Zamkatimu
- Kodi mumatani mwana wanu akanena kuti ndi wonenepa? Ali ndi zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri, ndi wamtali ndithu ndi mtsikana wamphamvu, ndi wothamanga. Ndipo amakana kuvala jekete yoziziritsa komanso yodula yomwe ndidagula chifukwa akuganiza kuti imamupangitsa kunenepa kwambiri. Nanga anatulukira kuti zimenezi?”
- “Tsopano ndinafunika kudya zakudya kuti ndichepetse thupi. Mwana wanga wamkazi amawonera mwachidwi pamene ndikuwerengera zopatsa mphamvu ndikuyeza magawo. Kodi ndikupereka chitsanzo choipa kwa iye?
- “Mwana wanga wamkazi ali ndi zaka 16 ndipo wonenepa pang’ono. Sindikufuna kumufotokozera izi mochulukira, koma nthawi zonse amathiranso chakudya tikakhala ndi chakudya chamadzulo, nthawi zambiri amaba makeke m'kabati, ndi zokhwasula-khwasula pakati pa chakudya. Kodi mungamuuze bwanji kuti adye pang'ono popanda kuchita zambiri?
- “Mwana wamkazi ali ndi zaka 13 ndipo anasiya kusewera basketball. Akuti wachita bwino ndipo sakufuna kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Koma ndikudziwa kuti amangochita manyazi kuvala kabudula waufupi, monga mwachizolowezi kumeneko. Momwe mungathetsere vutoli?"
- Amayi amakonda kudziyerekeza ndi ine komanso mlongo wanga. Nthawi zina amandipatsa zinthu zimene amati sangakwanitse, ndipo nthawi zonse zimakhala zazing’ono kwambiri kwa ine. Sindingafune kuchita zomwezo kwa mwana wanga wamkazi wazaka 14. "
Kodi tikupusitsa chikhumbo cha mwana wathu wamkazi kuti achepetse thupi / kudya sipaghetti ina? Kodi timawerengera mozama ma calories muzakudya zathu? Taganizirani izi: ndi lingaliro lanji la thupi lomwe timasiya ngati cholowa kwa mwana? Blogger Dara Chadwick amayankha mafunso awa ndi zina zambiri kuchokera kwa owerenga Psychologies.
“Chinthu chabwino kwambiri chimene mayi angachite ndicho kuyamba ndi thupi lake,” akutero wolemba mabuku Dara Chadwick. Mu 2007, adapambana mpikisano pakati pa olemba mabulogu omwe amasunga zolemba zochepetsera thupi patsamba la magazini otchuka a US Fitness. Pamene Dara adataya thupi, nkhawa imakula mwa iye: kodi kutanganidwa kwambiri ndi kilogalamu ndi zopatsa mphamvu zidzakhudza bwanji mwana wake wamkazi? Kenako anaganiziranso mfundo yakuti vuto limene anali nalo ndi kunenepa kwake linasokonekera chifukwa cha ubwenzi wake ndi thupi la mayi ake omwe. Chifukwa cha malingaliro awa, adalemba buku lake.
Tinapempha Dara Chadwick kuti ayankhe mafunso otchuka kwambiri kuchokera kwa owerenga Psychologies.
Kodi mumatani mwana wanu akanena kuti ndi wonenepa? Ali ndi zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri, ndi wamtali ndithu ndi mtsikana wamphamvu, ndi wothamanga. Ndipo amakana kuvala jekete yoziziritsa komanso yodula yomwe ndidagula chifukwa akuganiza kuti imamupangitsa kunenepa kwambiri. Nanga anatulukira kuti zimenezi?”
Ndimakonda kudzudzula zovala zoipa chifukwa chowoneka zoipa osati thupi langa. Kotero ngati mwana wanu wamkazi amadana ndi jekete yapansi iyi, bwererani nayo kusitolo. Koma muloleni mwana wanu wamkazi adziwe: mukubwezera jekete chifukwa sakumasuka mmenemo, osati chifukwa "zimamupangitsa kunenepa." Ponena za malingaliro ake odzidzudzula, akanatha kuchokera kulikonse. Yesani kufunsa mwachindunji: "N'chifukwa chiyani mukuganiza choncho?" Ngati atsegula, udzakhala mwayi kwambiri kulankhula za «zolondola» akalumikidzidwa ndi makulidwe, za maganizo osiyanasiyana za kukongola ndi thanzi.
