Zamkatimu
Kawirikawiri oimira kugonana mwamphamvu amayesetsa kuti asasonyeze chisoni chawo. Koma ngati mukuona kapena kuganiza kuti wokondedwa wanu ali wachisoni, mungamuthandize kulimbana ndi vutoli. Simukudziwa momwe mungasangalalire mwamuna? Tili ndi njira zingapo zosavuta komanso zothandiza.
Zitsanzo zokonzeka zolankhulirana
Mosakayikira, nkosavuta kuthandiza ngati muli pafupi. Koma muyenera kudziwa zinsinsi zingapo zamaganizidwe kuti musawononge chilichonse. Tikukuuzani momwe mungasangalalire mwamuna kukhala moyo. Njirazi zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito pazovuta komanso kupewa.
Tamandani
Ndikofunikira kwambiri kumva kuyamikira panthawi yomwe timasiya kudzikhulupirira tokha, ndipo zobisika zimayamba kutuluka. Koma musasokoneze kuyamikira kochokera pansi pa mtima ndi kusyasyalika. Muuzeni mnyamatayo kuchokera pansi pa mtima wanu momwe aliri wanzeru, wolimba mtima, wamphamvu, zomwe akutanthauza kwa inu. Tiyeni tipereke zitsanzo.
“Ndinu m’modzi mwa anthu anzeru kwambiri m’dera langa. Chifukwa chake ndimafunsira kwa inu nthawi zonse. Sindikudziwa kuti ndikanatani popanda iweyo.”
"Ndimasilira kuti mumakwaniritsa cholinga chanu nthawi zonse. Inu ndinu wondilimbikitsa. Ndikuphunzira kwa inu.”
“Ndiwe wolimba mtima komanso wosamala. Ndinkaganiza kuti kulibe. Kodi inu nokha mukuwona momwe pafupi ndi inu atsikana onse amawongola misana yawo ndikuwongolera tsitsi lawo?
“Ndiwe wanthabwala zedi! Mutha kundisangalatsa nthawi zonse - ndi zamtengo wapatali. Zikomo chifukwa chokhala nanu komanso kukhalapo. "
Ndemanga za psychologist:
Zitsanzo zabwino ndi njira zolondola. Monga akunena, mawu okoma mtima amakondweretsanso mphaka. Ndipo mwamuna, monga mphaka yemweyo, amakonda kusisita ubweya wake, kusisita kuseri kwa khutu ndi kuyamikiridwa. Mawu oterowo amalimbikitsa kudzidalira ndipo amalimbikitsa kudzidalira. Ndipo ndizosangalatsa kwambiri kuzimva kuchokera kwa mkazi kapena mtsikana wokondedwa.
Lankhulani ndi kuthandizira mwamakhalidwe
Choonadi chosavuta: mukalankhula, zikhala zosavuta. Ndizovuta ndi anyamata pankhaniyi, chifukwa amakonda kudzisungira okha. Koma yesani mwanzeru kuti mubwere naye pa zokambiranazo. Osafunsa mafunso mwachindunji. Osapereka malangizo pokhapokha atafunsidwa. Sonyezani kuti mumamvetsetsa ndikuthandizira. Tiyeni tipereke chitsanzo cha momwe tingamangire zokambirana.
Muli ndi vuto lero. Mwachionekere chinachake choipa chinachitika.
- Zonse zili bwino.
“Simukufuna kusonyeza, koma mukuda nkhawa mumtima mwanu.
- Pali msonkhano wofunikira mawa. Sizikuyenda bwino, abwana anakwiya lero.
“Ndithu, chikhalidwe chakechi chidaperekedwa kwa inu. Koma mwina palibe chifukwa chodera nkhawa, ndipo zonse zidzayenda bwino.
“Mwinamwake, mwina ayi.
- Kodi pali njira zina?
"Tiyenera kukonzekera bwino: ganizirani mayankho a mafunso omwe angakhalepo, pangani malingaliro osangalatsa kuti ntchito yathu igwire bwino ntchito.
– Ndilo lingaliro lalikulu! Izi ndi zomwe zimandisangalatsa nthawi zonse za inu: mumathetsa mavuto onse nthawi yomweyo, mumadziwa zoyenera kuchita. Kodi pali chilichonse chomwe ndingakuthandizireni?
