mwake, nthawi zina zomwe zimatha moyipa zimabweretsa chokumana nacho chamtengo wapatali kotero kuti chimawonedwa ngati chabwino.
Mawu oti asiye kubwereza kwa ana
Makolo ambiri amakumbukira mawu omwe anauzidwa ali ana omwe amadana nawo koma amapitiriza kubwereza akakula. Ma clichés awa ndi okhumudwitsa, osokoneza, kapena amamveka ngati dongosolo. Koma, tikakhala otopa, okwiya kapena odzimva kuti alibe mphamvu, mawu oloweza pamtima ndi oyamba kubwera m’maganizo: “Chifukwa ndinanena (a)!”, “Ngati bwenzi lanu lilumpha kuchokera pansanjika yachisanu ndi chinayi, kodi inunso mungalumphe?” ndi ena ambiri.
Yesetsani kusiya mawuwo - mwina izi zidzakuthandizani kuti muyanjane ndi mwanayo.
1. “Tsiku lanu linali bwanji?”
Mukufuna kudziwa zomwe mwanayo anali kuchita nthawi yonse yomwe mudachoka chifukwa mukumudera nkhawa. Makolo amafunsa funsoli nthawi zambiri, koma kawirikawiri salandira yankho lomveka kwa ilo.
Katswiri wa zamaganizo Wendy Mogel akukumbukira kuti mwanayo anali atakumana kale ndi tsiku lovuta asanabwere kunyumba, ndipo tsopano ayenera kuwerengera zonse zomwe anachita. “Mwina pachitika mavuto ambiri, ndipo mwanayo safuna kuwakumbukira n’komwe. Mayeso a sukulu, mikangano ndi abwenzi, zigawenga pabwalo - zonsezi ndi zotopetsa. “Kupereka lipoti” kwa makolo za mmene tsikulo layendera kungaonedwe ngati ntchito ina.
Mmalo mwakuti “Tsiku lanu linali bwanji”? kuti, “Ine ndimangoganiza za inu pamene…”
Mawu oterowo, oddly mokwanira, adzakhala othandiza kwambiri, angathandize kuyambitsa kukambirana ndi kuphunzira zambiri. Mumawonetsa zomwe mumaganiza za mwanayo pamene palibe, pangani malo abwino ndikukupatsani mwayi wogawana nawo chinthu chofunika kwambiri.
2. “Sindinakwiye, ndangokhumudwa basi”
Ngati makolo anu anakuuzani zimenezi ali mwana (ngakhale akulankhula mwabata ndi modekha), inuyo mumadziŵa kuti n’zoipa bwanji kumva zimenezi. Kuonjezera apo, pali mkwiyo wochuluka wobisika m'mawuwa kusiyana ndi kulira kwakukulu. Kuopa kukhumudwitsa makolo anu kungakhale mtolo wolemetsa.
M’malo mwakuti “Sindinakwiye, ndimangokhumudwa,” nenani kuti, “Zimakhala zovuta kwa ine ndi inu, koma tonse tingathe kutero.
Ndi mawu awa, mumasonyeza kuti mukumvetsa chifukwa chake mwanayo anasankha molakwika, mumamumvera chisoni, mumadandaula za iye, koma mukufuna kudziwa zonse ndi iye. Mawu oterowo adzathandiza mwanayo kutseguka, popanda kuopa kuti ali ndi mlandu pa chirichonse.
Mumamupatsa ndondomeko yabwino yochitira zinthu limodzi, kumukumbutsa kuti ndinu gulu, osati woweruza komanso wotsutsa. Mumafunafuna njira yothetsera vutoli, osazengereza vutolo, mukumira muudani ndi ululu, zomwe sizingapindule inu kapena mwanayo.
3. “Mpaka mutadya chilichonse, simuchoka patebulopo!”
