Momwe mungatulukire mu block block mutadutsa zaka 30

"Ndadzitaya ndekha," Ira adayamba nkhani yake ndi mawu awa. — Mfundo yake ndi yotani? Ntchito, banja, mwana? Zonse ndi zopanda pake. Kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi tsopano ndimadzuka m'mawa ndikumvetsetsa kuti sindikufuna kalikonse. Palibe kudzoza kapena chisangalalo. Zikuwoneka kwa ine kuti wina amakhala pakhosi ndikundiwongolera. Sindikudziwa chomwe ndikusowa. Mwana sakusangalala. Ndikufuna kusiya mwamuna wanga. sizili bwino. ”

Ira ali ndi zaka 33, ndi wokongoletsa. Wokongola, wanzeru, woonda. Ali ndi zambiri zoti azinyadira. Kwa zaka zitatu zapitazi, mosayembekezereka "adanyamuka" pachimake cha ntchito yake yolenga ndikugonjetsa Olympus. Ntchito zake zikufunika. Iye amagwirizana ndi mlengi wotchuka Moscow, amene anaphunzira. Masemina ophatikizana adachitikira ku America, Spain, Italy, Czech Republic ndi mayiko ena padziko lapansi. Dzina lake linayamba kumveka m'magulu a akatswiri. Panthawi imeneyo, Ira anali kale ndi banja ndi mwana. Ndichisangalalo, iye analoŵa m’maganizo, akumabwerera kunyumba kuti akagone.

ZOMWE ZACHITIKA

Mosayembekezereka, chifukwa cha ntchito yosangalatsa komanso kuzindikirika kwaukadaulo, Ira adayamba kudzimva wopanda pake komanso wopanda tanthauzo. Mwadzidzidzi adawona kuti mnzake Igor, yemwe adamupembedza, adawopa kupikisana ndipo adayamba kumukankhira pambali: sanamutengere ku mapulogalamu olowa nawo, adamupatula ku mpikisano, ndipo adanena zinthu zoyipa kumbuyo kwake.

Ira adatenga izi ngati kusakhulupirika kwenikweni. Anathera zaka zitatu ku ntchito yolenga ya bwenzi lake ndi umunthu wake, "kutha" mwa iye. Kodi zimenezi zingatheke bwanji?

Zinthu zinali zovuta chifukwa tsopano mwamuna wake anayamba kuoneka Ira wamba komanso wosavuta. Iye ankakonda kusangalala ndi chisamaliro chake. Mwamunayo adalipira maphunziro a Ira, adamuthandiza kuti adziwonetse yekha. Koma tsopano, motsutsana ndi maziko a mgwirizano wolenga, mwamunayo anayamba kuwoneka wotopetsa, kukambirana naye kunali koletsedwa, moyo ndi wosasangalatsa. Mikangano inayamba m'banja, kukambirana za kusudzulana, ndipo izi zinali pambuyo pa zaka 12 zaukwati.

Ira anavutika maganizo. Anasiya pulojekitiyi, anachepetsa zochita zake zachinsinsi, ndipo anabwerera m'mbuyo. Munthawi imeneyi, adadza kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo. Zachisoni, chete, zotseka. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, m'maso mwake, ndinawona kuya, njala yolenga komanso kulakalaka maubwenzi apamtima.

KUFUFUZA CHIFUKWA

M'kati mwa ntchito, tinapeza kuti Ira analibe ubwenzi ndi chikondi ndi bambo kapena mayi ake. Makolo sanamvetse ndipo sanamuthandize kulenga "antics" ake.

Bamboyo sanasonyeze kuti amamukonda mwana wawo wamkazi. Sanagwirizane ndi zikhumbo zake zaubwana: kukonzanso m'nyumba, kukongoletsa abwenzi ake ndi zodzoladzola, kuvala zovala za amayi ake ndi zisudzo zosayembekezereka.

Amayi analinso «youma». Anagwira ntchito kwambiri ndikudzudzula chifukwa cha "zopanda pake". Ndipo Ira wamng'ono adadzipatula kwa makolo ake. Ndi chiyani chinanso chimene chinamutsalira? Anatseka dziko lake lachibwana, lolenga ndi kiyi. Ndi yekha yekha, Ira akhoza kulenga, kujambula Albums ndi utoto, ndi msewu ndi makrayoni achikuda.

Kupanda kumvetsetsa ndi chithandizo kuchokera kwa makolo ake "anafesa" ku Ira kusowa chidaliro pa kuthekera kwake kupanga chinthu chatsopano.

