Homoparentity: adayitana mayi woberekera

Alban ndi Stéphan monga okwatirana kwa zaka zambiri sankaganiza kuti alibe mwana. Pamene akuyandikira zaka makumi anayi, akufuna kuyambitsa banja, "kupereka chikondi ndi makhalidwe". Ndipo atsimikiza kunyoza lamuloli popeza siliwapatsa ufulu wokhala makolo. "Kutengera ana, tidaganiza za izi, koma ndizovuta kwambiri kwa banja, kotero kwa munthu m'modzi", akunong'oneza bondo Stéphan. “Pakadakhala kuti anthu afunsana, kutanthauza kunama. Sindikuwona momwe tikanabisira kuti tili pachibwenzi ”.

Njira inanso, kulera limodzi, koma kachiwiri, misampha ya dongosolo lino ndi yambiri. Pomaliza, banjali likuganiza zogwiritsa ntchito mayi woberekera. Mothandizidwa ndi okondedwa awo, amawulukira ku United States. Dziko lokhalo lomwe lili ndi India ndi Russia lomwe silimasungira amayi oberekera kwa nzika zake. Atafika ku Minneapolis, amapeza momwe msika wamayi woberekera umapangidwira ndikuyang'aniridwa. Iwo akulimbikitsidwa kuti: “Pamene kuli kwakuti m’maiko ena mikhalidwe ili m’malire kwambiri pankhani ya makhalidwe, ku United States, malamulo ndi okhazikika ndipo ofuna kusankhidwa ndi ambiri. Ndi mbali ya miyambo,” akutero Stéphan.

Kusankha kwa mayi woberekera

Kenako awiriwa amalemba fayilo ku bungwe lina lapadera. Ndiye mwamsanga kukumana ndi banja. Ndi chikondi poyang'ana koyamba. “Zinali ndendende zimene tinali kuyang’ana. Anthu oganiza bwino omwe ali ndi vuto, ana. Mayiyo sankachita zimenezi chifukwa cha ndalama. Iye ankafuna kuthandiza anthu. Chilichonse chimayenda mwachangu kwambiri, mgwirizano wasainidwa. Alban adzakhala bambo wobereka ndipo Stéphan adzakhala bambo wovomerezeka. “Zinkaoneka ngati kuvomerezana kwabwino kwa ife, kuti mwana ameneyu anali ndi choloŵa chamtundu wa wina ndi dzina la winayo. Koma zonse zangoyamba kumene. Stéphan ndi Alban tsopano ayenera kusankha opereka mazira. Ku United States, mayi woberekera si amene amapereka mazira ake. Malinga ndi iwo, iyi ndi njira yopewera kugwirizana komwe mkazi angakhale ndi mwana ameneyu, yemwe si wake. ” Tinasankha munthu wathanzi labwino yemwe anali atapereka kale mazira awo », akufotokoza Stéphan. "Pomaliza, tidayang'ana chithunzicho ndipo ndi zoona kuti panali wina yemwe amafanana ndi Alban, ndiye kuti chisankho chathu chidagwera pa iye." Protocol yachipatala ikuyenda bwino. Mélissa amatenga pakati pa kuyesa koyamba. Stéphan ndi Alban ali kumwamba. Chokhumba chawo chachikulu chidzakwaniritsidwa.

Mantha aakulu pa ultrasound yoyamba

Koma pa ultrasound yoyamba, ndi mantha aakulu. Tsamba lakuda likuwonekera pazenera. Dokotala amawauza kuti pali chiopsezo cha 80% kuti apite padera. Stéphan ndi Alban anakhumudwa kwambiri. Atabwerera ku France, iwo anayamba kulira mwana ameneyu. Kenako, patatha sabata imodzi, adatumiza imelo: "Mwana ali bwino, zonse zili bwino. ”

Yambani mpikisano wothamanga kwambiri. Pakati pa maulendo obwerera ku United States, kusinthanitsa kwa imelo tsiku ndi tsiku, abambo amtsogolo amatenga nawo mbali pa mimba ya mayi woberekera. “Tidadzijambulira tikunena nthano. Mélissa anaika chisoti pamimba pake kuti mwana wathu amve mawu athu. ", Confides Stéphan.

Kubadwa kwangwiro

Tsiku lobadwa likuyandikira. Nthawi ikafika, anyamatawo safuna kupita kuchipinda choperekerako koma amadikirira mopanda chipiriro kuseri kwa chitseko. Bianca anabadwa pa November 11. Msonkhano woyamba ndi wamatsenga. ” Pamene iye anayang'ana maso ake mu maso anga, kukhudzidwa kwakukulu kunandigwira ine ", Stéphan akukumbukira. Zaka ziwiri zakudikirira, masewerawa anali oyenera kandulo. Atatero amakhala ndi mwana wawo. Ali ndi chipinda chawo m'chipinda cha amayi oyembekezera ndipo amasamalira ana monga amayi. Mapepala amachitidwa mwamsanga.

Satifiketi yobadwa imaperekedwa molingana ndi malamulo aku Minnesota. Zikunenedwa kuti Mélissa ndi Stéphan ndi makolo. Nthawi zambiri, mwana akabadwa kunja, ayenera kulengezedwa ku kazembe wa dziko anachokera. Koma akaona mwamuna akubwera yemwe wabereka mwana ndi mkazi wina, nthawi zambiri mlanduwo umaletsedwa.

Kubwerera ku France

Banja latsopanoli limachoka ku United States, patatha masiku khumi kuchokera pamene Bianca anabadwa. Pobwerera, anyamatawo akunjenjemera pamene akuyandikira miyambo. Koma zonse zikuyenda bwino. Bianca amapeza nyumba yake, moyo wake watsopano. Ndipo dziko la France? M'miyezi yomwe amatsatira abambo amachulukitsa masitepe, amasewera maubwenzi awo ndipo mwamwayi amapeza. Koma iwo akudziwa bwino za kukhala osiyana. Monga mwana wawo wamkazi posachedwa akukondwerera tsiku lake lobadwa, Alban ndi Stéphan akusangalala ndi udindo wawo watsopano monga bambo. Aliyense wapeza malo ake m'banja losiyana ili. ” Tikudziwa kuti mwana wathu wamkazi ayenera kumenyana m'bwalo lamasewera. Koma anthu akusintha, malingaliro akusintha, ”anavomereza Stéphan, ali ndi chiyembekezo.

Ponena za ukwati wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, womwe lamulo latsopano lidzavomereza, okwatiranawo akufuna kupita pamaso pa meya. “Kodi tilidi ndi chosankha? », Anaumirira Stéphan. ” Palibenso njira ina yotetezera mwana wathu mwalamulo. Ngati mawa chinachake chidzandichitikira, Alban ayenera kukhala ndi ufulu wosamalira mwana wake. “

Siyani Mumakonda