Kumbukirani kuti atsikana omwe ali m'zaka zawo zachinyamata ali ndi mwayi wodzidzudzula ndi kudzikana okha, ndipo osanena zomwe mukuganiza mwachindunji.
“Tsopano ndinafunika kudya zakudya kuti ndichepetse thupi. Mwana wanga wamkazi amawonera mwachidwi pamene ndikuwerengera zopatsa mphamvu ndikuyeza magawo. Kodi ndikupereka chitsanzo choipa kwa iye?
Nditawonda kwa chaka chimodzi, ndinauza mwana wanga wamkazi kuti ndikufuna kukhala wathanzi, osati wowonda. Ndipo tidakambirana za kufunika kodya bwino, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi komanso kuthana ndi nkhawa. Samalani momwe mwana wanu wamkazi amawonera kupita kwanu patsogolo ndi zakudya zatsopano. Lankhulani zambiri zakumverera bwino kusiyana ndi mapaundi angati omwe mwataya. Ndipo kawirikawiri, yesani kulankhula za inu nokha bwino nthawi zonse. Ngati tsiku lina simusangalala ndi maonekedwe anu, muziika maganizo anu pa mbali imene mumakonda. Ndipo mwana wamkazi amve kuyamika kwako kwa iye yekha. Ngakhale yosavuta "Ndimakonda kwambiri mtundu wa bulawuzi" ndi yabwino kuposa "Ugh, ndikuwoneka wonenepa kwambiri lero."
Chofunika si zimene mumanena, koma zimene mumachita. Osalankhula naye za kunenepa kwambiri komanso zopatsa mphamvu. Ngati ali wonenepa, ndikhulupirireni, akudziwa kale. Kodi ali ndi moyo wokangalika? Mwina amangofunika mphamvu zowonjezera, kuwonjezeredwa. Kapena akukumana ndi zovuta kusukulu, muubwenzi ndi abwenzi, ndipo chakudya chimamukhazika mtima pansi. Ngati mukufuna kusintha kadyedwe kake, fotokozani kufunika kodya bwino. Nenani kuti mwatsimikiza mtima kupanga chakudya cha banja lonse kukhala cholinganizika bwino, ndipo m’pempheni kuti akuthandizeni kukhitchini. Lankhulani zimene zikuchitika pa moyo wake. Ndipo perekani chitsanzo kwa iye, sonyezani kuti inuyo mumakonda zakudya zathanzi ndipo musadye pakati pa nthawi.
“Mwana wamkazi ali ndi zaka 13 ndipo anasiya kusewera basketball. Akuti wachita bwino ndipo sakufuna kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Koma ndikudziwa kuti amangochita manyazi kuvala kabudula waufupi, monga mwachizolowezi kumeneko. Momwe mungathetsere vutoli?"
Choyamba, mufunseni ngati angakonde kuchita masewera ena. Atsikana nthawi zambiri amadzichitira manyazi paunyamata, izi ndi zachilendo. Koma mwina adangotopa ndi mpira wa basketball. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri chomwe mayi aliyense ayenera kukumbukira ndicho kupewa kutsutsidwa kulikonse ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo yesetsani kulimbikitsa ana kukonda moyo wokangalika, kusonyeza kuti kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi si zolemba ndi kupambana, koma chisangalalo chachikulu. Ngati masewera salinso osangalatsa, ndi nthawi yoti muyese zina.
Amayi amakonda kudziyerekeza ndi ine komanso mlongo wanga. Nthawi zina amandipatsa zinthu zimene amati sangakwanitse, ndipo nthawi zonse zimakhala zazing’ono kwambiri kwa ine. Sindingafune kuchita zomwezo kwa mwana wanga wamkazi wazaka 14. "
Atsikana ambiri omwe amawona kuti mawonekedwe awo sangathe kupikisana ndi miyendo yayitali / chiuno chopyapyala cha amayi awo, amatengera ndemanga zawo zilizonse ngati zowatsutsa. Ndipo mosemphanitsa. Pali amayi amene amachita nsanje yoopsa akamva mawu oyamikira akuperekedwa kwa ana awo aakazi. Ganizilani zimene mukunena. Kumbukirani kuti atsikana omwe ali ndi mwayi wodzidzudzula ndi kudzikana okha, osanena zomwe mukuganiza, ngakhale atakufunsani maganizo anu. Kulibwino mumvetsere mosamala kwambiri, ndipo mumvetsetsa mtundu wa yankho lomwe akufunikira.