MUZU WA VUTO

Chikhulupiriro mwa ife tokha monga munthu wapadera komanso wolenga chimabwera kwa ife chifukwa cha makolo athu. Ndiwo owerengera athu oyamba. Lingaliro lathu lapadera lathu komanso ufulu wopanga zimadalira momwe makolo amachitira ndi masitepe a ana athu oyamba mdziko lachidziwitso.

Ngati makolo avomereza ndi kuvomereza zoyesayesa zathu, ndiye kuti timapeza ufulu wokhala tokha ndi kudziwonetsera tokha mwanjira iliyonse. Ngati savomereza, n’kovuta kwa ife kudzilola kuchita chinthu chachilendo, ndipo makamaka kusonyeza kwa ena. Pankhaniyi, mwanayo salandira chitsimikizo kuti akhoza kudzizindikira mwa njira iliyonse. Ndi anthu angati aluso amalembabe "patebulo" kapena kujambula makoma a magalasi!

KUSINTHA KWA ZINTHU

Kusatsimikizika kwa Ira kunalipidwa ndi thandizo la mwamuna wake. Anamvetsetsa ndi kulemekeza chilengedwe chake cholenga. Kuthandizidwa ndi maphunziro, ndalama zoperekedwa kwa moyo wonse. mwakachetechete anamvetsera kulankhula za «mkulu», pozindikira kufunika kwa Ira. Iye anachita zimene zinali mu mphamvu yake. Iye ankakonda mkazi wake. Zinali chisamaliro chake ndi kuvomereza kumayambiriro kwa ubale umene "unapereka ziphuphu" Ira.

Koma m'moyo wa mtsikanayo adawoneka mnzake "wolenga". Anapeza chithandizo ku Igor, osazindikira kuti ndi chivundikiro chake amabwezera kusatetezeka kwake kulenga. Kuunika kwabwino kwa ntchito yake komanso kuzindikirika ndi anthu pantchitoyo zidapereka mphamvu.

Tsoka ilo, "kunyamuka" mwachangu sikunapatse Ira mwayi wolimbitsa mphamvu zake ndikupeza malo ake. Anakwaniritsa zolinga zake zonse pamodzi ndi bwenzi lake, ndipo atakwaniritsa zomwe ankafuna, adapezeka kuti ali mumkhalidwe wolenga.

“Ndikufuna chiyani tsopano? Kodi ndingathe kuchita ndekha?" Mafunso ngati amenewa ndi oona mtima kwa inu nokha, ndipo zingakhale zopweteka.

Ira adakakamiza zomwe zidachitika pakudzikayikira kopanga kukhala osazindikira. Izi zinadziwonetsera mu mkhalidwe wopanda chidwi ndi kutaya tanthauzo: m'moyo, m'ntchito, m'banja, ndipo ngakhale mwana. Inde, mosiyana sichingakhale tanthauzo la moyo. Koma ndi chiyani? Kodi mungachoke bwanji m'dziko lino?

FUFUZANI NJIRA YOCHOKERA MU VUTOLI

Takhazikitsa kukhudzana ndi gawo lachibwana la Ira, luso lake. Ira adamuwona "msungwana wolenga" wokhala ndi ma curls owala, atavala chovala chowala, chamitundumitundu. "Mukufuna chiyani?" anadzifunsa yekha. Ndipo pamaso pake diso lamkati linatsegula chithunzi choterocho kuyambira ali mwana.

Ira wayima pamwamba pa chigwa, kumbuyo komwe kunja kwa mzindawu ndi nyumba zapagulu zikuwonekera. "Zolinga" ndikuyang'ana nyumba yomwe amakonda. Cholinga chasankhidwa - tsopano ndi nthawi yoti mupite! Zosangalatsa kwambiri zimayamba. Ira akugonjetsa chigwa chakuya, kugwa ndi kugwa. Amakwera m’mwamba ndi kupitiriza njira yake kudutsa m’nyumba zosazoloŵereka, nkhokwe zosiyidwa, mipanda yosweka. Kubangula kosayembekezeka kwa galu, kulira kwa khwangwala ndi maonekedwe achidwi a alendo amam’sangalatsa ndi kumpatsa lingaliro la ulendo. Panthawiyi, Ira amamva zing'onozing'ono zozungulira ndi selo iliyonse. Zonse ndi zamoyo ndi zenizeni. Kukhalapo kwathunthu pano ndi pano.

Koma Ira amakumbukira cholingacho. Kusangalala ndi ndondomekoyi, amawopa, amasangalala, amalira, amaseka, koma akupitirizabe kupita patsogolo. Ichi ndi ulendo weniweni kwa msungwana wa zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri - kuti apambane mayesero onse ndikukwaniritsa cholinga payekha.