Malingaliro olakwika a makolo pazakudya amatha kubweretsa zovuta zamitundu yonse mwa ana akuluakulu: kunenepa kwambiri, bulimia, anorexia. Khalidwe labwino la kudya kwa ana ndi ntchito yovuta kwa makolo. Iwo, mosadziwa, amapatsa mwanayo malangizo olakwika: amafuna kuti amalize chirichonse pa mbale, kudya chiwerengero cha ma calories, kutafuna chakudya ka 21, m'malo molola mwanayo kuti adzimvere yekha ndi thupi lake.
M'malo mwake: "Mpaka mutadya chilichonse, simudzachoka patebulo!" nenani kuti: “Kodi mwakhuta? Mukufuna zambiri?”
Perekani mwayi kwa mwana wanu kuti aphunzire kulabadira zosowa zawo. Kenako, akadzakula, sadzadya mopambanitsa kapena kufa ndi njala, chifukwa adzazoloŵera kumvetsera ndi kulamulira thupi lake.
4. “Ndalama sizimera m’mitengo”
Ana ambiri nthawi zonse amapempha chinachake: Lego yatsopano, pie, foni yamakono. Ndi mawu amtundu, mumatsekereza njira yokambirana, kudzimana mwayi wolankhula za momwe ndalama zimapezera, momwe mungasungire, chifukwa chake ziyenera kuchitidwa.
M’malo mwakuti “Ndalama sizimera m’mitengo,” nenani kuti, “Bzalani mbewu, zisamalireni, ndipo mudzakolola zochuluka.”
Mkhalidwe wokonda ndalama umakulira m’banja. Ana amakuwonani mukugwiritsa ntchito ndalama ndikutengerani pambuyo panu. Longosolani kuti ngati mwanayo akukana donati tsopano, akhoza kuika ndalamazi m’nkhokwe ya nkhumba ndi kusunga njinga.
5. “Chabwino! Ntchito yabwino! ”
Zingawonekere, cholakwika ndi chiyani ndi kutamandidwa? Ndipo mfundo yakuti mawu oterowo akhoza kupanga mwa mwana kumverera kuti ali wabwino pokhapokha atapambana, ndikuyika mwa iye mantha a kutsutsidwa kulikonse, chifukwa ngati mukutsutsidwa, ndiye kuti sakukondani.
Panthawi imodzimodziyo, makolo amatha kugwiritsa ntchito chitamando choterechi molakwika, ndipo ana nthawi zambiri amasiya kumvetsera, akumaona ngati mawu wamba.
M’malo mwakuti: “Mwachita bwino! Ntchito yabwino! ” ingosonyezani kuti ndinu okondwa.
Nthawi zina chisangalalo chenicheni popanda mawu: kumwetulira mosangalala, kukumbatirana kumatanthauza zambiri. Katswiri wodziwa za kakulidwe ka maganizo Kent Hoffman ananena kuti ana amatha kuwerenga bwino mmene thupi limaonekera komanso mmene nkhope zimaonekera. Hoffman ananena kuti: “Mawu obwerezabwereza satanthauza kusiririka kwenikweni, ndipo ana amafunikira kutero. Choncho gwiritsani ntchito mawu osonyeza kusirira, kunyada, ndi chimwemwe, ndipo mulole mwanayo agwirizane ndi mmene mukumvera, osati mmene zinthu zilili.
Mosakayikira, nthawi zina clichés ndi clichés zimathandiza: mwachitsanzo, tikakhala ndi nkhawa, sitidziwa momwe tingapititsire lipoti kapena kuyambitsa kukambirana. Koma kumbukirani: nthawi zonse ndi bwino kulankhula, ngati si bwino, koma kuchokera pansi pamtima. Awa ndi mawu omwe angakhudze iwo akumvera inu.
Osadalira mawu ovala bwino - dziganizireni nokha, yang'anani kudzoza ndi zolimbikitsa m'mabuku, zolemba zothandiza, upangiri wochokera kwa akatswiri odziwa zambiri, osati mawu wamba ndi mawu opanda kanthu.