Khofi ndi pizza zingandichitire zabwino, madzulo adzakhala atali.
- Kuchita!
Ndemanga za psychologist:
Katchulidwe ka mawu ndi njira yabwino ya psychotherapeutic. Koma zimakhala bwino ngati munthu akufuna kulankhula yekha. Zomwe amuna ndi akazi amachita pamavuto ndizosiyana. Mkazi mumkhalidwe wovuta akulimbikitsidwa kulankhula kapena kulira paphewa la mwamuna. Ndipo nthawi zina ndi bwino kuti musakhudze mwamuna, monga momwe amachitira yekha kuthetsa mavuto ake. Koma sizingakhale zosayenera kupereka chithandizo, ngakhale osachigwiritsa ntchito.
Kupatsirana ndi positivity
N’chifukwa chiyani anyamata okha ndi amene ayenera kusangalatsa atsikana? Nthawi zina muyenera kusintha malo. Kuvina, kuyimba nyimbo zoseketsa, kupusitsa mozungulira. Makamaka popeza anthu amalola akazi kuti aziwoneka mopusa pang'ono ndipo amawaona ngati okongola. Phatikizani munthuyo ndi chiyembekezo chanu ndi maganizo abwino. Nkhani yoseketsa ingakhalenso yabwino.
“Kodi sindinakuuzeni mmene ndinakhalira ndi mafunso a ntchito posachedwapa? Ndinayesedwa pa chotchinga chabodza. Anandifunsa kuti zikhala zingati kuchotsera zisanu, ndipo ndinayankha ziwiri. Koma chosangalatsa kwambiri: Ndinazinena ndi chidaliro kotero kuti chojambulira bodza sichinaganizepo zachinyengo.
Ndemanga za psychologist:
Amuna amakonda atsikana okondwa kuposa mafumu a Nesmiyan. Ndizosangalatsa kulankhulana ndi "zopepuka" zotere. Chifukwa zabwino zimawonongadi, ndipo kusasamala kwa wina kungakupangitseni kukhumudwa.
Chokani kwa iye
Tikukuuzani nthawi yoti mugwiritse ntchito njirayi. Choyamba, ngati munthuyo watopa ndipo akufuna kukhala chete. Kachiwiri, pamene njira zapita sizithandiza. Chachitatu, ngati mukudziwa bwino kuti simungathe kuthyola khoma ili lopanda phokoso. Ndiye aligorivimu zochita ndi yosavuta: kunyengerera katswiri wa zamaganizo akuthamangira kunja nokha, kusiya munthu kwa ola limodzi ndi ... kukonzekera chakudya chokoma. Mwina adzakhala machiritso a matenda.
Ndemanga za psychologist:
Ndendende! Ndikuwonjezera kuti nthawi zina mwamuna amafunikira kupitilira ola limodzi kukhala chete. Ngati n’kotheka, ndi bwino kupita kwinakwake kwa tsiku limodzi. Nthawi zina mwamuna amafunika kukhala yekha kuti atole maganizo ake. Timakonda kuti palibe amene amasokoneza izi. Kuyesetsa mosalekeza kumathandizira kungayambitse mkwiyo. Izi ziyenera kumveka, ndipo palibe amene angakhumudwe ndi munthu.
Zitsanzo zokonzeka zolankhulirana ndi makalata
Ngati simuli pafupi ndi munthu wachisoni, zilibe kanthu. Mukhozanso kuthandiza kutali. Ndibwino kuti njira zamakono zamakono zimakulolani kuti muzitha kulankhulana pamtunda uliwonse. Timauza limodzi ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo momwe tingasangalalire mnzanu wolembera.
Tumizani mawu amatsenga
Pali makanema ambiri oseketsa ndi zithunzi zoseketsa pa intaneti. Muyenera kusankha zomwe zimagwirizana ndi munthu wina pazochitika zinazake. Zosangalatsa zidzakuchitirani zina zonse. Ngati mnyamatayo ali kuntchito, ndi bwino kuti musatumize nthabwala zomwe zimakupangitsani kukwawa pansi pa tebulo. Mawu anzeru ndi abwino.
"Abwana ndi munthu yemweyo ndi ena onse, koma sakudziwa"
“Zimasangalatsa kwambiri anthu owola akasiya kukulankhulani. Zili ngati zinyalala zadzichotsa zokha.”