Cholinga chikafika, Ira amadzimva wamphamvu kwambiri ndikuthamangira kwawo ndi mphamvu zake zonse ndi chigonjetso. Tsopano akufunadi kupita kumeneko! Amamvetsera mwakachetechete zotonzo za mawondo akuda ndi kusakhalapo kwa maola atatu. Zimakhala chiyani ngati akwaniritsa cholinga chake? Atadzazidwa, kusunga chinsinsi, Ira amapita ku chipinda chake "kulenga". Zojambula, ziboliboli, kupanga zovala za zidole.

Zokhumba zenizeni za mwana wathu wamkati ndizo gwero la kulenga ndi kudzizindikira. Zochitika zaubwana za Ira zidamupatsa mphamvu zopanga. Zimangokhala kupereka malo kwa mwana wamkati akakula.

GWIRITSANI NTCHITO NDI SUBCONSCIOUSNESS

Nthawi zonse ndimadabwa momwe molongosoka athu amagwirira ntchito, kupereka zithunzi ndi mafanizo ofunikira. Ngati mupeza kiyi yoyenera, mutha kupeza mayankho a mafunso onse.

Pankhani ya Ira, adawonetsa gwero la kudzoza kwake kulenga - cholinga chosankhidwa bwino komanso ulendo wodziimira kuti akwaniritse, ndiyeno chisangalalo chobwerera kwawo.

Chirichonse chinagwera mmalo mwake. Chiyambi cha kulenga cha Ira ndi "wojambula wothamanga". Fanizoli lidabwera bwino, ndipo chikomokere cha Ira adachigwira nthawi yomweyo. M’maso mwake munali misozi. Ndinaona bwino pamaso panga kamtsikana kakang'ono, kotsimikiza ndi maso oyaka.

TULUKA PA VUTO

Monga ali mwana, lero ndikofunika kuti Ira asankhe cholinga, kuthana ndi zopinga payekha ndikubwerera kunyumba ndi chigonjetso kuti apitirize kulenga. Mwanjira imeneyi Ira amakhala wamphamvu ndikudziwonetsera kwathunthu.

Ndicho chifukwa chake ntchito yofulumira mu mgwirizano sinakhutiritse Ira: analibe ufulu wodzilamulira ndi kusankha kwa cholinga chake.

Kuzindikira za kulenga kwake kunathandiza Ira kuyamikiridwa ndi mwamuna wake. Zakhala zofunikira nthawi zonse kuti apange ndikubwerera kwawo, komwe amakonda ndikudikirira. Tsopano adazindikira mtundu wanji wam'mbuyo ndikuthandizira mwamuna wake wokondedwa kwa iye, ndipo adapeza njira zambiri zopangira maubwenzi ndi iye.

Kuti mulumikizane ndi gawo lopanga, tidalemba njira zotsatirazi za Ira.

MFUNDO ZOCHOKERA MU VUTO LA ZOLENGEDWA

1. Werengani buku la Julia Cameron The Artist's Way.

2. Khalani ndi "tsiku lopanga nokha" sabata iliyonse. Nokha, pitani kulikonse komwe mukufuna: paki, cafe, bwalo lamasewera.

3. Samalirani mwana wolenga mkati mwanu. Mvetserani ndi kukwaniritsa zofuna zake za kulenga ndi zokhumba zake. Mwachitsanzo, dzigulireni hoop ndi nsalu malinga ndi momwe mukumvera.

4. Kamodzi pamwezi ndi theka kuwuluka kupita kudziko lina, ngakhale kwa tsiku limodzi lokha. Yendani m'misewu ya mzindawo nokha. Ngati izi sizingatheke, sinthani chilengedwe.

5. M’maŵa, dzineneni nokha: “Ndimadzimva ndekha ndi kusonyeza mphamvu zanga za kulenga m’njira yangwiro kwambiri! Ndine waluso ndipo ndikudziwa momwe ndingasonyezere! ”…

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Ira "anasonkhanitsa" yekha, anapeza matanthauzo atsopano, anapulumutsa banja lake ndi kukhazikitsa zolinga zatsopano. Panopa akuchita ntchito yake ndipo ndi wosangalala.

Vuto la kulenga ndilofunika kukwaniritsa matanthauzo atsopano a dongosolo lapamwamba. Ichi ndi chizindikiro chosiya zakale, pezani magwero atsopano olimbikitsira ndikudziwonetsera nokha. Bwanji? Kudzidalira nokha ndikutsatira zofuna zanu zenizeni. Ndi njira yokhayo yomwe tingadziwire zomwe tingathe.