Tonsefe timadziwa kuti anthu omwe ali ndi thanzi labwino m'maganizo ndi ndani. Iwo samavutika ndi kuvutika maganizo ndi nkhawa, samapambana ndipo samaphwanya ena, amakhala okondwa, okhutira ndi moyo wawo. Koma amachita bwanji zimenezi? Ndipo mungatani kuti mubwezeretse thanzi lanu?
Zosiyana za anthu wathanzi m'maganizo
1. Amatha kulingalira mfundo ziwiri zotsutsana
Ndani ali wolondola: ine kapena iwe? Ndi wabwino kapena woipa? Kodi mudakonda filimuyi - inde kapena ayi? Kodi ndinu waluso kapena wosadziwa? Ubongo wathu umafuna kuyika chilichonse pamashelefu, kugawa zochitika, zochitika ndi anthu otizungulira m'magulu osiyanasiyana. Izi zimawonekera pankhani ya momwe timadziganizira tokha komanso ubwana wathu komanso momwe timaweruzira anthu otizungulira.
Sizokhudza kutha kuona, kuwonjezera pa zakuda ndi zoyera, komanso mithunzi ya imvi. Munthu amene ali ndi thanzi labwino m’maganizo angauze wotsutsa pa mkangano kuti: “Tonse tiri olondola, ndipo tonse tiri olakwa.” Atha kuvomereza muzochitika zilizonse kuti "izi nzodabwitsa komanso zoyipa", kapena "munthu uyu akufuna zabwino, koma zitha kuvulaza", kapena "Ndimakukondani ndipo ndimadana nanu nthawi yomweyo", kapena "makolo anga adandipatsa. zambiri, koma panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, ndinachitiridwa nkhanza.” Ndipo zonsezi zidzakhala zoona.
Zotsutsana sizosagwirizana monga momwe anthu ambiri amaganizira. Ndipo amene angaganizire nthawi imodzi mfundo ziwiri zotsutsana amatha kudziyang'ana yekha, ena ndi zochitika zilizonse kusiyana ndi amene amagawanitsa zonse kukhala zakuda ndi zoyera.
2. Amadziwa kulamulira maganizo panthawi yolankhulana.
Kuwongolera maganizo ndi chinthu chimodzi, kulankhulana ndi chinthu china. Maluso onsewa ndi ovuta kuwadziwa. Kukhoza kulamulira mkwiyo ndi ululu kuti mufotokoze modekha kwa wina momwe mukumvera, kulamulira mkwiyo ndikutha kufotokoza vutolo kotero kuti interlocutor amvetse. Zonsezi zikusonyeza thanzi la maganizo.
3. Amadzidziwa bwino
Kodi mukumvetsa chifukwa chimene mumamvera? Mukudziwa momwe mukumvera komanso chifukwa chiyani? Kodi mphamvu zanu ndi zofooka ziti? Matalente anu ndi otani? Kodi mumakonda chiyani? Mukufuna chiyani ndipo simukufuna chiyani? Tikamadzidziŵa bwino, m’pamenenso timatha kupilila mavuto, m’pamenenso timatha kudzikhululukila zolakwa zathu ndi kupanga zosankha zabwino.
4. Amakhala omasuka kukhala iwo eni.
Anthu otere amatha kukhala okha komanso kukhala osangalala. Kodi mumamasuka nokha, popanda zosangalatsa? Kodi mumatha kukhala pakali pano popanda kuda nkhawa ndi zakale, zam'tsogolo, komanso osaganizira za chinthu china kapena munthu wina? Kodi mungangomva, kuvomereza malingaliro anu ndikuyesera kuwamvetsetsa?
5. Amalolera kuchitapo kanthu.
Kutuluka m'malo otonthoza kumafuna mphamvu ndi kulimba mtima. Kodi mwakonzeka kuchita zinthu zoopsa? Kodi mudzatha kulimbana ndi zotsatira za kulephera kwanu nokha? Kodi mumadzidziwa bwino kuti mutha kusankha chomwe chili choyenera kuchita ngozi? Kodi mungadzikhululukire nokha ngati mwalephera? Ndi munthu wamphamvu yekha amene amatha kudziyika pangozi, ndipo ngati atalephera, kulimbana ndi zotsatira zake ndikupita patsogolo.
Kodi kukhala ndi thanzi la maganizo?
Kodi mudawerenga malongosoledwe a mikhalidweyo ndipo pafupifupi simunakumanepo ndi machesi? Osadandaula: anthu ochepa ali nazo zonse. Koma osachepera kuyesera kukhala nawo kale zothandiza. Nawa maupangiri amomwe mungachitire izi.
1. Osayesa kwambiri kukhala olondola.
Mwa kusiya nthawi zonse kudzitsimikizira kuti ndinu olondola, mudzatha kuyang'ana zinthu m'njira yatsopano ndikuwona chithunzi chachikulu, ndipo ichi ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri la nzeru. Mudzasiya kugawa zonse kukhala zakuda ndi zoyera, ndipo izi zidzakulolani kuti muyang'ane nokha ndi ena mosiyana. Kutha kuwona zotsutsana kudzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa malingaliro anu, omwe nthawi zambiri amatsutsana wina ndi mnzake, ndikumvetsetsa bwino ena.
2. Phunzirani kuchita zinthu mwanzeru
Kulingalira ndikutha kukhala mokwanira pakadali pano, kutembenuza chidwi chanu chonse mkati, pazomwe mukuchita ndi zomwe mukumva. Luso limeneli ndi lofunika kwambiri kuti mumvetsetse ndikuvomera nokha. Kuonjezera apo, chizoloŵezi cha kulingalira kumabweretsa phindu lalikulu la thanzi la maganizo ndi thupi, zomwe zimatsimikiziridwa ndi kafukufuku.
3. Yesani kuyang'ana kulephera mosiyana
Kulephera ndi chizindikiro cha kulimba mtima. Ngati munalephera, ndiye kuti munadziika pachiwopsezo ndikutuluka m'malo anu otonthoza. Kulephera, kusamalidwa bwino, kungatiphunzitse zambiri. Pamene mudziwa ndikudzivomereza bwino, ndikukulitsa kulingalira ndi chifundo poyankhulana, mudzakhala okonzeka kutenga zoopsa zanzeru ndikuphunzira maphunziro ofunikira kuchokera ku zotsatira zake. M'kupita kwa nthawi, izi zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi chidziwitso ndikuchita bwino zomwe simukanazilota.
Za Katswiri: Jonis Webb ndi katswiri wazamisala.