"Koposa zonse, anthu amakuipirani chifukwa chokhala ouma khosi komanso osafuna kuchita zomwe akuyembekezera."
Ndemanga za psychologist:
An aphorism kapena fanizo silingangokulitsa malingaliro ake, komanso limapangitsa kuti munthu asangalale. Mawuwa atanenedwa bwino pa nthawi yoyenera, amasintha kaganizidwe ndikupereka mpumulo. Zili ngati kuzindikira, kuzindikira. Mwa njira, chitsanzo chomaliza pafupifupi ndendende tanthauzo la mawu a psychotherapist wotchuka, woyambitsa Gestalt psychology, Frederick Perls. Adati: "Ife sitinabadwe kuti tizilungamitsa zomwe aliyense akuyembekezera.
Lembani kalata yogwira mtima
Mtundu wa epistolary ndi wachikondi kwambiri! Thandizani mnyamatayo ndi kalata yokhudza mtima. Lankhulani zakukhosi kwanu. Kukongola kwake ndikuti, mosiyana ndi kuyankhula pakamwa, muli ndi mwayi wopeza mawu okongola komanso olondola. Tipereka chitsanzo chaching'ono, koma simuyenera kudziletsa.
“Ndakhala ndikukuganizirani kuyambira m’mawa. Za momwe ndiliri ndi mwayi m'moyo kuti ndili ndi inu. Ndipo ine ndikufuna kuti ndikupatseni inu kumverera komweko. Dziwani kuti zivute zitani, ndinu abwino kwa ine. Ndipo ngakhale chilichonse chitakhala chotsutsana nanu, nthawi zonse ndimakhala kumbali yanu.
Ndemanga za psychologist:
Kuzindikira koteroko kumakondweretsa, kutonthoza, kumayambitsa kumverera kosangalatsa m'moyo.
Kwezani nyimbo
Kumene, ngati inu simuli mozungulira, inu simungakhoze thupi kuimba nyimbo pa foni yake kapena kompyuta. Koma mutha kutumiza zolemba zabwino kwa munthu pakhoma mu VK kapena mauthenga achinsinsi. Mwachitsanzo, nyimbo ya gulu mumaikonda, ngati mukudziwa za zokonda zake. Koma ndi bwino ngati nyimbo ndi mosangalala, osati melancholic. Nyimbo zina zatsopano zomwe sanamvebe zidzatulukanso. Mutha kuwonjezera uthenga. Mwachitsanzo:
"Ndinamva nyimbo iyi ndikuganiza za inu."
"Nyimbo izi nthawi zonse zimandithandiza kuthana ndi mavuto."
Kodi mwamvapo nyimbo yabwinoyi? Litembenuzireni pompano, ndi mofuula.”
Ndemanga za psychologist:
Nthawi zina nyimbo zimakhala zothandiza kwambiri kuposa mawu. Amawonetsa malingaliro ake. Kugwedezeka kwanyimbo kumakhudza chidziwitso komanso chikumbumtima.
Tumizani uthenga wamasewera kapena chithunzi
Chimodzi mwa makhalidwe abwino a akazi omwe amakhudza amuna ndi kugonana. Mutumizireni chithunzi chanu chokopa. Koma ichi si chinyengo choletsedwa, pokhapokha ngati muli paubwenzi ndi mnyamata. Ndipo ngati pakadali pano sali pamsonkhano wofunikira. Apo ayi, maganizo ake sangasinthe, koma maganizo ake ogwira ntchito adzazimiririka. Osatsimikiza za chilengedwe chake - kungokopana.
– Ndinalota za inu lero.
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"Sindikuuzani, apo ayi sizingachitike." Kuwonetsa bwino madzulo.
Ndemanga za psychologist:
Iyi ndi njira yothandiza kwambiri. Sichiyenera kukhala chithunzi chamaliseche. Ndikokwanira kutenga chithunzi kuchokera ku ngodya yatsopano: mwachitsanzo, ndi zodzikongoletsera zakupha, kapena mu skirt yaifupi ndi stilettos. Amuna amakonda zachilendo, ndipo chithunzi chokopa chimayambitsa kuchuluka kwa mahomoni. Maganizo amasintha nthawi yomweyo. Koma khalani okonzeka kuti mnyamatayo mwina akufuna kubwera kwa inu.